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 Posted: Sun Dec 10, 2006 3:38 pm
So I'm all over the place lookin' for scholarships 'cause I'm too dumb to deserve money from my parents for college. Either that or they just need more money for the baby. [/angryemo]
Anyway I found one where you have to send in a sports article, and since I'm the sports editor of the school newspaper, I decided to enter. And I'm really interested in any and all feedback anyone might have to offer before I submit it because it's $2000. Worth a try anyway.
Here she is:
Trio of Violent Femmes tackle sport for men
On a windy Saturday, one might expect to see some Monte Vista’s girls at the Sun Valley mall, or scarfing some fast food, or perhaps watching a popular chick-flick at the local theater. But Mari Kawahara, Natalie Bierwith, and Candace Freitas won’t be caught there this sport season—they’re probably at a wrestling tournament or practice.
On a team of 30 or so athletes, a team that is only listed as a men’s sport on the Monte Vista website, there are three girls—girls who love the sport and
Unlike other sports, the girls are not separated into different groups from the boys, even in competition. While sometimes the girls go to girls-only tournaments, when they are wrestling in JV tournaments, one’s competitors only need be in their weight class. This makes it beneficial to be lightweight and the teens often fast before a tournament.
The initial shock is almost perpetual when someone hears that Mari, Natalie, or Candace participate in wrestling. They seem to enjoy the surprised reaction that they get when telling people of their hobby, and the responses are mostly admiring.
But wrestling is not for all people who wish to escape the norm. Wrestling is arguably the most challenging sport; a few minutes in the ring and you’re panting like a Labrador. The coach and athletes challenge the glorified football players to stand one match. The Dan Gable quote that wrestlers can associate well with is “Once you’ve wrestled, everything else in life seems easier.” But the challenge is what some athletes love: the rapture that sends us back to our roots, when fighting for resources was not uncommon daily.
Wrestling like a man runs in the family for junior Candace Freitas, whose sister wrestled in college, continues her passion by helping coach the team. She makes a point to come to all the girls’ wrestling tournaments, even though that means meeting the girls at 6 in the morning on a Saturday.
“It’s really fun,” says senior Mari Kawahara. “Everyone should join it, especially girls who like beating up boys without getting in trouble.”
The boys, however, have a different opinion.
It seems that wrestling with a girl is a lose-lose situation. If a guy wins a match, then the outlook can be either unimpressed or even abhorred. But if he loses, then his masculinity may be threatened, and we all know how dire that can be. “Sometimes girls don’t get the respect from the boys that they should,” said Coach Brown.
This is not to say that all male wrestlers feel so conceded. Some believe that it’s cool that girls wrestle, and some don’t even care at all whether or not a fellow athlete has a Y chromosome.
Coach Brown is happy to have girls on the team. In fact, he thinks that these have a benefit over other wrestling teams where the girls and boys are separated, because they push themselves to keep up with the testosterone-pumped boys. “For the girls, it’s a matter of showing that they belong in the group.”
Coach assures that his dictum is clear: no one is to give any less effort due to their gender—and our girls take that tenet to heart.
Other benefits to being in wrestling are that it keeps you in shape, it looks great on a college transcript, and if you’re a girl, you always have the element of shock when someone first finds out. But perhaps the most important thing that one could obtain from wrestling is the knowledge that, as Natalie says, “success comes from the power that you have within.”
Any and all critique is really appreciated, so be as harsh as you want. My feelings aren't worth 2grand. xp Thanks!
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Posted: Sun Dec 10, 2006 4:24 pm
Rainey_angel81 My dog and I passed the obedience test!!!! I was a little worried on the direcion and control part because she reverted back to her old ways but in the last 30 seconds, she decided to go finally to the left side and you know, once she's over there it's a piece of cake to get her back to center. Otherwise, everything else was a breeze. Congrats, congrats, congrats. You are like the most awsome person ever. Your working like one of my dream jobs with all your dog training and such. I mean bomb dogs and all that good stuff. If and when I ever finally get a canine companion, I am so going to go to you for all my doggy training tip needs. X3 O.o Omg, omg, omg, I really want to get an omg. One from the real life Gaia store that is. I'm tempted to ask for one for Christmas, but I asked for a grunny last year and my parents got it for me... and well overlooking the fact it was like two weeks late, they nearly croaked when they saw how small it was. They were like... you had us spend that much money on a plushie... the size of a rat. gonk Plus there is the annoying fact you now have to have an account to order from the store so its not like I can just tell them where to order it from. Le Sigh, I wonder if I can bribe someone with a digital commission for one. <.< >.> >.< Edit- Zella- I'll read it over later and give you some feedback. Want to make sure you win that college money.
