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 Posted: Fri Mar 14, 2014 11:45 am
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Posted: Fri Mar 14, 2014 5:03 pm
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Posted: Fri Mar 14, 2014 5:21 pm
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Posted: Fri Mar 14, 2014 6:00 pm
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Posted: Fri Mar 14, 2014 6:32 pm
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Posted: Fri Mar 14, 2014 7:39 pm
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Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2014 4:54 pm
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Posted: Sun May 11, 2014 1:25 pm
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Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2014 5:36 pm
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So, a few of you here know Nick and I had planned to "come out" to our father on Father's Day.
It went about as well as can be expected. At least it went better than my worst-case scenario, so that's a plus.
Grandpa came along to back us up. After dinner was done, Nick and I summoned up our courage and let them know we've been together for well over a year now.
My mother started screaming at me, calling me a whore and other choice names. My father yelled at her to shut up and when I told him to just let her yell herself hoarse, he backhanded me across the face.
In the ensuing tussle, Grandpa ended up hospitalized (with just a sprained ankle, but the doctors wanted to keep him under observation), my father has a broken nose and split lip, Nick is relatively unscathed, and we've both been disowned by the man who had the bad sense to hide his children from each other instead of let us grow up together.
Yesterday I took out a restraining order against both of them, since my mother was threatening to kill us both for being "filthy sinners" (among other choice names).
I'm sad... but I feel so free, now.
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Posted: Wed Jun 18, 2014 2:38 pm
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Posted: Wed Jun 18, 2014 5:16 pm
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Nikia Hi, I am new here in your thread. I read maybe three or so post that explained some details towards this most recent update that you posted. Your story is sad. All that you shared here is utterly sad. You should not remain sad if you feel so free now. I want to debate/discuss this all with you...If you are willing, let's dance. If you are not willing; you are straight, disregard this and I will respect your wishes! Why are you being more than siblings with Nick*?
Oh, there is so much more reading there for you, then...
I'm sad because in spite of everything they're still my parents.Nothing's going to change that fact, but therapy is helping me cope with it... I'm seeing her (therapist) this week, so there's a whole new bunch of things to work out.
The why is very simple. We fell in love.
Aside from the whole "why does anyone ever fall in love with anyone else" thing, Nick and I didn't grow up together. He was a stranger who happened to be related to me, then he was a friend, then... you know, as much as I could lay the blame on alcohol for the first time we had sex, the truth is I always found him desirable as a man. All the booze did was allow both of us to say "Ah, what the hell, who's going to know?"
Yeeeeeah... that escalated quickly. |
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Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2014 7:29 pm
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La Belle Gigi Nikia Hi, I am new here in your thread. I read maybe three or so post that explained some details towards this most recent update that you posted. Your story is sad. All that you shared here is utterly sad. You should not remain sad if you feel so free now. I want to debate/discuss this all with you...If you are willing, let's dance. If you are not willing; you are straight, disregard this and I will respect your wishes! Why are you being more than siblings with Nick*? Oh, there is so much more reading there for you, then... I'm sad because in spite of everything they're still my parents.Nothing's going to change that fact, but therapy is helping me cope with it... I'm seeing her (therapist) this week, so there's a whole new bunch of things to work out. The why is very simple. We fell in love. {}
Hey there, ah I see, I apologize sweatdrop for missing out on the additional reading... arrow
Your father's DNA is moving through the body of the man you find desirable. This DNA is what also runs inside of you. Have you wondered passed the sex to the idea of a child being brought into existence with the same chromosomes? Are you looking to start a family ?
Falling in love is not like being of love. What do you feel/think about this statement?
This will work out and it's brilliant that you have the courage to make it so! How many sessions are there? |
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Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2014 8:14 pm
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Nikia Hey there, ah I see, I apologize sweatdrop for missing out on the additional reading... arrow Your father's DNA is moving through the body of the man you find desirable. This DNA is what also runs inside of you. Have you wondered passed the sex to the idea of a child being brought into existence with the same chromosomes? Are you looking to start a family ? Falling in love is not like being of love. What do you feel/think about this statement? This will work out and it's brilliant that you have the courage to make it so! How many sessions are there?
Oh, we don't plan on having biological children. Mainly because I think pregnancy is gross, diapers are beyond disgusting, and I don't like babies much. Someone else can have them. I will foster or adopt. Yes, he is aware of this.
Falling in love and loving, those are two entirely different things. We're pretty much past the infatuation stage, maybe because we became friends first.
The five stages of love:
1. Flaws? What flaws? My sweetie is PERFECT.
2. Aw, look at how cute my sweetie's flaws are!
3. Their flaws are a pain in the butt...
4. OK, so they have flaws... so do I. I can live with them, they can live with mine, and we're happy.
5. Flaws? What flaws? My sweetie is PERFECT.
Breakups usually happen at stages 2 and 3. If you can make it to stage 4, you;re probably good for another 20 years or so. After that, stage 5 will probably kick in.
Sessions... oh, my therapy? It's an ongoing thing. I'm doing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Basically, I'm learning the mechanisms to cope with all the stuff going on with my life instead of going nuts or falling into some addiction or other. |
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Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2014 8:31 pm
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La Belle Gigi Nikia Hey there, ah I see, I apologize sweatdrop for missing out on the additional reading... arrow Your father's DNA is moving through the body of the man you find desirable. This DNA is what also runs inside of you. Have you wondered passed the sex to the idea of a child being brought into existence with the same chromosomes? Are you looking to start a family ? Falling in love is not like being of love. What do you feel/think about this statement? This will work out and it's brilliant that you have the courage to make it so! How many sessions are there?
Oh, we don't plan on having biological children. Mainly because I think pregnancy is gross, diapers are beyond disgusting, and I don't like babies much. Someone else can have them. I will foster or adopt. Yes, he is aware of this.
Falling in love and loving, those are two entirely different things. We're pretty much past the infatuation stage, maybe because we became friends first.
The five stages of love:
1. Flaws? What flaws? My sweetie is PERFECT.
2. Aw, look at how cute my sweetie's flaws are!
3. Their flaws are a pain in the butt...
4. OK, so they have flaws... so do I. I can live with them, they can live with mine, and we're happy.
5. Flaws? What flaws? My sweetie is PERFECT.
Breakups usually happen at stages 2 and 3. If you can make it to stage 4, you;re probably good for another 20 years or so. After that, stage 5 will probably kick in.
Sessions... oh, my therapy? It's an ongoing thing. I'm doing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Basically, I'm learning the mechanisms to cope with all the stuff going on with my life instead of going nuts or falling into some addiction or other.
Hi! I don't think pregnancy is gross, it's cute that you do. Overall, why don't you like babies? Diapers serve a purpose for both the young and the old; without it, talk about what a scary chore that would be! Have you ever planted/tend to a garden(flower/vegetable/fruit)?
You have an interesting view on the stages of love surprised . Around the timing of stage 3 through 4, I think of the notion of tolerating the bad & the ugly. If you start to tolerate a flaw to the point of not addressing it in a civil and just way...what happens? Would you still move on to stage 5 or would one go through the stages 2 through 4 again or would there be a need to add a stage of communicating the compromise of the flaw(s) so both can thrive as a couple ?!
Cognitive Behavior Therapy sounds involved heart And I am glad to hear you are aware of why you attend these meetings (esp. with no time limit).
xd What is up with the title of this thread? I must admit, I was drawn to this thread because of it. However, Unicorns don't exist --now--...and there is no proof/evidence of the color of Unicorn feces ALSO colorful is not usually how sadness is described. So do tell what inspired you. . .? |
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