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At my college, we have a pre-finals watermelon smashing contest. You pay 5 bucks (for use of a sledgehammer and and two watermelons) and, after placing said fruit on a couple sheets of plywood, you go to town on those babies. It's fun and it helps you vent.

Of course, I don't know if you have the time to go about smashing fruit...so I dunno what else to tell you.

Everyone vents in a slightly different ways. You could try beating up abuse-friendly inanimate objects, or shouting and screaming until you go hoarse, even at the expense of being thought a complete psycho.

You know, this stuff would make better journals on FA.

Anyways, I can empathize witht he multiple job s**t. I did that twice, and Ill never do it again unless Im absolutely ******** money wise. I really need time to myself. Its good though that youre taking a week to make a decision rather than just acting. Always good to think things out with jobs. Good luck with the resume by the way.

Meh, forget about ralationships, learn to be happy without them, and thats when youll land one. Happened to most people I know.

PSO is better than PSU in my opinion. Whats up with your roommates? Munchkins, weeaboos? They trying to make there own character self wank fest rather than play a game? Or are they the type thats just interested in gaming and no actual RPing? Which I think would be odd in a whitewolf system (changeling is WW right?), rather than say a more battle oriented system like D&D or a more abuseable system like besm.

Shadows sweet embrace- You did the right thing. Contacting the other woman out of spite or to be used like a tool by your parents would have been wrong. It shows you have a good head on your shoulders to not be bullied around even if the bullies are your family members.

I'm not sure by your post how far your mother and Richard went, but if it was far enough where you think the woman should be informed and it is eating away at you, just write an anonymous generic letter to her. Don't let anyone know you did it, and don't specify any names in the letter of those involved. Just keep it simple she can find out all the gritty details if she chooses to look into it. Chances are there have already been warning signs to Richard's wife and she can choose to continue ignoring them or deal with it on her own.



Af Mas- I would drop which ever of the jobs you like least. I know your excited about being done with school and want to start pumping in a nice income, but I don't think this is the best way to spend your time. Instead I would keep one job and focus all the extra time on finding the job you really want instead of dragging an extra job you don't. In the long run it will pay off far more.

As for roommates, yah they suck most of the time. I tried the roommate thing with a friend and we aren't friends anymore. It is sad considering how close we were beforehand, but living with someone isn't easy. Even married, supposed in love people break up 50 percent of the time. Tell them you need some alone time and a break from the GM stuff. Pull the I'm working two jobs card if you need to. Even better, try to talk with them. A real conversation. Don't accuse but use words like I feel and I'm so your not throwing the blame in any one direction. Just be honest and tell them your burnt out and need some space.

I wish I could help with the relationship problems, but at this point I think the best thing to do is take a break. You aren't ready for one right now. Your too stressed, tired, and your trying to get into one for the wrong reasons. I just don't want to see you hurt jumping into something right now. *hugs*



Eddily- I think taking a break from your friend is a good thing. Who knows, in a month he might have found out the other person isn't right for him and be able to think more clearly on trying something with you.

Outside of that, I also don't think you are ready right now for a relationship. Your afraid of being alone, but the truth is it is better to be alone than attach yourself to someone out of fear. Not only is it not fair to them, but it will mean your not there should the right person come walking by. Fear, guilt, paranoia, these are things you need to take care of before you start a relationship. It is hard enough to make one work when both people come to the table healthy, happy, and ready to work at it. I blame society at times for the way it makes single people feel like crap. It's okay not to have a mate.

I wish I could be there to hug you in person, I could use a real life person to hug myself right now. Just don't give up on yourself, or beat yourself into the ground. Everyone feels alone sometimes, but as long as you have even one person to talk to, your not. *offers the only hug she can over the internet*

*slaps*

No, stuff like this is exactly what this thread was made for.

I don't ever want to see you make a comment like this ever again.

Many people in their younger years believe that is the best way to live and handle relationships. However, it has been my experience that it is only a matter of time till those with that kind of life-style learn just how alone they really are.

Temporary happiness and instant gratification will never out do long lasting happiness built up upon a strong foundation.

