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That's probably one of the rudest things I've ever seen you post.

You know, there are always circumstances. I'm not sure, but my period is a week and a half late. I'm getting tested this weekend.

Some kinds of birth control just don't work for me. I was on depo for a year, and finally stopped because it was wreaking havoc on my emotional state and made me gain a lot of weight. I can't go on the pill because I'm very forgetful and WOULD eventually forget to take it. I've been contemplating the Nuva Ring, but frankly, I don't have a lot of money, and I got quoted that each ring would cost me $30.

I have no idea how it happened. There were no scares, there wasn't any point where we had unprotected sex. The only things I can think of is the condom broke, or he raped me in my sleep. And I seriously doubt the second. I'm a light sleeper.

Added to all the other s**t I've been going through that I haven't posted for sanity's sake, I really don't need any attitude for not doing anything wrong. Accidents happen, dammit. I personally am prepared to carry it to term and put it up for adoption, but I don't think Dan could handle that. And there's always the complications. My best option is an abortion, but.. it's not that easy to choose. It's easy to decide just on principle, but when it's actually something that might have to be an option.. it's not quite so easy.

I don't know. I just.. you don't have to be so damned flippant about it. "What? You might be pregnant? That means you must be a careless slut!" is what it felt like you meant. And I don't need that. I've got my mother for that.

I understand, and I'm sorry for getting kind of "omfg grr" at you. I should've said more first.

I've talked to Dan about it, and he's said he'll be supporting me no matter what I decide. I honestly don't think I'm ready financially to take care of a child, but... it's stupid, but I really want to. It's really upsetting that I'll have to give up this chance because I can't give it the care it needs. So that leaves either abortion or adoption.

On one hand, it seems that it'd be pretty emotionally devastating to give birth to a baby and then give it away, and the pregnancy itself would be an emotional rollercoaster in and of itself.. but... abortion. It's my (foolish, probably) belief that any life, even a miserable one, is preferable over oblivion. Sure, it never would've had the chance to have any experiences, but.. it still seems rather heartless.

I'm biased also, because my birth mother was in a similar situation (as far as my understanding goes). She was a senior in highschool... but I'm torn. I don't know if I could be as strong as she was. So I'm torn.

Dan's theory that the antibiotics coupled with all the stress I've been under might be screwing around with my cycle. I'll know this weekend. I'm probably making a big deal over nothing. Just.. better safe than sorry, right? And after all this is over, I might just go on depo again, or see if I can get insurance to pay for the Nuva rings. Accidents aside, I still feel like I'm somehow at fault here..

Well, do you really want to give birth to a child only to send it into a bland, unloving system for many years of it's life? And then have it hunt you down and possibly tell you that they hate you for giving them up?

I would say that it is far kinder to abort it than to give birth to it. You might be sad about having to do it, but at this stage, the thing doesn't have an identity, doesn't have feelings, doesn't feel pain.

Praises onto you for having integrity and convictions. Too many look at abortion as simply another form of birth control, but getting an abortion is not and should not be an easy decision.

I personally feel that it is the wisest decision, if you are pregnant, that you plan to go through with an abortion. However, I am sympathetic to your beliefs and I am not so cold hearted as to have no feelings towards the loss of a potential life, my mind just always goes towards what is most logical, what makes the most sense.

As human beings, sometimes are decisions are not always based on logical thought because we are also driven by our emotions. I do not feel that should not ignore either one, while I believe it is foolish to not listen to one's own reason I also believe it to be foolish to ignore one's heart.

Heart, mind and soul... we must learn to listen to each of these and allow them to guide us down the paths we choose with no regrets.

I split a little vindaloo sauce on the floor and before I could clean it, Toby (my sister's dog) licked it up..... and proberly regretting it.

My family doesn't see the funny side of it, oh well, but I'm getting into trouble about it xP

Holy s**t guys.

Katzekinder, you have no reason to apologize to Di and every right to have been "omfg grr." The reasoning behind the statement was stupid. Forming an opinion on so little information is not wise, and automatically assuming someone wasn't careful just because a lot of people aren't is generalizing. Not to mention it was tasteless, in-compassionate and completely rude. Even if the assumption was correct, you don't just say that to someone, especially in a situation like this! Good lord.

As for Fog, you're not taking into consideration the other aspects of an abortion. Sure, it'll fix her problems and maybe it's not truly a life this early on in development. However, they can be very emotionally and physically damaging. Including but not limited to severe depression and a higher chance of miscarriage in the future if she does want a child. I certainly do not feel it is "far kinder" to be rid of it, if it does exist.

As for my advice on the situation: Your choice what you want to do with the child if you are pregnant, and I think you're handling things well so far. Just try not to get too worked up til you know if you're pregnant or not; lots of things could mess with your cycle. Hell, mine is about two weeks late this month and I'm a virgin and pretty sure I'm not having Jesus. I sincerely hope things work out okay and I'm very glad you have some support.