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i believe sex before marriage is a very very very very very very very serious sin...

muslim women shoud really protect themselves from fitna...

INSHALLAH ALLAH forgives ^^

I like all this opinion. =)
It's not that im going to literally do it before marriage.
But it's just a consideration i guess. I doubt i will though =P
I'm too shy. haha xD

I verily agree. & although Allah can forgive anything (except He won't forgive disbelief, obviously), it is best to do everything to keep away from sin. Especially something like sex before marriage. I'd think being a virgin for your husband would be important to most women anyhow...& feel free to ask questions. I doubt the males of the group are looking here. & besides, they cannot message in here anyway or they could probably be in trouble.

virginity is just a physical proof that no man has been there before.

but is it as important? i am all for sex after marriage but people focus on being a virgin more than to be spiritually and mentally healthy.

women who had divorces are not virgins any more.
does this make her less of a pious Person?

it doesn't matter REALLY that a woman is a virgin or not..
it should be virginity of the heart and soul.

again i am not supporting sex before marriage.
just how our minds work!

in the time of the prophet [PBUH], a divorced woman didn't stay single for long. She was sought after sometimes even more than a virgin woman.

so why men are fixated on young virgins?
so young its sometimes sickening.

Men are brain washed now.
and this is reflected on us women and how we see our selves.

also, sex is over rated. It is not what is every body is talking about.
its a small fraction of marriage life! sometimes you don't even have time for it.

however, hormones play a big part at the teenage phase.
and because we're not allowed to have it, we want it all the more.
basically its like ignoring the huge pink elephant in the room.
you can't stop thinking of it and nowadays media isnt helping.

sex does not make us woman and men..
even pigs and cows have sex.

Its about our self respect and how we show it.

your virginity is not for your husband
no no no
it is for you, my dear.

a certificate that you are an admirable woman
who can have control of her man till she thinks she is ready.

A woman is ready when a man shows her how far he would do for her.
offer her worldly treasure and a future nest along with extra pair of parents (his).
Most importantly, his life and future.

Now ladies, this husband deserves no more present from you than your "yes".
Your virginity is not his to take.
It is yours to enjoy getting rid of.

Keep in mind that Allah loves us for our minds, hearts, souls. He does not find our bodies important. I understand what you mean, but if you love someone, you'll have to learn that what's inside matters more than the outside. It's hard to get away from worries of physical beauty when you've lived with it for your whole life, but it is possible, trust me. If you truly want to please Allah & do better for yourself, you'll learn to accept yourself as you are (doesn't mean don't take care of your body, just don't obsess over the appearance). & children are more of a joy than a body in the long run (will change with age anyhow, it's inevitable).

i really liked your answer (: