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A burden my mother calls me.

-Fancy R

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Posted: Mon Sep 20, 2010 7:46 pm

Well. When I was little, I used to be best friends with my mom. What I mean by this... I guess you could say...I believed she was my best friend pretty much all my life I had been crawling up obsticles just to please her. And, I have now I realized I've been just pleasing her, and not myself. All my life...I feel like its been wasted. What made me realize this..? When she told me two things which broke me...

1. Im Just a Burden. Another mouth to feed, Unwanted.

2. She doesn't trust me. She sees me as a lazy, irresponsible, daughter who can't do anything right.

She only says this because I stopped pleasing her and started to make myself happy. I tried balancing out, but she just yells at me, she is never happy with me.

I know theres more to life than pleasing your own mother, but at this point..I just want her trust, I don't want her too see me as a burden...I want her to love me.

Clique. Bah.
It pisses me off that my own mother looks at her daughter with disgust. Parents should accept there children...why won't she accept me...? I don't know where I messed up. Was it when I started to show my true self?

How do you re-earn trust?
How do you get your own mother to love you...?

Sorry for this...I try to solve my own problems.
But I can't understand where I went wrong with mom. I thought...of all people...your parents would understand you.

Posted: Mon Sep 20, 2010 8:04 pm

Hey there. Sorry to hear you're having trouble.
Some kids don't connect very well with their parents. But just know that you're a very smart, unique girl. I've seen it just talking to you on here.
It's sort of a hard situation, especially since you can't balance it.
I suppose it comes down to how you're pleasing either you or her.
I mean, working hard in school. That's something you should already do, not just for your mom but yourself.
As for other things, it's always smart to look out for yourself and your family. Like school, some things go hand in hand.
I really cannot agree with what your mother told you though.
No child's a burden. They're a gift.
With what she was saying, I'm a bit leary of her definition of "lazy". I mean, those words sound like she must have been pretty angry or something.
But if you ARE lazy (Which I would bet you're not.) that's something your mom should talk to you about and work on.
It sounds like you and your mom just need to talk this one out. if you can't come to an agreement, maybe a third person would help.
I mean, coming from a friend who doesn't know much about your family, there's only so much I can do to help but talking to someone you trust about it if it doesn't work out with your mom is the next best thing, right?
That's just a bit of my opinion.
Hope it helps.
I hate to see a friend down. Feel better, Rissa. ♥

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-Fancy R

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Posted: Mon Sep 20, 2010 8:22 pm

Awwww, Thank you Valentine.
What you said did make me feel better just a bit. (: Before I kinda locked myself in my room and started to cry. >.>
I agree with you though. A child is a gift. And to answer your question if im lazy or not...I can be sometimes. But I do my homework, do my chores...etc. There are some days where I feel braindead and just want to sleep. x.x
As for your advice...
I've tried talking to her about it... well, shes one of those people who will listen to you, and then ignore everything you said. And from that point, she will only hear herself and'll only listen to what she wants to hear from you.
Pretty much, I ended up getting in trouble for being sassy and got grounded from TV. x.x.

I haven't talked it out with any of my other friends in real life because...I don't want too stress them out.
But I realize as I created thie forum Im probably stressing people out worldwide. *insert epic fail here*
But thank you Valentine. Seriously, even if I've done it..It always helps to hear it again.

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