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Posted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 10:41 pm
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Posted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 10:53 pm
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Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 5:46 pm
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Posted: Sat Mar 07, 2009 1:50 pm
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DR LOVE ng IWONCLAN Azrael IIX Doc I need help. sad Long story so I'll make it short.I''m 14.Nka dameh nah if you'll ask me.It started kxeh last year(nung time qoh lng na realize) napagtripan lng paglaruan yung mga girls sa school.Nkah 3 gf akoh in 3 weeks(usually 1 month ang palet).Ayun brineak koh clah tapos after one month nkakuha akoh ng senior student.That time I thought syah na ngah peroh after 1 week ang boring plah nyah.Ung main point prng ang biles koh mag sawah. and ngauhn prng walah nkoh feeling kahit kanino ang boring nah.Panuh uhn?gustoh ko lng nmn makakitah ng girl nah perfect match but lgeh nlng wrong choice.Now meron nnmng new target umamen na syah na may gustoh syah sakehn.(i-clear koh lng ndeh lahat ng nagkakagustoh sakehn nililigawahn koh XD)anuh na gagawahn koh?everytime nlng na may ma typan liligawan kahet alah nmng feelings.Ndeh koh lng tlgah mapigilahn..............Help?
Many people do not know how to tell the difference between love, infatuation and lust. Knowing how to tell between the two can save you a lot of trouble—and heartache. True lovers are also best friends, and never get tired of each other. One way to tell the difference between love, infatuation and lust is that love gets stronger with time. The others fade off. Don't ask advice from the wrong people. If your neighbor has been married 10 times and divorced just as often, you had better look elsewhere for advice.
Try this 3 steps, trust me it will help you:
- Make a list of everything that you feel about the other person. List it all as honestly and as rapidly as you can – good or bad; physical, emotional or intellectual traits.
- Highlight each item you listed with a colored pen. Think each item over and associate each quality with either love, infatuation or lust. See which type predominates.
- Get a second or third opinion. It might help to ask someone else who has more experience than you do, albeit this does not mean you should believe all that they say.
Goodluck!
Sincerely,
DR LOVE ng IWONCLAN
nasagot na plah ung question koh thanks doc!khit papanoh alam koh nah ung difference nung mgah relationship koh |
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Posted: Sat Mar 14, 2009 10:20 am
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Posted: Sat Mar 14, 2009 6:53 pm
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Posted: Tue Mar 17, 2009 3:13 pm
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Dear DR LOVE ng IWONCLAN,
Medyo complicated po ang situation ko. Apat na guys ang involved at nalilito po ako kung sino ang dapat kong i-prioritize sa kanila.
Guy 1... Matagal na po kaming magkakilala at sya po ang tinuturing kong childhood sweetheart. Akala ko po noong una sya na yung guy na mamahalin ko for the rest of my life pero hindi pala. Bigla pong nawala yung feelings ko sa kanya nang makilala ko si Guy 2. But I had found out na this guy is secretly in love with me. Sa kasalukuyan po ay iniiwasan nya ako for some reasons. Maybe iniisip nyang bad influence sya sa'kin o kaya hindi talaga sya deserving.
Guy 2... Nagbago ang lahat nang makilala ko sya. Before may major depression ako at hindi ko namalayan na unti-unti na akong naka-recover dahil sa kanya. He inspired me a lot at sa totoo lang sya lang yung guy na nakapagpabago sa'kin for the better! Kaso... May conflicts pa rin po. Long-distance ang relationship namin at hindi ko pa po sya nakikita kahit sa picture lang. Plus, takot na takot syang mag-express ngayon. He said after 4 years, saka pa lang nya ipagtatapat ang kung ano mang nararamdaman nya para sa'kin. Hindi naman po talaga issue sa'kin ang maghintay. Kasi po ang totoo nyan, wala pa naman po akong balak magka-bf sa ngayon. Kaso biglang pumasok si Guy 3.
Guy 3... I admit I'm physically attracted to him. As in nagwagawapuhan lang po talaga ako sa kanya. Hindi naman po talaga dapat na issue 'to kaso... Sa kasalukuyan po ay napapadalas ang bonding naming dalawa. Among the four, sya po ang pinakamadalas kong nakakasama. Close na rin po ako sa parents nya at sya po ang kinuha kong escort para sa debut ko. Sya po ang sumasalo sa'kin everytime na malungkot ako at na-mimiss ko si Guy 2. Parang sya po ang nagpupuno ng mga pagkukulang sa'kin ni Guy 2. Noong una pa lang ay alam na nyang substitute lang sya ni Guy 2 sa pag-eescort sa'kin, at hindi man lang sya nagdalawang-isip na pumayag. Tatlo lang sana sila nang biglang umiksena si Guy 4.
