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Sparky_the3rd Vice Captain
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 Posted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 6:26 pm
He does those things, but look at what you have to suffer through to get to his sweet side. For months you've been putting up with this...the way he makes you feel...how sad you end up and how depressed you get...of course he's going to be nice...but what's the price when under that he turns into an a** when you turn your back
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Posted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 7:35 pm
XxBroken_And_ShatteredxX And I consider those as REALLY good things. The bottom half I don't do for my girl-friend. Mainly because I have no money, but still... All-in-all, I think you should see where it leads to before you break-up.
I don't want to end up losing something that could have gotten better.
I don't want the "what if" of having broken up with him.
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Posted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 8:34 pm
I can't possibly vote either way because it's all in your heart, but I can say this, Kirsty: I SUGGEST you dump him.
This sounds much too much like my ex.
He'd be all sweet and such until he was angry over something.
Even if I wasn't the cause of his anger, he'd take it out on me.
He was suspicious for no reason and had very low self-esteem to the point where he'd angrily ask me why I was still with him.
Now, so far, it doesn't seem as though your boyfriend has done this, but the point that I'm getting to is that once he's done all these terrible things to me, he'd be sweet to make up for my heartbreak so I wouldn't break up with him.
I couldn't stand the cycle.
Pain.
Love.
Tears.
Smile.
Torture.
Kindness.
It sounds like the same cycle you're stuck in.
Trust me, there are better people out there.
It might not be the next one after this jerk you're with or the next after that, but you will find the perfect guy as long as you're honest with yourself and don't get caught up in the fleeting good times.
All the time should be a good time when you're in love.
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Posted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 8:42 pm
And I'm sorry to say, Kirsty, but this cycle won't change.
He's too comfortable with making up with you.
He knows that when he does the sweet things, you fall head over heels for him.
He knows he can get angry and simply say you are his world and everything goes back to happy.
It shouldn't be that way.
He shouldn't hurt you at all.
This is just my experience though.
I'm sorry you're having problems and I hope the best for you.
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Posted: Tue Jan 05, 2010 10:12 pm
~sigh~ guy problems...SUCK...im having issues too...only Im living with the block.... so its a wee bit more complicated v_v
But honestly...the longer you stay with him the more it will hurt and the harder it will be to leave him, in the end...either your gona cry yourself to bed every night and he wont be there to hold you because either he has stopped careing or he is no longer there...
Or you leave him now...giving you more time to get over him and move on with your life. You dont need a man to be happy, all you need is respect for yourself. And if a guy isnt giving you that or you arnt FIRST in his priorities, he needs to get them straighted out, and if he doesnt you need to get yours straighted out and make sure your YOUR FIRST priority, not him!
Take care of your self hun, because this is an ugly world and sometimes...your all you got, so be good to yourself.
...sry about the length...I think Im halfway telling this to myself as well, so I know how hard it is, because I love my mate more than anything....
but on my last note, just because you love him, if he doesnt love you, its not real love, and it will only bring you pain, and you deserve better, because trust me, if he doesnt love you, you can find some one who will, and they will do all hes doing AND MUCH MUUUUUCH MORE.
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Posted: Thu Jan 07, 2010 8:49 pm
Listen to your heart. When he holds you, listen to the beat of his. Whatever the situation, listen to his heart, because it's like a voice telling you how he feels. He may only be putting you through all that because he's more than likely insecure or overprotective. I say don't break up with him, unless he takes hurting you over the edge. Like cheating.
