Since Clyvelle addressed the spiritual, I'll suggest something on the practical: consider posting less information of yourself online (or none at all to totally evade the problem of stalkers); the more info you post, the more vulnerable position you put yourself in to begin with. You're handing yourself to everyone (friend, stranger, stalker or not) on a silver platter.
If you hang out with people that know your abusers (if that's an accurate way to describe them?), then don't take pictures with those mutual friends because they could show said pictures to your abusers/stalkers, thus update your abusers/stalkers on how you look. There's really no need to take photos though (as extreme as that may sound seeing as the social norm nowadays is to document every little thing about our day, and take selca's of what we're doing, but humans survived without doing so in the past, we can survive today without it; maybe that's something to consider if you have a stalker problem: stop documenting your life, period, thus no longer leaving a trail for stalkers to follow).
Once you post something, there are no take backs; people can save a copy, take screenshots, or it caches somewhere (the fact that the "
wayback machine" even exists, documenting websites since 1996, even the ones no longer existing, makes me question how much gets stored; and if they can do it with public websites, what's stopping facebook from doing this with the personal information you share?); online social networking is the biggest invasion of privacy if you invite it (participate in it).
In terms of avoiding certain people, it's the worst place to go: it's designed to bring to your attention people you may have known, nosy people, and/or total strangers who just like the way you look (thus, the main profile picture being public in search engines). Stalker-ish behavior is almost a requirement to participate lol. Maybe ask yourself if social networking (the kind where you post personal info and pictures of yourself) is really worth it and something you want to continue doing? If you decide to continue with it as is, set everything on your profile to friends only. Though, by staying on the social networking sites, and using it to document your life, you're still providing them an outlet of information about you. Somehow, some way, they could find your information if it's out there in the digital sphere. Alleviate the stress altogether by not sharing personal info/pics at all even if you keep an account on the website; as it stands now, you say you want off the grid, but you keep going back on the grid. Plus, carving a place out for yourself on the internet doesn't aid internet addiction; it gives you further incentive to get online because you have a life on there now, almost a responsibility to keep people updated over personal details. Addiction is only cured by lessening the amount/frequency of a thing, if not
totally fasting from it for a while.
Though, the root of the problem is being able to look upon the person without feeling deep emotional hurt for what they did to you in the past. The problem is spiritual in nature. This is just a way to avoid bringing them to your attention for now, until you receive healing. Have you actually tried straightforwardly asking God to take away the stress and anxiety you feel when thinking about said person (or people)? Also, take this to heart:
Quote:
Matthew 10:28 (NIV)
Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell.
...death threats should not intimidate you. We're getting resurrected at the end anyway and we'll avoid the torture of the grave, and God's wrath, for trusting and believing in Jesus. Hell and God's wrath are way worse than any physical death, no matter if we died via murder, disease, starvation, or old age.
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