Help? Sexualities (and more) defined

[PopulationGrave]

the goverment? biggrin  

[koncettina]

That's actually pretty cool! I've never even seen half of those sexuality's!

biggrin  

[x_Toxic Fetish_x]

same here  

[ashalkin08]

so i would be sequential bisexual....
i have a bf and gf right now
at first, before i came out to myself, it was all guys. then it was all about the girls. now it's both.
but i'm only attracted to certain people- i will not give you any chance if i do not like your personality...
wow, i learn more about myself everyday....


and what is gender anyways? come on, if you feel like a different gender inside than what is on the outside, isn't "gender" another social norm we have learned???
-took psychology and sociology cool -  

[BlackWolfPoet]

ashalkin08

so i would be sequential bisexual....
i have a bf and gf right now
at first, before i came out to myself, it was all guys. then it was all about the girls. now it's both.
but i'm only attracted to certain people- i will not give you any chance if i do not like your personality...
wow, i learn more about myself everyday....


and what is gender anyways? come on, if you feel like a different gender inside than what is on the outside, isn't "gender" another social norm we have learned???
-took psychology and sociology cool -

That's what gender is: Learned behavior for the social expression of one's sex, which can vary through cultures, proving that it is not inherent. AKA: yes, it is a social norm. smile (Anthropology major with Sociology minor 3nodding )

Also, for the sticky, there should be an additional definition up there:

Post-label: People that find labeling themselves as gay, straight, bi, (or whatever) to be too restrictive and not descriptive enough, and so call themselves post label.

...I like it.  

[Written with Shades of Me]

-hrms-
I'm a "Pansexual f** Boi" - could that work? I mean, I'm not really out for the genders, but I find a total kink in gay men? Uh, a little weird there, ne? I act and dress like a guy (despite my avi's appearance), and I'm attracted to mainly gay men, but I also think that's a plus for me if I'm going out with a girl because at first glance I look like a guy..............


Whaaa-?
gonk

I think this list has people going in circles, lol!!

 

[Gwion Vaughn]

Could we add Androphilic and Gynophilc?

Also, might we seperate gender identity from orientation on the OP?  

[deadlymuse15]

Thanks for this, I was kind of confused about some of them...  

[Fatima al-Faqadi]

Here's a couple more for you, sorry if they are repeats of someone else's comments, I am not gonna lie... I didn't read all the pages.

Berdache – Two-spirited; one who identifies with both a male and female soul
Bigender – The tendency to move between masculine and feminine gender-typed behavior depending on a context, expressing a male or female persona
Heteroflexible – People who identify as heterosexual, but are sometimes attracted to the same sex  

[incandescentquill]

Kudos on this list, it's pretty good. I have a few nitpicks/common misconceptions to clear up, and I want to clarify tomboy and add mannish, Sapphic, and ally.

Berdache comes from a word for prostitute, because the colonizing Europeans believed that two-spirited people had to be slaves or prostitutes. (In the Renaissance European mindset, nobody would voluntarily choose such a life). Because of that, it is considered offensive, and two-spirit is used instead.

Intersex is not being born with "both" sexual organs. That's physically impossible. When we were all 2-week-old fetuses, we each had 2 gonads, a reproductive organ, and some tubing that connected them. We all pretty much looked the same at that point. Then our reproductive systems started developing based upon the hormones in our body and our genes. Those who were born with a normal female sex had gonads which grew into ovaries, a reproductive organ which grew into a v****a, and tubing that became fallopian tubes and a uterus. Those born with a normal male sex had their gonads become testicles, their reproductive organ become a p***s, and the tubing become their vas deferens. Those who were born intersex had a combination of the above (e.g. ovaries and a p***s, v****a and testicles) or misshapen reproductive organs. What went wrong, biologically speaking, depends upon the individual. Something of this kind goes wrong roughly 1 in 1,000 births, which makes it a lot more common than other birth defects/congenital conditions, like Down's Syndrome. So intersex is being born with neither male nor female sex.

Sex and gender are separate, of course. Sex is defined by the reproductive organs, and gender is defined by the mind. Because some people are unsure of their own gender (and because homosexual, heterosexual, gay and lesbian make assumptions about one's own sex), some people prefer androphilic and gynophilic. Androphilic = sexually attracted to men, gynophilic = sexually attracted to women. For example, if someone believed they were a gay man, and began questioning their own gender (thinking they might really be a straight woman), they might not be comfortable calling themselves gay, homosexual, or heterosexual. But they'd still be androphilic.

Butch and femme can also be used to describe gay men, and are used to discuss hetero-normativity: the tendency for all people to reflect societal norms in their personal/sexual relations. In any case, the butch partner is more stereotypically masculine: fixes car, short hair, pants, bread winner, etc. The femme partner is more stereotypically feminine: cooks dinner, long hair, dress/skirt, home maker, etc. Note that because these are based on underlying stereotypical assumptions (e.g. people in dresses are home makers, shorter hair means you can fix a car, someone in the relationship wears the pants and someone else doesn't), not everybody likes them or is okay with them.

Tomboy is a girl or young woman who is tough and athletic. It implies something about gender presentation, but not about gender identity or sexual orientation.

Mannish has not been a well-known term since the 1920's, and was applied to suffragettes and lesbians of the time. It describes a woman who dresses in a masculine style (wearing suits and pants and things). It fills the same role as metrosexual, only the opposite: instead of men who have a feminine appearance/fashion sense/personal style, these are women who have a masculine appearance/fashion sense/personal style.

Sapphic means the same thing as lesbian, but it is more historically accurate. Lesbos was an island in Greece in ancient times. And on this island there was a women-only school, and at this school there was a poet. Her name was Sappho, her poems are the earliest documentation of women loving other women. Victorian Europeans considered women who loved women to be like the people on the island of Lesbos, who Sappho's poems dealt with - hence, they were lesbians. Amusingly, the island is still around, and its name has not changed. Technically, a Lesbian is one who comes from Lesbos in the same sense that an American is one who comes from America. I have never been to the island of Lesbos, so it does not make much sense for me to pretend that is my nationality.

Gender presentation may vary widely, and is separate from gender identity. If one is a man, and comfortable being a man, this does not preclude or prevent one from wearing a dress and enjoying it. If one is a woman, and comfortable being a woman, this does not preclude or prevent one from wearing a pantsuit and enjoying it.

Ally is someone with any sexual orientation or gender identity who supports LGBTIQQA rights/equality. Queer usually implies that one is not straight, cisgendered, and gender-conforming/gender typical, but one doesn't neatly fit into any of the other categories. Most teachers, for example, do not tell their students what sort of people they like to bang - but they may tell their students they are allies.

I'm not thrilled with labels, but I like to play with words.

Soo...I have a female sex and female gender, I'm gynophilic, lesbian, homosexual, Sapphic, mannish, and I love Fudgesicles. All my brainy words for who I want to bang do not compose my entire identity. biggrin  

[E M T T]

Good list -thumbs up-
I hadn't even heard of half of those, let alone know the definition.  

[-PANDATUBE]

thank you for posting this list! it's helpful, and interesting.
i think i've already posted a comment on this a whiiile ago, but whatever. XD

i'm a pansexual, but i would probably call myself bisexual because more people know what that means... (i haven't come out of the closet yet sweatdrop )

oh and i'm queer. (=  

[patienceyeah]

--->autosexual<---
--->BDSM<---
but mostly
--->femme<---

 

[worm squirm]

mandasexual
its a trend
you should try it  

[patienceyeah]

soundtape

mandasexual
its a trend
you should try it

im totally mandasexual.