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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2012 3:37 pm
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2012 4:23 pm
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Aw, what a cute couple you two make. <3
What my view of "relationships" is all about the: Trust. You have to trust your partner, and they have to trust you. Basically whatever CheshireKttty said about trust is what I agree with. Honesty. You have to be honest with your partner, and they have to be honest with you. That doesn't mean you have to tell your partner everything; if they want to know something, be honest and tell them. If it comes to things that have potential consequences, still be honest. "Forget the risk, take the fall" The same goes for your partner to you. Respect. Girls love a man who can and will respect them no matter what. Respect your partner as much as you would respect your mother (or sister(s)). Same goes for your partner as well. Compromise. If your partner is looking for equality in a relationship, give it to her. Talk with your partner about what you want to see in the relationship and come to an agreement... ESPECIALLY when it comes to things like... sex.... and stuff. Unless you two are like, totally not ready for that.
Now, what my view of a perfect man is: Adoration. Love your partner, adore her with all your heart. Not to the point to where it's just... creepy, but enough to where she feels loved. Admiration. Admire her... can't really think of other things to say than that. xP Protection. Protect her as if she were a precious gem (as I'm sure she is for you). When she's scared, be there to let her know that everything's alright. When she's crying, be there for her and do all you can to cheer her up, to make her laugh and smile. When she's angry, let her blow off steam, but at the same time, try to calm her nerves. Personal Space. Yes, you want your partner with you at all times, but girls need their personal space sometimes. When/If she needs her space, give it to her until she wants you by her side again. Don't be nosy and up in her grill all the time; that just makes you look... well, creepy and clingy. Flattery. Flatter your partner, but not too much (unless she really loves to be flattered). Tell her she's beautiful. Let her know that she looks nice in whatever get-up she's in. If she's putting herself about her appearance, let her know that she looks beautiful in your eyes no matter flaws she has. Other things: BE GENTLEMAN! Just... be one. Don't go showing her off as if she's some shiny, big trophy; she's all yours to admire. Look her in the eyes when you hold her; don't look away until she does. It's just... cute. Be playful with her, be fun, be funny. Give her a thousands hugs and kisses. If she has some wild and crazy antics that you probably can't handle, ignore them and do all you can to deal with them. Make her laugh, make her smile, make her giggle, make her snort. Cuddle with her, lots and lots of snuggles and cuddles... unless she doesn't like a lot of that, of course.
Uhhmmm... well my mind just went blank. And this all came out from a girl who has never... ever... ever been in a relationship before, so.... xp That's the best advice I can give. Sucky advice, but still advice.
I hope you two have a wonderful and long-lasting relationship. Congrazzles. <33
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2012 4:29 pm
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Okay so.. I think that what all relationships must have is:
Trust: Because you're really gonna want your partner to be someone you can trust and get along with, you're not gonna want someone that will date you for 1 day, then find someone else and dump you for some stupid reason.
Love: You're both gonna want to actually love each other before dating, also could go as liking too. Doesn't really have to be a "love spree".
Similarities: Both of you should have some similar likes, you can't date someone who likes ponies more then unicorns, doesn't work that way.
Compatible: You must both be able to understand each others problems. If someone isn't able to do something, don't force them, it will ruin the relationship, and you will lose trust in each other.
That's all I have for now... forgot the rest, I'll post when I remember D:
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2012 4:45 pm
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Although most of my past relationships have been a bust, I have learned a lot about how to have a good relationship through my friends and family....and from the experiences I had.
gaia_star Trust is a huge part of a relationship. If you don't have trust, the relationship will crumble. That is pretty much a proven fact...and it is definitely key to keeping it together.
gaia_star As well as Trust, I look for a man who is honest. I hate it when guys (or even my female friends) beat around the bush and just don't get to the point they are trying to get at. Although you should be truthful, keep in mind that with some women, you have to be a little careful on your wording. Even having the wrong wording with honest intentions can set a woman off. And mad women=disaster.
gaia_star For me, I have always wanted a guy I could talk to about anything and everything. The good, the bad, and the ugly. I don't want to have to worry about feeling judged by him, or fearing that he would leave me for a mistake I made when I was younger. I want a guy who would love me for my faults, no matter what.
gaia_star I look for a guy who thinks on his feet, and is a little creative. He doesn't have to be a theatre or music guy, but a guy who purposely thinks of things to make me blush or say "awwwweeee!" about. Women (at least the ones I know) like the fact that a guy would take the time to think of something cute for his girl that is not in the norm. Being Romantic is a BIG PLUS! smile
gaia_star Listen, Listen, Listen. If you don't listen, you can't respond back. I am a communications major, and one of the things we have talked about is the downfalls of some relationships because of poor communication. If you are texting, and something doesn't seem right, call her. If you are still having a problem, make sure you make time to see her and hash things out face to face. Good Communication can make or break a relationship.
gaia_star Always respond to her texts. When I say this, I mean, don't ignore her for long periods of time. If you can't talk, let her know. Again, this kinda goes with the whole communication thing. I had a friend a few months ago who would text her boyfriend, and when he didn't respond for 3 hours, she would get all pissed off and start texting and calling him like crazy. (Then again, she was crazy. >.< I will not go into that story, lol.)
gaia_star Finally, when I'm in relationships, I always lay out some ground rules. Not in a harsh or bossy way, but in a way where both of us know exactly what we want out of a relationship. I always look for a guy who is willing to talk with me about this, and we can come to mutual agreements.