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Posted: Sun Dec 10, 2006 6:10 pm
Krissim Klaw Rainey_angel81 My dog and I passed the obedience test!!!! I was a little worried on the direcion and control part because she reverted back to her old ways but in the last 30 seconds, she decided to go finally to the left side and you know, once she's over there it's a piece of cake to get her back to center. Otherwise, everything else was a breeze. Congrats, congrats, congrats. You are like the most awsome person ever. Your working like one of my dream jobs with all your dog training and such. I mean bomb dogs and all that good stuff. If and when I ever finally get a canine companion, I am so going to go to you for all my doggy training tip needs. X3 Thanks. I'm ecstatic and it's one less thing to worry about sure thing...my mom and I are giving lessons to this woman with a terrier as a present from her husband. My mom does all the bahvior modifications and I do the actual training/teaching ^.^
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Posted: Sun Dec 10, 2006 11:59 pm
*purrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, rolls all over her bed, bluegreen pants and orange shirt clashing horrifyingly* Ahahaha... mmmm, purrr...
And I always thought you needed to be high to feel this good.
I vote group cuddle! *opens arms wide, still sprawled on the bed, and looks around excitedly*
Oh, and apparently in our dnd campaign, my chaotic neutral elf favored soul has a chaotic good bronze dragon boyfriend. I wonder what their babies will look like! biggrin Heeheehee.
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Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 5:14 am
This offer by the company to help move the family to england is causing major problems. My eldest sister desperately wants to go back to England and live there, so she's like my father who wants the same thing. My mother doesn't want to trust the company offering this. My 2nd eldest sister said that if push comes to shove, she'll move out. My last sister and me don't want to go to England as we still have Uni and such like.
So we have 2 sides..... people who want to go to england and people who don't want to trust the company and/or don't want to move.
It's tearing my family apart.... at this rate, we won't have a family, my parents will get divorced because of the fact my father and sister want to go over to England desperately. But as my mother pointed out, they'll have to have to go through the exact same problems when my sister first got her heart condition. Additionally.... we don't have the types of funds we're talking about to move the family over to England and have a 3 bedroom apartment in Australia. But the sad thing is.... I want to live alone.... but that's not going to happen especially if my family breaks up..... I'll have to live with my sister. And at the worst case scenario.... my father will be the only one to go to England which means I'll be stuck in a house full of women. And that's been identified as one of the main problems I have with my family. I'm one of the only males at home.... and my father isn't at home a lot.
I want to pull away from my family.... but not have them break apart.... I don't know what to do. I've got to do something..... I might have to influence my father into thinking logically. The fact remains... we don't have the funds to move. Or to divorce.... we're bordering on being in complete debt. There is so much I need to do.... but..... *cries softly and runs*
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Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 10:20 am
.:.absolute panic.:.
Daisey,my torte shell cat, is missing. she's somewhere in the garage,possably outside now. its freezing cold and its wet and i think theres a way out and that she's possably in the ceiling. I'm panicing, she's never been outside before in her entire life wouthout us,and i'm sitting out in the garage freezing my a** off,hoping she'll come around. I can't find her anywhere.arigh. @_@
its now 1PM. no sign of her still.
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Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 3:26 pm
So...our fridge is messed up. Fridge part is room temp. and the freezer is over-freezing. Yay for ruined food. My mom's friend Don is fixing it for us, but until then what food survived is in coolers. Hopefully, he'll be able to fix it pretty cheap 'cause we can't afford a new fridge. Hell, our washing machine has been broken forever and the dryer is on it's way out. Plus, they raised my mom's house payments...what the ********? So, no money.
Also, I'm freaking out because of exams. They're all on weird days at weird times so I'm really paranoid that I'll miss one. Not to mention I am still not caught up in math. Nor am I able to work on the commissions I have since I don't have the time and my desire to do any art flew out the window weeks ago.
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Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 3:28 pm
>_o my boyfriend came to potbellys with me this afternoon and i went out and bought him a gift. I gave it to him, and i was excited cause later that afternoon he promised ice skating to me. he left 20 minutes later cause he had plans with his friends and he forgot about our plans. I may sound desperate....but ive been going through a lot and i was looking foreward to our date....
so im sitting here at potbellys with me lap and just marinating ._.;
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Posted: Tue Dec 12, 2006 12:53 am
I'm on the phone with NG and she's all blushy. X3 She loves me so much, it's cute... ~Giggles~ She's so cute~ I just want to cuddle her to death!
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Posted: Tue Dec 12, 2006 4:14 am
I've lost my kitten and my fiance all in the same month. Tis the season to be lonely... sweatdrop
Anyways, I feel some ranting is due, so I'm going to just vent my little fingers off. *nodnods*
I know this is a huge wall of text, so you don't have to actually read it. Like I said, I feel the need to rant but in a place where the person mentioned won't find it like he would if I put it in a journal.