Most of us seek companionship, I have met very few people in my life that are content in being alone. Hell, most people that post on the internet are just looking for some attention.

The problem is that most people are just clueless on how to enter a relationship, or when in one to maintain it. A great deal of people look at relationships as a steady source of sex rather than the emotional support they should be. A relationship built on sex doesn't work, but sex can also be very important. Beyond sex itself, physical contact and affection is a very large part of any relationship. Unfortunatly, people often confuse sex with affection. They really are not the same thing, it is just that sex can be affectionate of the deep feelings are there.

I see so many get into and stay in relationships for the wrong reasons. People get lonely and often attach themselves to the first person to show them attention, tricking themselves to thinking they are falling in love when the other person is just being a friend. A lot of people believe that they must be in a relationship at all times to quickly bounce from one to the other, not giving themselves enough time to sort out their true feelings. Others still cling onto a relationship they know is not working out and while they usually say they don't want to hurt the other person, the truth is they are just afraid of being alone again.

They there are those that have fear of commitment, these are often the people that make claim to sleeping around a lot while never getting serious. These people want to have their jollies but have no consideration for other people's feeling and the reason they remain out of a serious relationship is because they know they are going to cheat in the first place.

Then there are those that have multiple sex partners at the same time and try to claim they are in a serious relationship. Truth be told they are similar to those above, they don't want to commit because they would rather be able to have sex with whomever they want, but at the same time they are also deeply afraid of being alone so like to seek out people they feel they can lean on for emotional support and not just sex. Basically, they create themselves a safety net, if a relationship with one person falls through they always have another lined up.

I have also ran across people that are afraid to be alone but at the same time are deathly afraid of being in a serious relationship. They will get into relationships that are either doomed to fail from the start or find ways to get out of the relationship by sabotaging it. They often feel great about being in a new relationship and appear to be happy, but overtime they feel they have made a mistake and the person they are with is not right for them so either end it themselves or do something to make the other person break up with them.

People do not spend enough time actually dating before trying to create a seriously relationship. Take your time, get to know the person, sort out your feelings for them and let them do the same. Just spend time together, become friends and after awhile see if both agree there is any deeper feelings there. Don't rush into it, don't call them your boyfriend/girlfriend/mate after only a couple of dates. Don't have sex too early, sex too soon in a relationship can doom it from the beginning. You should probably not even be physically affectionate till after at least three dates and from there you take your time, exploring each other little by little as you get more comfortable with each other till you feel that you truely want to be with that person.

My personal opinion is that unless all those involved can say, without a shadow of a doubt, that they want to be together for the rest of their lives than you are not really in love with each other and the relationship was just not meant to be.

I do applaud Ed for telling this other person how he feels and gave them a chance to absorb and respond. Perhaps Ed is confused about his feelings and is latching onto this person because they have been a good friend and he simply desires to have someone in his life he knows he likes and believes he can trust. What I fear is that this other person may agree to push things beyond friendship out of guilt, or curiosity over any actual deep desire to be in a relationship. If that is the case than it will not end up going well and there is potential for a friendship to be lost. They may be better off just being good friends.

Mind you, I am all for friends with benefits, but even with this there is a right and wrong way to establish that kind of friendship. First of all you need to make sure that those involved to not have any deeper feelings and will start to confuse the sex with affection. Secondly, if after time deeper feelings start to come forth than one needs to speak up and share those feelings right away. Sex can change things, often in undesirable ways. A lot of people try and dismiss sex as being purely physical and that others take it too seriously, what they feel to realize is just how sex affects one emotionally. It is serious, it is part of being in a relationship and as with all things a proper balance must be kept or things fall apart.

*shun*

However I watch him on FA, and his journals (despite a header warning otherwise) are often a paragraph at most, and dont really get much into what he does.

Therefore itd be nifty if he made use of that.

I dont ever want to see you asterix rp with me in a thread again. xp

I apologize for my harshness. To me it sounded as if you were belittling Affy for posting about his problems here rather than someplace else. I see now that you only meant it would be nice to see it posted on FA.

*pokes sides*

As for asterix rp's... I'll do those as much as I damn well please. twisted