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There is nothing in the Qur'an that says "Men and women shall not date" it just says that they should not be left alone in a room or the like cuz that would lead them to sin as is the human nature.

I think we should take into consideration that there are a lot of divorces going on because women today realize that they have a right to be loved by their men.

Let's be honest here, show me one woman that wouldn't want to be showered with love and attention by her Fiancee'. Women love to feel special and when they marry a man prior to getting to know him they realize that this is not the one for me.

dating is just another way to get to know someone before you completely commit to them. But I do agree to the fact that there should be no physical contact between the two whatsoever, not because it's haram but because it's not very respectful to the person you are with.

IN ISLAM YOU CAN NOT DATE OR HAVE PHYSICAL CONTACT WITH THE OPOSIT GENDER UNTILL YOU MARRY THEM
THER IS ABSILUTLY NOTHING WRON WITH FALLING IN LOVE IN ISLAM.

Can someone give me a definition of what dating means to you?

Cuz to me it just means two people who are serious about each other spending some time together. Just as you would in an engagement. Or do you think that when people are engaged they just accept their fate and never see their future spouse until their wedding day?

Dating is to get together with someone, alone (and by alone I mean like to a restaurant where you're in full view of people cuz we all know that two people, unmarried, should never be left completely alone) to get to know each other better without the pressure of the family hanging over you. And this should only happen when the two are engaged.

Dating is the whole touching, flirting deal. & even while being in a restaurant, you are still spending time alone with that person. If you really want to get to know them, use the internet as a means of talking or spend time with them with an older member of your family watching. They say that when a man & woman are alone & aren't married, the third being there is Shaytaan. Being alone with someone tends to build tensions, sexual tensions that are difficult to avoid for anyone. Loving someone is different because you can both agree that you will wait to get married until later (when you can provide for each other, etc). You can both turn your gaze & you can both still get to know each other by asking questions & other things. Love is okay, but lust is not. Allah (SWT) knows all in our hearts & minds.

I've never in my life had a boyfriend, kissed, walked arm and arm/hand an hand with a male ever an to be honest? I'm glad that I haven't and I'm glad that I'd be saving it for that ONE special person in my life. I feel that even if I weren't lucky enough to be born a Muslim, I would still not date because I'm just not like that. I'm not sure how my life would have been if i weren't a Muslim, but think about it this way: many kufars and people that date at a young age end up losing their virginity at a young age end up getting married at a young age and having kids and then what? Divorce. In Islam of course divorce is allowed, but it's the very last resort. So you barely have divorced Muslims. Islam is wonderful. Those girls out there that feel that they want a boyfriend and they want to be like the kufars, please do not. Use your minds and think about it. The way of Islam is not only better? But it's right and it makes sense! We will all find our match one day Insha'allah, but we must be patient. Allah (swt) loves those who have patience.

oh ur a boy.

heheh i was wondering cuz of ur short hair, and ur flower pants xD

I guess u may be right. But they have gf's to u know, pass the time? =)

u see its not as simple as that in this contemporary world...

iv fallen in really love with a girl whom existance brings me closer to Allah...
gives me a purpose in life and now i know for what i am born...

should i just go ahead and ask her to marry me right away? shes not religious u know... i takes a hard work to make 2 different life perspective into 1.... to be understanding one another.... until then... ill take care of her meanwhile...

-u can still date without kissing, ********, touching...
-u can make love as something to grow ur religion & connection to Allah....

thats just my life experience and opinion... ofcourse Allah knows the best... im just a stupid human.. and Allah plz fix me if im wrong....