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 Posted: Sat Mar 19, 2011 11:51 pm
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Posted: Sat Mar 19, 2011 11:57 pm
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Posted: Sun Mar 20, 2011 6:05 pm
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Yes, like you guys, I DEFINITELY don't want to be in a relationship with someone who isn't honest with me. If I'm doing something wrong, I want to know what it is (but please tell me politely! sweatdrop ) so I can fix things. (But if the guy cheats on me, forget it! That makes him the one in the wrong!) Inversely, though, I also don't want a guy who uses "honesty" as an excuse to berate me or to try to change me into what he wants me to be.
Control freaks need not apply.
Guys who don't stand up for themselves (or me, if we're ever in a situation where I can't defend myself) also need not apply.
After a terrible relationship with what can best be described as a "mama's boy," I also run far, far away from those! I WANT a guy who loves his family, but I DON'T want one who expects to be babied for the rest of his life when he's perfectly capable of taking care of himself! xp
That's about all I can think of. Hmmm...I would also kind of like to see the corollary of this thread, where we talk about what we WANT in a relationship. 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Mar 20, 2011 8:48 pm
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Or, we could just talk about what we want in a girlfriend/boyfriend in this thread. 3nodding
If a guy were my boyfriend and he kissed another girl or something, I would want him to tell me. I would be way more likely to forgive him than if he just tried to cover it up. There are kinks in all relationships, but if he screws up, then I want to calmly talk about it like adults. As far as I'm concerned, lack of proper communication is the number one killer of relationships. And, even if we talk about it, and he decides he wants to be with the other girl instead of me, at least we can part on a positive note and still be friends. I would respect him for doing that, and I might be willing to date him again in the future if we change our minds in the future. However, I cannot respect a guy who will lie to me to save his own butt.
Let's see... If we were to do like you said and talk about things we want in potential boyfriends, I would have to say that I want my guy to be a total nerd. At the last anime convention I went to, a guy proposed to his girlfriend on stage in front of everyone, both of them in cosplay outfits. I think that's about the most romantic way that a guy could possibly propose to me. xd I want someone who can keep up with me, and who wouldn't mind having battles of intellect just for fun. I want him to be honest with me, and I want to be honest with him in return. I want him to have a strong sense of morality, but I don't want someone who always thinks he is right and will always tell me that I'm a bad person for something stupid. I can't stand when people try to put guilt trips on me for not sharing the last bit of my chocolate or something. I want someone I can be a complete equal with. I want a guy who knows what he likes, but I don't want him to be controlling and try to tell me what I like and don't like. I also don't want him to be a complete wimp who won't do anything without my spurring him on. I'm guessing that's a pretty tall order these days.
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Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2011 9:58 pm
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Huh, interesting topic~
Rant Start-
I can't stand a guy who lets everyone walk all over him... I'm dating one like that now though... 
Whining, complaining about every-little-thing, saying how bad they have it when most people, (me included) would love to be in his shoes. He never strives for anything, he always talks like the world is just going to dump the leprechauns gold pot on his head in the future and he'll not have to work for anything. So he doesn't do anything.
Another big turnoff, is bad hygiene... I do NOT want to kiss you if you haven't brushed your teeth all week... I do not want to come near you if you haven't had a shower in three days... I can't stand people who are unclean like that.... I can understand if he was dirty because of his job, maybe actual dirt, or somebody split a thing of flour and it got everywhere, as long as you shower it off and don't SIT in it for two days before washing.... scream That pisses me off.
Also... I don't like guys who lie... Or beat around the bush too much... Romanticism is nice, but a guy doesn't have to put a freaking poster on his bedroom wall of me or tell me he loves me every ten minuets... -___- cause that's just creepy.
As for what I like in a guy~
Someone big, strong, and someone I can lean on when things get tough, yet will not be afraid to lean on me as well. Someone who know what he wants, and is fighting to get it, or at least actually doing something about it. Someone I can stand beside, and who will stand by me. Someone who has little quirks that will piss me off, and who isn't perfect and doesn't try to be. Someone who'll make me feel like a little girl and a woman at the same time... an can be an aggressive lover as well as a gentle one. I don't want to have to be the pants in the relationship... I'm having to deal with that now.... -____- it's not fun. If he's a good deal taller than me, that's perfectly fine... he can get the dishes for dinner cause I can't reach the shelf... A cuddler, someone I can watch movies with on the couch, snuggled under a blanket... Someone smart, but not a smart a** to the point I wanna indent his face into a frying pan.
I don't care if he watches/reads porn, or has weird kinks, (my books are the written equivalent of porn most of the time anyways and I draw Hentai sometimes.... so fair's fair) , but by the gods if he doesn't hide the stuff when my parents come over, Someone is going to be in serious trouble. He also must be clean... No drugs... Minimum alcohol...
If you wanna throw something else in there.... Tall dark, mysterious and handsome would be nice~ XD But looks really don't mean alot to me...
That's the absolute perfect kinda guy in my eyes....
/rant.
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Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2011 10:50 pm
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Posted: Thu Mar 24, 2011 10:43 am
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Hioni-Neko Huh, interesting topic~ Rant Start- I can't stand a guy who lets everyone walk all over him... I'm dating one like that now though... Whining, complaining about every-little-thing, saying how bad they have it when most people, (me included) would love to be in his shoes. He never strives for anything, he always talks like the world is just going to dump the leprechauns gold pot on his head in the future and he'll not have to work for anything. So he doesn't do anything.
eek Are you by any chance in Alabama? Because that guy sounds A LOT like my ex! rofl
Okay, let's see...Things I look for in a boyfriend/future husband:
That we see eye-to-eye on the Big Issues (religion, politics, and the Great Pumpkin blaugh )
Has his hobbies (video games, etc.) but doesn't let them take over his mind to the point where that's all he can talk about. (My former boyfriend was like that, and it was NOT FUN.) I mean, I have my hobbies too, but I wouldn't dream of making my guy listen to me prattle on for hours about knitting, crochet, and scrapbooking, so...yeah.
A SENSE OF HUMOR is an absolute must! I want a guy who makes me laugh!
I would absolutely love to have a guy who is creative.
He spends time with his family and friends, but doesn't spend so much time with them that he never wants to see me. (Stinky did this to me all the time--he LIVED with his family and still let them plan his entire weekend for him, week after week, so even though I lived just a few miles away, I got to see him maybe once a month--and I said NEVER AGAIN!)
I want the relationship to be mutually loving and respectful.
I want a guy who has real ambitions and not just "pipe dreams."
I would like a guy who actually takes me out on dates (instead of inviting me over once a month to watch him play video games rolleyes ).
Oh, and how could I forget--He has to like, or at last accept, the fact that I am a really girly girl who loves makeup, flashy hair accessories, miniature top hats, Alvin and the Chipmunks, Hello Kitty, and a host of other cute/girly things. Yes, I do have my tomboy side--I'm not all frills and glitter, and I don't insist on wearing makeup every day unless I just wake up looking like death warmed over and my own reflection offends me (sometimes that does happen)--and yes, I do have a rather "earthy" sense of humor, but I am NOT one of the guys! I may have guy friends, but I'm a WOMAN! /rant
That's about all I can think of for now. I am very picky, aren't I? redface |
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Posted: Thu Mar 31, 2011 1:18 am
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Posted: Wed Apr 13, 2011 4:05 pm
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Posted: Wed Apr 13, 2011 8:54 pm
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Posted: Fri Jun 24, 2011 7:37 pm
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Posted: Fri Jun 24, 2011 8:14 pm
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Posted: Fri Jul 01, 2011 10:10 pm
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