You definitely seem interested in this girl, and you two look absolutely adorable together. emotion_bigheart Good luck to you both! smile
-Sorry this is so long....when I start talking about something or start giving advice, I sometimes tend to draw them out or go on little rabbit trails. sweatdrop hehehehe.-
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2012 5:04 pm
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2012 5:33 pm
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2012 5:51 pm
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2012 8:01 pm
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First off im gonna say: I hope you're not going to listen to all the things here and overcomplicate your relationship. That will not do anything to help out the relationship whatsoevaaaa.
Anywho....
A relationship is all about being comfortable with the other. If you can be yourself, and the other one can accept that, then it's going the way it should. You should never try to be someone you're not with your partner, for that will bite you in the a** if the relationship lasts longer than a month or so.
As you guys get closer and more comfortable, trust is a main issue. Trust isn't something that can really said in words or whatnot. It's made up of the small things: If one of you is going out with your friends and the other is totally ok with that. If you can leave eachother and it never crosses your mind that the other is cheating. Those my seem like small things at first, but in reality its huge.It shows true trust.
If you can trust, and are comfortable the big thing that can make or break a relationship is personal gain. You both need to be willing to help the other become a better person. You guys can gave the most fun together and be in the happiest place ever, but time does not stand still. If you see a big career change ahead of you that is great for you, the other should be pushing you towards it. If let's say one of you wants to go back to school to open doors to get a career, support it all the way.
But here's the sad truth.
Every relationship is different. The best thing is to know yourself, and know your partner. And always work together. No need to try and strive for a super clingy relation, or a super relaxed one. Just let your relationship take its course and see what happens. It's about the ******** journey, man. The ******** journey.
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2012 10:01 pm
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2012 11:47 pm
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Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2012 2:50 am
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Hey bud, not even gonna try to go for the gold, 'cause I have enough of my own. Just responding to this post as a friend. People do say: Follow what's in your heart. But sometimes following your heart leads you to trouble, so what I'm gonna have to tell you is follow what you know is right, not what other people think or what you think is right. Why don't you ask yourself this question: What can I do to make her happy when she's with me? Also ask her opinions about things before making any action or decision. Always be confident in everything you do, but show her some of your soft spots sometimes, because she would never know if she's hurting you otherwise, which can affect your relationship; same would go for her, ask her what makes her mad or what turns her off. The biggest thing in a relationship is COMMUNICATION. If you guys don't know how to communicate with each other, then there is less hope for the relationship to work for long. Another thing, don't be a jerk to her friends...if you do have a disliking to one of her friends, try to be gentle when you're talking to her about it or best to not say anything at all. Don't play around too much when you guys are on a date...meaning, don't make up too many jokes---show her that you do take things seriously when it comes to her and that she's more important than anything that's on your mind at the moment. Make her feel like she's at home when she's with you.
Goodluck, dear friend. Have fun, ALWAYS!
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Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2012 2:53 am
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Theallmightypoe First off im gonna say: I hope you're not going to listen to all the things here and overcomplicate your relationship. That will not do anything to help out the relationship whatsoevaaaa. Anywho.... A relationship is all about being comfortable with the other. If you can be yourself, and the other one can accept that, then it's going the way it should. You should never try to be someone you're not with your partner, for that will bite you in the a** if the relationship lasts longer than a month or so. As you guys get closer and more comfortable, trust is a main issue. Trust isn't something that can really said in words or whatnot. It's made up of the small things: If one of you is going out with your friends and the other is totally ok with that. If you can leave eachother and it never crosses your mind that the other is cheating. Those my seem like small things at first, but in reality its huge.It shows true trust. If you can trust, and are comfortable the big thing that can make or break a relationship is personal gain. You both need to be willing to help the other become a better person. You guys can gave the most fun together and be in the happiest place ever, but time does not stand still. If you see a big career change ahead of you that is great for you, the other should be pushing you towards it. If let's say one of you wants to go back to school to open doors to get a career, support it all the way. But here's the sad truth. Every relationship is different. The best thing is to know yourself, and know your partner. And always work together. No need to try and strive for a super clingy relation, or a super relaxed one. Just let your relationship take its course and see what happens. It's about the ******** journey, man. The ******** journey.
Agreed.
This one is a good advice, make sure you read it twice, A. 3nodding
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Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2012 7:25 am
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Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2012 7:39 am
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