AFG Sallies

[Selene Aries]

Aijo_Iceblood

i need a little help from my fellow furries. i start college next week and i am tryin to work two jobs s tat i can afford it and gas, and car insurance and an engagement ring. well i am having a huge issue that i am worried that my girlfriend (soon to be fiance) and i will grow apart due to us not getting to see each other enough. i just got over a year and a halfs worth of depression. and the stress from the next couple of months to come is already sending me in a downward spiral back to depression. Megan, my girlfriend, swears that nothing will cause us to grow apart and i want to believe that, but i'm worried that it is one of those things that you can't control. I just don't know what to do. Any tips?

Nothing you can really do but keep communications between each other open. One thing I would suggest is to maybe hold off on the whole engagement ring deal. If you are finding yourself uncertain about your relationship and earning money money for the ring is causing undo stress do yourself a favor and remove one of the factors causing you stress.

Besides, it is not like getting engaged is going to act as any kind of insurance your relationship will hold together. As well, you don't need a ring to get engaged. I know quite a few couples that get engaged and get a ring letter when they can more afford one.  

[Aijo_Iceblood]

i dont plan to get the ring as insurance...we are already planning to get married after college is done. we have to wait for 2 yrs. i love her so much and i know that wont change. if it wasn't for the fact that we were so young, i would propose now and make it official. But i am only 17 and she just turned 18. i will be 18 in december. i guess when we are done college we will be about 20 so i guess that is a good age. i only want to buy her a ring now cause it just seems like the thing to do. i want to propose soonish but we wont get married till after school.  

[Selene Aries]

Oh boy... young love.

Seriously have no advice for you hun. sweatdrop To me, neither of you have experienced enough to have any clue what you really want, just what you want right now.

Being apart, going to collage, experience new things and meeting new people. Things are going to change, a lot, and there is no real way for you to be prepared for when they do.

As I said before, the most you can do is keep your lines of communication open and hope for the best. Life is just too uncertain to say how it will all turn out in the end.  

[Aijo_Iceblood]

i suppose.....
i don't see any future with out her. i don't want to meet any one else. so i guess i should just deal with it as well as i can and then let it go the path it will go. idk.... i will deal some way or another. i would say alcohol helps.....but i don't rele drink. and i dont smoke either....either way i think that would cause more problems than it would solve.  

[shoki_de_nai]

17/18 year olds have no business getting married anyway. Not to sound harsh, but young marriages have a lot of problems/tend to fall apart.
You have puppy love kiddo, let it grow some and experience more of life before you go tying any knots.  

[Krissim Klaw]

Not all young love is doomed to failure. My mother married my father the day after she turned 18 and they have been together for some obscenely long amount of time. I forget the exact number something over 35 years or so.  

[Sadinda]

It depends on the couples marrying at a young age. There are certainly a large number of young couples that marry young and are able to remain together for a long time. Whereas some are unable to.  

[shoki_de_nai]

So, my mom went to see a specialist in Iowa City today. The good news: she's not dieing. The even better news: her heart is fine. The bad news: THE PEOPLE AT THE FIRST HOSPITAL GAVE HER THE WRONG INFO AND NEVER CALLED US TO SAY "OOPS!"
All the time and money spent at the cardiologist for him to say that there's not and never was an aneurysm in her heart. However, she may have a malfunction in her digestive system (she's been throwing up a lot, which could explain her chest pains),maybe her..um...thing that closes off your stomach to stop acid from leaking may be broken (sorry, I'm CLEARLY not a doctor) so she gets to go see a gastro-whatever person next. So, she's still got some problem somewhere, but nothing life threatening.

I am so upset. We were all freaking out, thinking my mom's heart was going to explode and she was going to die. FOR NOTHING.

I'm happy she's okay...but God...I was so freaked out.  

[Aijo_Iceblood]

shoki_de_nai

17/18 year olds have no business getting married anyway. Not to sound harsh, but young marriages have a lot of problems/tend to fall apart.
You have puppy love kiddo, let it grow some and experience more of life before you go tying any knots.

That isn't bad advice....not advice imma follow, but not bad advice. her and i have been dating for over a year. her parents invited me to live with em when they move. i love her more than life it self and i would do anything for her. she is the only thing that keeps me sane and sober. trust me, if u ever saw her and i together, you would know that it is much more than "puppy love"

Krissim Klaw

Not all young love is doomed to failure. My mother married my father the day after she turned 18 and they have been together for some obscenely long amount of time. I forget the exact number something over 35 years or so.

it is people like that that make me feel better about our decision.

i know that we will last. her and i discussed the whole issue. we worked out our school and work schedules so we will have time together. i don't think i am takin the second job. it is too much stress and i don't need the stress from it. i am havin a hard enough time with my family troubles. so thanks for all you advice. i know many people think that i am to young to get married but it is kind of a family thing where we are usually married before we are 21. i found the one i want to be with and now that i am with her...i am never gonna leave her. come hell or high water...we will last and there truly isn't any thing that will come between us....i wont let anything affect us.  

[shoki_de_nai]

Aijo_Iceblood

shoki_de_nai

17/18 year olds have no business getting married anyway. Not to sound harsh, but young marriages have a lot of problems/tend to fall apart.
You have puppy love kiddo, let it grow some and experience more of life before you go tying any knots.

That isn't bad advice....not advice imma follow, but not bad advice. her and i have been dating for over a year. her parents invited me to live with em when they move. i love her more than life it self and i would do anything for her. she is the only thing that keeps me sane and sober. trust me, if u ever saw her and i together, you would know that it is much more than "puppy love"

Have it your way kid. I'm pretty sure you'll regret not waiting down the road, even if you stay with this girl. But yeah, you do have puppy love. That young, naive, gushing, "nothing can get in the way of love" stuff you're spouting is what I'd call puppy love. Trust me, life ain't all sunshine and rainbows just because you've stayed with someone for a year (which isn't that long really), and love isn't enough to get you through. Don't be shocked if NOTHING works out.

EDIT: Oh, and to clear something up. I know age is just a number, but MOST people that old are not grown up enough for a mature, committed relationship. Some people are mature for their age and it works. I know I shouldn't be jumping to conclusions about someone's maturity, but he sounds his age. Just saying.  

[[-Erik-]]

I agree.

This takes some serious experience.

 

[Aijo_Iceblood]

meh.....it will go where it goes. i'll just have to accept were it ends up. we will find out when it all comes together.  

[Selene Aries]

Life will tell. None of knows how it will all turn out.  

[Sunegami]

The only bit of advice I would give is this: don't do anything just because you think you should. My fiancé and I have been together for almost 8 years. We've lived together for over 3 years. We just got engaged 4 months ago, and are marrying next year in July. I say you should live together (assuming you're not already) for 1 full year-- minimum-- before you make any decisions.  

[Selene Aries]

They say you never really know someone till you live with them. I have come to learn this first hand.

*glomps Sune new art*

OMG so cute and fluffy!