For starters, around two years ago I met a guy online, half a country away. He quickly became my best friend because we had so much in common. We did voice chats and webcams and voice chats with webcams. He comforted me when I was down. He made me laugh. Made me smile. We truly were best friends through and through.
Skip ahead half a year, and he asks me to marry him...but he'd just broken up with another girl that wanted to marry him. I considered it for a while and eventually said yes because our closeness had led to me having a crush on him (and he had openly admitted to having a crush on me). So we were engaged.
I have a daughter, who at the time was ten years old. She already looked up to him as a father since the moment we became best friends (he had a major part in her upbringing simply by talking to us). He got her involved, telling her all about the engagement. He swore to her that things would get better, and he and I would get married.
A few months after we got engaged, things began to get strange. He would avoid me for the stupidest of reasons and neglect to talk to me. But I put up with it. I figured he was just very stressed out. A lot had been going on in his life and he was between jobs without a way to pay rent. He had to enlist help of the girl that once was his fiance. They began to fake-date. Apparently he got back together with her, only he told me it was just fake to get her to help him out financially...
As much as I hated knowing he was using someone, I cared more about him than some random girl that I didn't know much. Thus I let him do it. Big mistake...over the following year he kept breaking up with her and getting back with her much to the point that I just ignored it all. Every single bit of it. I pretended she didn't exist. I was deeply in love with him, so I wasn't going to break it off.
By about two months ago, he had given me his Gaian username and password, asking me to earn gold for him. He was my fiance, of course I would (especially since he didn't have as much online time as I did). I even gave him about 30k worth of items that I purchased with my own gold or was sold for a discount from friends that wanted to let me help out my fiance. Nice, right? Right. I even gave him my Halloween Uni on Neopets as well as a few thousand neopoints there.
Well, by a month ago, my fiance knew everything about me and had even convinced me to get my nipples pierced for him. However, things were changing some...he seemed to be touchy so much and hurt me with things he knew I didn't like. He also began drinking a lot more often than usual even though he knew I preferred that he not drink until drunk and he only have the occasional buzz if anything. I was getting impatient at remaining his dirty little secret from this fake-fiance of his, as I felt he shouldn't be leading her on/using her and I deserved to be public.
Last Thursday, the girl snooped on his computer and found some of our correspondence. Of all things, she had to find sexual things. Ugh! So she confronted him. He told me she knew and to just refrain from noting him on websites that he'd take care of it and be back in a day or so.
Four days and several angry notes from that girl later and he returns. But does he say anything nice? Nooo! He's pretending as if I never existed. He's harassing my good friends that stood up for me and had met him first-hand thus KNEW he knew I existed and was my fiance. He then starts harrassing me! He says I treated him like s**t. He said that my upset reaction to losing my fiance in this manner was just a "stupid hang-up" of mine. He called me a dumbass. He accused me of lying. He even accused me of being my friend...who was online at the same bloody time talking to him! evil
By the end of that day (the day before yesterday), I had been called everything from a "stupid c**t" to an "assmonger" by him...simply for stating facts and not allowing him to mistreat me without me standing up for myself. (Pardon the language, but I wanted to make the true harshness of what he said known by saying what he'd called me.) He kept calling me horrible things. When I asked him how he could treat me this way and play me like that, he said "very easily actually."
So I end up talking with the girl that he had been using and was now claiming to be his real fiance. It turns out that she knew he was lying when he said I was never his fiance. She found out...
I have to tell my daughter because she keeps pressing me for why I'm upset and even asked about my once-fiance. She then spends a while crying, then a while being angry. (I later found out that during her schooling - homeschooled by a qualified friend of mine - she had pretty much cried for at least an hour. Her biological father was a total manipulative liar-jerk, and that's exactly what the man she looked up to as a father had just proven himself to be.)
Then, yesterday morning I find that he's offerend me a trade on Gaia that, in the title, accuses me of hacking his account. In it he "returned the gifts I'd given him" but really he only offered 3k worth of the 30k+ worth in items I'd given him. I deny the trade and send him a PM on Gaia telling him that when you give someone your password and ask them to earn gold for you it means they have permission to go into the account and earn gold.
Later yesterday, he shows up and refuses to talk until I voice chat him (even though I didn't want to hear his voice as it hurt too much). He says that he's very drunk and that makes it hard to type. I ask him for answers and get nothing more than drunken ramblings that make no sense. I think he had said something like "How the hell do you think you went from one end of the spectrum to the other. That's just my logic and I'm point of view." He was slurring like hell and sounded so drunk you could have pierced his groin with a rusty nail and he'd not notice.