Guy 4... Mahal na mahal po ako nito. I met him last summer. Matagal-tagal din po kaming nawalan ng communication. Dahil sa sobrang sweetness nya, na-develop na rin po ako sa kanya. Kaso nga lang bigla pong naputol ang communication namin for some reasons. Sobrang dinibdib ko po ang pagkawala nya to the point na sya ang dahilan ng major depression ko. Pero gaya nga po ng sinabi ko kanina, naka-recover ako nang dumating sa buhay ko si Guy 2. Kaso ngayon po ay biglang bumalik si Guy 4. At nalaman ko pong wala pa ring nagbabago sa kanya. Kilala na nga po ako ng buong angkan nila at pati Mama nya ay nakakausap ko na rin. Mabait po sila sa akin at nararamdaman kong special ako sa kanila.
Sana po ay matulungan nyo akong i-resolve ang problema kong ito. Magbigay po sana kayo ng advice kung paano ang gagawin kong pakikitungo sa bawat guy na nabanggit ko.
Thanks in advance!
Sincerefully yours,
Shyrlene
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Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 1:01 am
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Posted: Mon Mar 23, 2009 7:42 am
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Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 7:23 pm
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Your Sweetest Downfall
Medyo complicated po ang situation ko. Apat na guys ang involved at nalilito po ako kung sino ang dapat kong i-prioritize sa kanila.
Guy 1... Matagal na po kaming magkakilala at sya po ang tinuturing kong childhood sweetheart. Akala ko po noong una sya na yung guy na mamahalin ko for the rest of my life pero hindi pala. Bigla pong nawala yung feelings ko sa kanya nang makilala ko si Guy 2. But I had found out na this guy is secretly in love with me. Sa kasalukuyan po ay iniiwasan nya ako for some reasons. Maybe iniisip nyang bad influence sya sa'kin o kaya hindi talaga sya deserving.
Guy 2... Nagbago ang lahat nang makilala ko sya. Before may major depression ako at hindi ko namalayan na unti-unti na akong naka-recover dahil sa kanya. He inspired me a lot at sa totoo lang sya lang yung guy na nakapagpabago sa'kin for the better! Kaso... May conflicts pa rin po. Long-distance ang relationship namin at hindi ko pa po sya nakikita kahit sa picture lang. Plus, takot na takot syang mag-express ngayon. He said after 4 years, saka pa lang nya ipagtatapat ang kung ano mang nararamdaman nya para sa'kin. Hindi naman po talaga issue sa'kin ang maghintay. Kasi po ang totoo nyan, wala pa naman po akong balak magka-bf sa ngayon. Kaso biglang pumasok si Guy 3.
Guy 3... I admit I'm physically attracted to him. As in nagwagawapuhan lang po talaga ako sa kanya. Hindi naman po talaga dapat na issue 'to kaso... Sa kasalukuyan po ay napapadalas ang bonding naming dalawa. Among the four, sya po ang pinakamadalas kong nakakasama. Close na rin po ako sa parents nya at sya po ang kinuha kong escort para sa debut ko. Sya po ang sumasalo sa'kin everytime na malungkot ako at na-mimiss ko si Guy 2. Parang sya po ang nagpupuno ng mga pagkukulang sa'kin ni Guy 2. Noong una pa lang ay alam na nyang substitute lang sya ni Guy 2 sa pag-eescort sa'kin, at hindi man lang sya nagdalawang-isip na pumayag. Tatlo lang sana sila nang biglang umiksena si Guy 4.
Guy 4... Mahal na mahal po ako nito. I met him last summer. Matagal-tagal din po kaming nawalan ng communication. Dahil sa sobrang sweetness nya, na-develop na rin po ako sa kanya. Kaso nga lang bigla pong naputol ang communication namin for some reasons. Sobrang dinibdib ko po ang pagkawala nya to the point na sya ang dahilan ng major depression ko. Pero gaya nga po ng sinabi ko kanina, naka-recover ako nang dumating sa buhay ko si Guy 2. Kaso ngayon po ay biglang bumalik si Guy 4. At nalaman ko pong wala pa ring nagbabago sa kanya. Kilala na nga po ako ng buong angkan nila at pati Mama nya ay nakakausap ko na rin. Mabait po sila sa akin at nararamdaman kong special ako sa kanila.
