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Posted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 5:15 pm
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Charkan skyline_rt4 Okay...So I was dating this boy for like 3 weeks and he claimed he went to Oklahoma & I drive up to his apt and he's there... Then the next time that I call him, he yells "What" into my phone and hangs up on me..... Do you think that he was seeing another girl? It is possible he is with someone else. He might be annoyed for some reason unknown. He is just mean. He ants to cut off all communicatiopn with you for some reason. Past that, I am not sure what the problem could be.
Thank you Charkan. Sorry it has taken me so long to respond... I have AOL...but I have heard that he "feels" bad about how it ended. Ya know I can do so much better than him. So it's his lost. Not mine. |
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Posted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 5:31 pm
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Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 3:31 pm
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Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 11:57 am
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Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2008 7:41 pm
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Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 9:27 pm
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Posted: Sat Aug 30, 2008 8:42 pm
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azi-maj two of my best friends had a fight and now won't talk to each other...one of them (let's call her C) wrote bad stuff about people (who were mostly her friends that i don't hang out with on a regular basis) including my other best friend (let's call her J) and then she let other people read what she wrote on her journal (she does this all the time because usually she writes poems and stories in it) but J stole it from the person who was borrowing it and read all the bad stuff C wrote and then told everyone who was involved about it (and told everyone who wasn't involved, like me, to stay out of it) and then J started a hate group against C and started being really mean to her...and now both of them feel that they've been wronged and the argument has been going on for months now...and it worries me because they are completely ignoring each other now (and they use to be best friends) they both say they've tried to make up and that other was being rude and not cooperating... J has been depressed and moody and getting somewhat unstable thinking that everyone is against her....C doesn't care anymore and is being spiteful and ignoring J ....but to me their both at fault and that they should just suck it up and get along again, but they won't listen to me how do i get them to get along again?
Woah. While that is quite a dilemma, I found out the hard way that getting yourself involved can get them to turn on you instead of each other, so I would suggest simply being friendly to both of them, but otherwise staying out of it. If they're both serious about wanting to rebuild their friendship, they'll figure out a way to do it themselves. Trying to force them to be friends again won't do any good if neither of them wants to try & work it out.
One thing to remember when doing this is that you need to stay neutral. If one of them tries to talk to you behind the other's back (like spread rumors through you, or tell you bad things about the other), you need to stop them & let them know that you're friends with BOTH of them, & that you don't want to get caught up in their drama anymore than you already are.
If one of them comes to you asking for advice on how to fix the relationship, be understanding, but be careful with your words, & don't make yourself a messenger. Insist that they keep trying to talk to each other, but make sure that they both want to fix it, or it will never happen.
If the fight gets so bad (which it probably has) that they're both coming at you saying bad things about the other, one method is to give them both your input in the exact same words, at the exact same time. This can be done through the glory of the internet.
E-mail 1 message to the 2 people. Be sure to include your take on the situation, politely pointing out the things that each has done to fix the relationship, & how the other stopped it from happening. Start the message out by stating how it got started from your point of view, & how it progressed to where it is now. Put on the bottom of the message that you will refuse to talk to either of them until they work it out & stop putting you & others in the middle of it, which includes having others fight their battle (this means no more backstabbing, rumors, pointing the finger, etc). Remember that while writing it, you have to be neutral. Don't take either side.
This method can only be truly effective if you're best friends with BOTH of them, & if losing you would truly mean something to them both. If you're not close enough to one of them for this to be truly effective, try grabbing their best friend, & ask if they'd like to help in ending the argument, then let them read the letter before you send it, or they can help you write it.
Hope that helped a little. Sorry it was so long. |
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Posted: Sat Aug 30, 2008 8:49 pm
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Morphinespots I cant seem to stop fighting with peole everything back fires on me what should i do. .?
The short & simple answer would be to limit the number of people you hang out with. If some one starts a fight with you (or tries to), simply back up, & tell them politely how you feel on the situation, which can only be done in a calm manner. If they come at you screaming, take a step back, relax for a second, then quietly tell them your side of the story. If you freak out & yell back, or even cry, they'll pay more attention to the tone of your voice rather than what you're saying.
By crying, you're showing them that they've hit a weak spot, & they'll think that they're winning.
By yelling back, then assume that you're trying to win, & they'll scream louder & fight harder.
By stating how you feel quietly, you show them that you're not effected by it, but wouldn't mind working it out. This will calm them down a little too, & you can begin from there to sort out the argument.
Hope I helped a little. |
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Posted: Sat Sep 13, 2008 12:00 pm
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Posted: Fri May 01, 2009 2:40 pm
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Posted: Mon May 11, 2009 3:39 pm
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Posted: Mon Jun 15, 2009 1:37 pm
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Posted: Fri Jun 19, 2009 10:30 am
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Posted: Sun Jun 21, 2009 5:16 pm
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