Dear Kelsey-
We need to get a few things spoken about; better yet, I’m pretty sure the more progressive thing for us to do as roommates at this point would be
any communication in the first place. I think we’ve only had one conversation in our whole life and that was because someone else was in the room talking about something of mutual interest. You have your friends and I have ours, but it appears we both have slight conversational issues; mine personally being that I can’t stand up for myself/be aggressive if my life depended on it. The only times I ever know things like if people are coming over, like your boyfriend Justin, if you’re going home for a week because you’re sick with Swine or a bacterial infection or
whatever, is
when you’re on the phone talking to someone else about it. I just want us to get along, even if it means me having to type out a letter like this… ^^;
Even though I’m moving to another room next semester, we’re
still together until Winter break. There are a few issues I’m having that I did point out in the beginning of the year that you may have forgotten about, just to clarify. :]
1. I’ve always had this huge problem with strong odors… And there have been numerous times that you’ve sprayed perfume and hairspray and things of that nature. I’ve never spoken up about it because either you’re getting ready for something or I’m in the same rush as well. The hairspray or whatnot hasn’t really bothered me this semester, but it would be
really fantastic if you could spray the perfume in the bathroom or something like that. ^^.
2. I have absolutely no problem with people staying over in our room; it’s bound to happen at some point. But what did get to me is when you have guys over while you have a boyfriend that
aren’t your boyfriend. I’m going to end this one right here, because it’s not my concern and/or business… It’s just a personal thing that really got to me that I wanted to address… So, it would just be appreciated that if this situation had to occur again, could it possibly be relocated to the other person’s room?
I’ve also noticed that
we have no idea how to live together. I’m assuming this is the same for both of us: When I’m alone,
it’s my room. When you’re alone,
it’s your room. But when we’re together, we have
no idea how to co-exist. Whether it be music or TV or homework or sleeping or telephone calls, it’s like we have to each choose at different moments
whose room it is. I’m not expecting us to be best friends overnight or even at all, you know? But, we should still have some level of friendship since we are living together. I think we should sit down and talk about any issues we’re having; weekly ones or something if not every day, since we’re both decently busy. If necessary, one of the RA’s [Maria something] said she’d be a third party if we needed one.
Since I hate confrontation, I hope this letter is a good starting point for us to have some sort of level of communication between us. Since you’ll be out all night, if you could just text me a time when you’re free, that would be fantastic. [xxx.xxx.xxxx to text] :]
Have a good time out! ^^.
- Cassie
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