Sana po ay matulungan nyo akong i-resolve ang problema kong ito. Magbigay po sana kayo ng advice kung paano ang gagawin kong pakikitungo sa bawat guy na nabanggit ko.
Thanks in advance!
Sincerefully yours,
Shyrlene
Dear Your Sweetest Downfall,
Are you aiming for what you want? Or taking whatever will come your way? Learn to recognize what you really want. We're not talking about look-wise, but attitude and situations that fit your own. It takes more than good looks to make you happy. Learn to distinguish what you want from what you don't is all a part of learning how to find the right guy for you.
Make a list of what you like. Did you ever used to day dream about Prince Charming? What did he say to you? What was his attitude like? If you find yourself settling for less, you're not looking hard enough. Never settle, there's always someone out there that is right for you. You'll know it when you find it.
Sometimes we wrap ourselves up in a relationship right away in order to help ourselves feel less lonely. If this might be the case, you might have entered a relationship under false pretenses. It's not that you really like the guy, or that you think he is right for you, but do you share some of the same interests? You don't have to like everything he likes, but you do want some commonplace to talk about. It helps when you can spend a little time enjoying the same things. This doesn't mean you should force yourself to become interested in he likes, this might backfire on you.
Where's the future? If you can see him in your future, doing normal, everyday things together, then it might be a good relationship. If it is hard to imagine him in the sort of future you want, you might want to reconsider the relationship.
Do you feel lonely when he is away? Or do you feel lonely even when he's in the same room as you? There is a difference, and you'll know when you feel it. If you find yourself with him, and day dreaming about someone else, that's a good sign that you might not be as interested as you thought.
Can you bring him home, and show him off to family and friends without cringing? Okay, that sounds cold, but every situation is different. The country music singer might seem totally different than your rock and roll lifestyle, but eventually he might seem more annoying than different, once the magic of the moment wears off.
Think about it..Goodluck choosing the right guy for you.
Sincerely,
DR LOVE ng IWONCLAN |
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Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 7:32 pm
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fury eyed hunter Dear Dr.Love,
well nung una nakikibasa lang ako sa mga problema sa puso ng kapwa IWCIANS ko..its about time na rin siguro para naman ako ang mag-post dito kasi hindi ko na talaga alam ang totoo.may best friend po ako.name po nya EDWARD.then di nagtagal na-fall ako sa kanya kasi naman ang bait nya at palabiro pa.alam naman nya yun.pero wala xang cnabi na mahal rin nya ako o hanggang kaibigan lang ang turing nya sakin.then after one year.bigla xang lumapit sakin may hawak na bulaklak.at nagtanong kung pwedeng manligaw.di ko lam ang isasagot ko.dahil iniisip ko na baka pinag-ti-tripan lang ako nito.pero cnabi ng isang friend ko na girl na dahil lang yun sa frat.kailangang ligawan ng sasali ang nasabing girl.at pag napasagot mo na xa,alas..pwede ka na!
then pumayag naman po akong maging "KAMI" dahil na rin siguro bilang tulong ko (as a frind nya sweatdrop )alam kong malaking pagkakamali yun.dahil by that time ay in-love na ko sa kanya.
nag-sorry naman xa nung wala na yung mga ka-frat nya.pero cnabi nyang dapat ay "kami"kapag kaharap lang yung mga ka-frat nya.xempre nalungkot ako nun.dahil sa totoo lang xa ang first love ko.nagtagal rin kami ng anim na buwan.naging friends pa rin kami.
pero sa tuwing nakikita ko xa.sobrang naiilang ako!
ano po ba sa tingin nyo..
mahal ko pa rin ba xa?at kung mahal ko pa rin xa dapat ko bang sabihin ulit sa ikalawang pagkakataon ang nararamdaman ko towards him?
tnx poh!
FURY_16 heart
Dear fury eyed hunter,
The course of platonic love is never smooth. Most people believe that there is no such thing as platonic love at all and that men and women cannot be "just friends." Though an emotional and physical attraction is important to foster romantic love, many friends of the opposite sex end up having strong feelings for one another. Be it a mental or intellectual connection or plain old chemistry, many men and women that are "only friends" end up as more.
Pay attention to your guy friend. If you undoubtedly love him, it's best to be honest with your feelings. However, if you know he has a girlfriend or is married, it's best to keep your true feelings kept to yourself. Before you confess your love to him, know when and when not to do so.
Take it slow. By letting him know you have feelings for him, you may end up scaring him off or changing the whole dynamic of the relationship. Be sure he isn't getting over an ex-girlfriend or isn't interested in another woman. The easier it is to be with a man, the closer you will be to declaring your love for him
Talk to his friends. Find out how he feels about you...that is, IF he feels any way about you. He may view you as a little sister or a close friend who happens to be a woman. Don't exaggerate his patting you on the knee. Don't jump to conclusions. It's fine to speak to his friends, but never look needy or clingy.
Be straightforward with him. If the two of you are hanging out, let him know that you'd like to have a serious conversation with him at some point. That way, he won't feel like you dropped a bomb on him.
Be true to yourself. If your man friend doesn't show any "romantic" interest in you, don't give up on your friendship. He may need a little bit of time. In the mean time, go out and meet some new guys.
If you get to tell him how you feel, do so tactfully. Never pressure him or expect an answer right away. Just let him know you have developed feelings for him and would like to take it further, if and when he wants to. If he doesn't respond positively, give him time and space. Goodluck!
Sincerely,
DR LOVE ng IWONCLAN |
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Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 7:45 pm
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Tella x Dear Dr. Love, Hindi ko na po alam ang gagawin ko. Sobrang nasasaktan na po ako sa mga ginagawa ng crush ko. Alam naman niya na crush ko siya, pero kahit konting feelings wala talaga. At pinagmamalaki pa niya na nag Live-In na sila ng GF niya. Parang nag paparinig. Hindi ko naman siyang kayang kalimutan kasi palagi ko siyang nakikita. Iniimbita pa nga ako ng GF niya sa bahay nila eh, at pinayagan ako ng GF niya na magka crush ako sa kanya. Pero parang hindi ko kayang nakikita ang mahal ko na may kasamang iba. At napakabata pa nila 14 years old lang silang dalawa tapos nag Live-In na agad. Pero hindi pa po alam ng crush ko na LOVE ko siya. Ang alam lang niya, CRUSH lang. Gusto ko po sana siyang makausap para malaman niya na nasasaktan na niya ang damdamin ko at mahal na mahal ko siya. Paano ko po ba masasabi sa kanya ito ng hindi siya mag freak-out? Ano po ba ang kailangan kong gawin para kahit papaano ay maging kaibigan ko man lang siya? SALAMAT PO and GOD BLESS! : D
Dear Tella x,
Some women see the signs but they stick around because they are waiting for him to change, waiting for it to get better. They stay because they are in love. But what does it take to realize that there are certain signs that are tell tale, he just is not into you? Not easy but ladies, open your eyes and trust your gut.
There are many girls, especially those who are dating for the first time, who find it a problem in expressing themselves to the guys. They like the guys and are madly in love with him, but the same has to be expressed to the guy so that he can reciprocate. Like it takes two hands to clap, there has to be mutual feelings from both the boy and the girl for a relationship to go ahead.
Keeping this in view, it is essential that the girl express her views to the guy, especially if there are no hints from the guy. Most girls find themselves tongue tied when trying to express their love to a guy.
However, emotions are a tough animal to tame. After all, the heart wants what it wants. A girl may not want to, but you may fall for a guy who already has a girlfriend. However, you should not scheme or plot to break up this relationship. Instead, you should find ways to get over the guy who has a girlfriend.
Understand that there are many other guys out there whom you can date. You should not look upon this guy like he is your only romantic option.
Talk to people who know this person. You may find out that he is not as nice as you think he is after asking others about him. Be aware that this can backfire, because he also may be a great person, and this can cement your affections.
Find and talk to some of his ex-girlfriends. These past relationships may not have ended well, and it can help you see another side of this guy that your affection may have blinded you to. Ask them why they broke up.
Get a hobby or take a class that takes your mind of this guy. Not only will this distract your attention, you could possibly meet a new guy to date while conducting these activities.
Analyze exactly why you are attracted to this person. It may be that you are not that attracted to him. It could be something happening in your life that caused this attraction. Also, examine his relationship, if any, with this guy's girlfriend. It could be that you are angry with this girl and your attraction to her boyfriend is a manifestation of that anger.
Avoid this guy at all costs. Then maybe over time your attraction will wane and eventually disappear. Goodluck! Don't ever let any person make a toy out of you.
Sincerely,
DR LOVE ng IWONCLAN |
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Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 10:25 pm
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