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Sparky_the3rd Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Jan 11, 2010 12:09 pm
Candied Perfection Listen to your heart. When he holds you, listen to the beat of his. Whatever the situation, listen to his heart, because it's like a voice telling you how he feels. He may only be putting you through all that because he's more than likely insecure or overprotective. I say don't break up with him, unless he takes hurting you over the edge. Like cheating. Listen to the beat of his heart? Not to be mean but this is not a movie, it's RL, he's a b*****d from his head to his toe. From him thinking she's cheating on the internet to him whinning about the random of stuff!!! He's not worth it. If I listen to any of my ex's hearts I'd still be in a f**ked up relationship right now!!! He's already took hurting her beyond the edge....he effin pushed her off already...then stood there and watched her fall!!!! He doesn't trust her, most relationship are build on trust...not just if that person cheated or not!!! If he was so overprotective he wouldn't make her sad all the time....that's not being overprotective, that's being an a**. When it comes down to it I love her more (as a sister) than he loves her (as a gf). If I were to see him in RL he btr be a track star b/c I'ma beat his a**!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted: Mon Jan 11, 2010 1:26 pm
truthfully, listening to your heart isn't always best...
your heart will lead you to act on pure emotion without thinking of the consequences
its best to use your brain on this and tell you heart to keep quiet and let you think
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Posted: Tue Jan 12, 2010 3:03 pm
He may be an @$$ but I can't help but love him. I barely know why I love him anymore though, but honestly none of this bagging on my boyfriend is really going to help. I've been with him much to long, and my attachment is unbearable to leave. I know I may deal with the random heart breaks, but I've been dealing with it for so long, that it's hardly a big deal to me. I just need to learn not to be such a cry baby
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Posted: Tue Jan 12, 2010 3:07 pm
xXxKireiKirstyxXx He may be an @$$ but I can't help but love him. I barely know why I love him anymore though, but honestly none of this bagging on my boyfriend is really going to help. I've been with him much to long, and my attachment is unbearable to leave. I know I may deal with the random heart breaks, but I've been dealing with it for so long, that it's hardly a big deal to me. I just need to learn not to be such a cry baby You're not being a cry baby, it's natural for you to get hurt...you are human, you love and you hate...you should be happy.
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Sparky_the3rd Vice Captain
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Posted: Tue Jan 12, 2010 3:48 pm
moon_the_angel_of_hell You're not being a cry baby, it's natural for you to get hurt...you are human, you love and you hate...you should be happy.
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Posted: Sat Mar 27, 2010 7:19 pm
sounds like an abusive cycle. I know because there is an established, objective pattern to that sort of thing that is obvious to anyone not directly involved.
I hate to say it but you are classic. No one wants to think they are going through the same s**t that a million other people already have but there are billions of people on the planet. Someone has already done it and someone else has already written psychology texts and self help books about it.
look at your friends, look at your parents. Go to college and meet people. Guess what, there are probably a zillion people around you that you are not even aware of who would be incredibly happy to perform that cute list of sweet things daily because they like you and not as a manipulation.
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Posted: Sat Mar 27, 2010 7:57 pm
I totally feel you. It's so difficult when you really love someone but when they act like an a** and you don't have the heart to break it with them. Truth is, I'm going to have to agree with LawlEePawp ROSY. LawlEePawp ROSY He's too comfortable with making up with you.
He knows that when he does the sweet things, you fall head over heels for him.
He knows he can get angry and simply say you are his world and everything goes back to happy.
It shouldn't be that way.
He shouldn't hurt you at all. You shouldn't let him do that. You should stand up to that and tell him how you feel. Tell him that it's pissing you off! And if he can't accept that, he doesn't truely love you. So I suggest that you find out if he's truly worth all this hurt or not first.
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Posted: Wed Apr 07, 2010 9:24 pm
xXxKireiKirstyxXx We've been together for a Year and 2 months since Sunday.
This have been happening since the first 2 or 3 months we've been together. I think you are a year too late in making your decision~ oh what the heck, fine, stay with him if you want~ it's not my problem~ Just make sure you're not yes/no maybe/maybe not.
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Posted: Wed Apr 07, 2010 11:18 pm
How very drastic. You guys do realize there's a reason that she's like this, and she's fallen so hard that she cannot get up. She's not going to listen to any of you, from what I've read. Only she can help herself. Seriously, you guys should just leave it be. This thread is old anyways.
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