Hey everyone, I'd like to hear your comments.

[Akatsuki Vash]

So, I'm not telling you guys this so you guys pity me or anything.
I'm telling you guys this 'cause I want to know what you guys think.
And I can't tell this to people I know in real life to hear their comments.

So my girlfriend broke up with me over MSN.
It was so suddenly, we were talking just like any other day, then she just popped the question "Do you want to break up?"
I asked her why, and she said that she doesn't want me to get hurt.
I ask her why I would get hurt, she said that since some of her family members are parts of gangs, they might not like her going out with me, a half white half hmong kid who doesn't speak hmong and is a Christian.
So she says she is scared I'd get beaten up and she doesn't want me to get hurt.
But I don't think that was the real reason.
Later on in our conversation she says that she still loves me, but we should just be friends right now 'cause we didn't know each other that long before we started to go out.
That part confused me. She loves me, but she doesn't want to go out anymore.
Then later she asked if we would still talk and I told her yes.
She then goes on telling me how she feels like she is making a bad choice letting a "perfect guy" like me go. She says people would think she is crazy and that she is a slut.
I don't really understand this.

Before we broke up, she asked me if I wanted to.
I told her I didn't want to, but it would be a waste for me and her if only one of us wanted to be in a relationship.
She asks me if I would take her back if she asked to be taken back, what do I say to that?  

[Swat Team Leader]

Most girls that break up with me i never go back with ever again (and sometimes never hang out ever again), but if she wants to go back out with you ask her why she should go back with you. Love has lots of meanings my friend, some people just go out with a girl because she is cute, but for me i go out with someone that makes me happy all the time and make me laugh. But if she really wants to go out with you again just ask her for 1 reason.  

[CrimsonsDecayingRose]

i'm sorry, but i really don't have all that much advice. :/
It sounds like, more than anything, she's confused. Her head, gut, and heart are telling her different things. Speaking on her half, i think she needs to spend a little while by herself, and understand what her integrity tells her to do.
So, she might reason this as a "break," but i don't know.
i would say that you might need to back off slightly, to give her room to think. But really, what is your heart telling you to do? Go from there. wink  

[kabulin]

I know that as a person you don't know online, I don't really have a right to say anything. Well, since you do know her, then hopefully you know her enough to know what kind of a person she is and if she really means it. It sounds like she is afraid and she doesn't have any confidence in your relationship. Sounds like she wants you to make it official and help her in her confusion. Overall, I think you both need to talk face to face to clear this up. Talking over msn and just reading a person's words are not as powerful as seeing their facial reaction to what you are saying.

Hope things turn out okay for the both of you!  

[AutumnsRain]

CrimsonsDecayingRose

i'm sorry, but i really don't have all that much advice. :/
It sounds like, more than anything, she's confused. Her head, gut, and heart are telling her different things. Speaking on her half, i think she needs to spend a little while by herself, and understand what her integrity tells her to do.
So, she might reason this as a "break," but i don't know.
i would say that you might need to back off slightly, to give her room to think. But really, what is your heart telling you to do? Go from there. wink

Since Mr. Chris is OBBESSED with Facebook.
I would "L I K E" this comment, Crimson. (;

First off; urm.
How long have you guys been together and how much do you know about her?  

[CrimsonsDecayingRose]

If you don't mind my asking; what has happened since you've last told us? Anything major?

And erm...thanks? Autumn. whee  

[Akatsuki Vash]

Well found out she got back with her old ex-boyfriend.
He dumped her then she got with me then he asked her back and she said yes to him.
Then 3 days later he broke up with her~
Sooo much drama~  

[Swat Team Leader]

Yeah... that's a lot of drama.... next time say no and find another girl.  

[azn_knight367]

Dang O.O  

[CrimsonsDecayingRose]

Swat Team Leader

Yeah... that's a lot of drama.... next time say no and find another girl.

i Second.
i have no right to say this, but a three day dating period before breaking up is way too short.
It's too much drama, and she will only hurt you again.

i hope you can find someone who will make you happy. wink  

[Akatsuki Vash]

Haha, I'll find somebody~