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 Posted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 10:52 am
The_Pathan _rainarai_ Zaki, did you even read what you quoted from internet? sweatdrop that's not the qur'an... There is quotes from a "high schoolar" lol And he gave a link with more quotes. But...but...eh, nevermind..okay okay...let's say "dating is haram, and you must get married".. stare
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Posted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 11:06 am
dating is toally haram -- wot is the point --
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Posted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 6:42 am
Rania, don't make this stare stare emoticon lol
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Posted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 9:30 pm
Well, If you want to to date someone, it's fine as long you keep yourself from something like sex or something that can provoke you to do that (and maybe my definition of dating is quite different from yours).
Oh yeah, Marriage is not always a "must" (fardlu) . Depending to condition it could become fardlu, or even haram. Normally it's "sunnah"(meaning it's something you better do it because prophet Muhammad saw. did it).
It became fardlu if you are able to get married in every aspect and you worry that you might do "zina" (free sex, or something like that).
It become haram if the one you'll married is a bad guy or someone you must not marry (your father, brother, etc. Mostly your family).
Well, Actually it far, far, better if you do it (for it has many advantage, like keeping human from extinction, etc).
If it 's always "fardlu" (or you "have to" married") then people who do not married is comitting a sin.
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Posted: Sat Mar 14, 2009 5:13 pm
okay dating is not haram and you cant say all bad people do it but it isnt liked in Islam due to the fact is provokes sexual desires... also Islamicly you have every right to get to know the person you are planning to marry....
oh and I was just wondering if anyone here is already married? biggrin
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Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2009 2:19 am
Shinigami Vayth Well, If you want to to date someone, it's fine as long you keep yourself from something like sex or something that can provoke you to do that (and maybe my definition of dating is quite different from yours). Exactly, so why would it be haram? Haram to find someone who you love, and who loves you back, to be your life partner...no
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Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2009 2:20 am
0_o___V okay dating is not haram and you cant say all bad people do it but it isnt liked in Islam due to the fact is provokes sexual desires... also Islamicly you have every right to get to know the person you are planning to marry.... oh and I was just wondering if anyone here is already married? biggrin Yes, that's right, And yes, there was a 17 years old guy who was married, but I don't know where he is now, he's not very active here... (:
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Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2009 9:15 am
I am totally agree with Furqan, First reason you are supposed to marry is because if you are female you need some male to protect you (unless you are a kung fu and yes its funny dun take it serious) And if you male you are supposed to marry because to keep you astray from the path of wrong doings like sexual overwhelming.
Other thing that (i guess) is mandatory is that one should get married at the age of 15 or earlier age (take me as a steriotype and i will take you one do the balance OK? good).
The answer to the reason about marrying at earlier age is because you start to develop some love with your partner (and that no how means you are allowed for sex) that way you are astray from searching the ONE! and you slowly change the definition of that THE ONE.
It was same with most of the families, there is this story of my Friend his "mother and father got married at very early age and slowly they became into each other that much that they forgot about the ONE!" my friend repeated their parents words.
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Posted: Mon Mar 16, 2009 6:23 am
Soo tassan u talk alot about alot with your friends, huh? ^^
wink It is allowed to talk, but not allowed to eye the one you date with i guess razz
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Posted: Tue Mar 17, 2009 7:43 am
The_Pathan Soo tassan u talk alot about alot with your friends, huh? ^^ wink It is allowed to talk, but not allowed to eye the one you date with i guess razz huh? stressed
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Posted: Wed Apr 22, 2009 2:29 am
Here’s what I think:
A woman should definitely get to know the man she is about to marry, but she can’t date. So here in Lebanon we have developed a new version of dating that is acceptable to all. The couple who want to get married can meet up at one of their family’s home, the family is of course present, once there the couple can sit on the balcony and chat all they want. If the couple wants to go out they may take a sibling or cousin who will stay a far distance from the couple, this way they can have a private conversation that their family can’t hear but they are also kept under a watchful eye.
As for the marriage thing, I think that you should get married if you want to. And I know this will get a big response but I think that one should get married after they have discovered themselves and established their own identity. I hate it when people want to get married to find their other half, you should be a whole when you get married. Marriage is so complicated, you can’t just get married just because of religion (please don’t hurt me), you should be ready and you should know full well what you are getting into.
I know God does things for a reason (duh) but you also have to believe that God gave you a brain. God wants people to be married but He, being so wonderfully gracious, will not force you to marry. Yes, it is the natural course of life. Yes, no one wants to be lonely. BUT IT'S COMPLICATED AND NOW I'M NOT MAKING ANYMORE SENSE
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Posted: Wed Apr 22, 2009 5:41 am
lil_tulip Here’s what I think: A woman should definitely get to know the man she is about to marry, but she can’t date. So here in Lebanon we have developed a new version of dating that is acceptable to all. The couple who want to get married can meet up at one of their family’s home, the family is of course present, once there the couple can sit on the balcony and chat all they want. If the couple wants to go out they may take a sibling or cousin who will stay a far distance from the couple, this way they can have a private conversation that their family can’t hear but they are also kept under a watchful eye. Yeah, my father used to do that.. ^^ Being the first son (he's the third child, but the first two are girl), My grandfather always told my father to kept an eye, whenever my aunt went dating. but of course it's not stalking, because my aunt knew about this. But it was about more than 30 years ago, and my family (not really anymore) was always serious when it involved the kid's future (like education, marriage, etc.), and so after a few dates, he came to the my aunt's boyfriend, asking whether he's serious or not. if not, then my father would tell him to not continue the date any further.
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Posted: Wed Apr 22, 2009 7:50 am
Yea, and my parrents got planned to get married as my mom got born?
Allah does judge us to get married, and it is destiny...
U can date and get married, ore get married without knowing. It's still the same i guess wink
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Posted: Thu Apr 23, 2009 12:30 am
The_Pathan U can date and get married, ore get married without knowing. It's still the same i guess wink I am sooo sure you meant something different, but how can you get married without knowing?
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Posted: Thu Apr 23, 2009 12:51 am
there's many way to know another person beside date, and you can married without not knowing because knowing is not one of the condition that you must have for marriage.
But I'm sure no one want that.. rofl Not me especially..
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