He then spontaneously goes offline and doesn't return until many hours later. He proceeds to apologize to me many times and say "I ******** up" many times. I thought perhaps things would be perfect from there but I was wrong. He said he was "putting everyone back in their place" and that I was meant as a best friend. I pretty much broke down at that. It was my proof: he never loved me. But just to be sure, I asked him if he'd ever loved me when we were engaged. He replied "as a friend." Grr....just effin' GRRR! confused
Obviously I told him that what he did was rotten and we already loved each other as friends before we were engaged and that I didn't know if I could trust him anymore...
He proceeded to ask me to be his best friend again. He said he truly missed being my friend. I'm not sure I believe him, though. Why should/would I be okay with having my fiance of one and a half years demote me to 'best friend'?! crying
And yet...I told him that I'd consider it but he had to earn my trust back. Not much later I think of Gaia and let him know that I didn't appreciate him saying such horrible accusations when he had given me permission to log into his account, handed me the password, and all I did was earn gold for him. Mind you, I had gone into his account the night before to simply see how much gold he had (and even lurked the forums to earn him some gold) as I wanted to see if it would be worth it to ask that he return the 2k gold I'd loaned him a month prior. Anyways, I pointed out that browsing was earning gold and the fact that I saw his gold count was irrelevant as it's going to be up there and he knew it when he asked me to earn gold. His argument was that it was 'unauthorized' but that's bull. Apparently he thought that him being an a** to me breached the permission given. neutral
I swear, I've never seen someone so pig-headed and stubborn! I do him huge favours by earning him gold and then this is the s**t he comes back with?! Luckily, he's not stupid enough to try to report such things as he knows I didn't really do anything he hadn't authorized me to do.
Even after that, I still somehow found it in my heart to tell him that he had a chance to be my best friend again. I'm not really sure if that was a good choice, though, as I think he's just manipulating my emotions as he doesn't want me to be angry at him when he knows it was all his fault in the first place. A part of me refuses to let go. I loved him, and still do love him, with my very heart and soul. So if I get a special title such as 'best friend' again, I suppose it gives me that false hope I need to survive for the first while after the breakup. And hopefully he really will turn back into the awesome best friend that I once had...
*deep breath*
As for my kitten...I had a kitten that had only been a year old for a few months. Two or three weeks ago, he disappeared and I haven't seen him since. I've asked neighbours, I've asked people several miles away, I've even checked animal shelters and went through trash bins looking for him! He's nowhere to be found. sad
I was very close to my kitten, especially since I'm a cat person, and I miss him even more than I would miss my leg if it were to fall off. ._.
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Posted: Tue Dec 12, 2006 7:54 am
Just letting you guys know... NG has a slight problem with the internet.... I can't think of a solution to help her, but it's possible to contact her via email if she contacts you.
@Keikara, I feel sorry for you. I wish there were more males with feelings.... hardly any now. Frankly.... it's upto you to trust him again, but don't let him do it to you again.
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Posted: Tue Dec 12, 2006 8:03 am
Keikara by that post, it is very clear you know what you need to do, and I'm sure it is clear to anyone else willing to be honest with you, get the hell out of the relationship. It is dead end. It is clear from his past and present actions, how he is going to act in the future.
Sadly, you partially brought this upon yourself. You knew he was cheating on one girl, that alone says leaps and bounds about his character. Is that what you want, a manipulative, cheater for a friend who is already playing you like a fiddle? I'm not saying your emotions for him aren't real, but at this point, it isn't love anymore. He doesn't love you, if he did he would have never gotten back with the other girl, he would have never said all those horrible things.
Right now, your pretty much only one rung higher than a girl that sticks with a guy who beats her. What does this guy offer from here? Nothing but heartbreak. You need to just shut him out and move on. If for nothing more, do it for your daughter. Is this the kind of loser you want her to fall in love with one day?
You knew things were shady going into it, especially when things started to go South. You need to just tell him off, and pop him on your ignore list. Change your email/user name if neccessary, but you need to just let go and move on. If you aren't willing to step away now, when will it be? How long will you let him use you, be emotionally attached to someone who will never give you the kind of love you our your daughter deserve?
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Posted: Tue Dec 12, 2006 9:08 am
24 hours later and not ANY sign of my baby. neutral
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Posted: Tue Dec 12, 2006 9:13 am
UglyCoyoteNG 24 hours later and not ANY sign of my baby. neutral
Damn confused
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Posted: Tue Dec 12, 2006 9:48 am
Sheol - neutral I hate you.SOOOOO much.
Keikara - Don't you even think about trusting that dickwad again! How could he?argh. This is totaly why i'm a lesbian. e_e
Crenn - Thank you for that. It randomly decided to work now.
Diana - Yes. Damn indeed. :/
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