Okay, now what?

[Medicinal Hugs]

So I've been working with my dad in construction. It's great money, but just incredibly hard work.

I've been working with him for about 2 months now, and I was thinking about going back to school after I get a decent sum of cash in my bank.
But last week my mom came down on me with a bombshell of responsibility.

Alright lemme explain our situation. My dad is an idiot when it comes to money. We almost had our last home paid off and set, but he decided to put up loan after loans till eventually we couldn't pay for the house and were evicted. We're currently renting in a much more smaller place, but I'm not one to complain. My mother on the other hand hates it, she's constantly depressed and it really pains me to see her that way.

But back to the the bombshell, she wants me to work for 6 months so I can be eligible to buy a house and then move us out of here, cause unlike my dad my credit is perfect. She told me that my dad would help me pay the bills and I can go find a part time job and go back to school. I don't want to work in construction all my life, but I feel as though I'm falling in that direction. I can't trust my father with the bills, like I said earlier he's an idiot with money. So if I do decide to do this I'm gonna have to work for a lot longer than 6 months, cause I just can't trust my dad with it, he's already fcked both his and my moms credit.
And since I'm working full time I don't have time for school.

Here are my hours.

I work Mon-Thu

I wake up at 3:00am and I'm out the door at 3:30 am
We drive for 2 hours to get to the job site.
We work at 6:00am-4:30pm
We drive back for another 2 hours.
I eat and shower (about 40 min)
get a little time to myself, and then go to bed at 7:00pm.


I've been face palming about this idea ever since I heard it. My best freind's advise to me was to just hang in their and see where fate takes me. Well. . . . . That's kinda how I got into this mess. I didn't take my life into my own hands, and now I think I'm in a horrible position to try to.
This whole week has been full of sighs and I feel as though they're going to be much more.

I dunno maybe I'm over reacting, maybe their is a solution I can't see cause I'm clouding my mind with these thoughts. I dunno, I just hope this works out fine.  

[Garek Maxwell]

Well, my advice probably isn't the best, but it's what I think would be most beneficial for your future.

I say, you work and save up money to go get a college degree first. Loosing a home is not easy, and it's understandable that your mother is depressed, but you all have a place to stay still. It could be worse, since most people end up homeless. Sure, the place is small and it's probably not ideal, but so long as it's safe and you have shelter it's better than the alternative...

Now for the money, your dad should be working and paying the rent. Upfront, etc. No loans. Work with them to form a budget so that the money he earns gets portioned out for rent, bills, and groceries. It won't be easy, but it's a temporary hurdle and they'll get used to it eventually.

Your money should go primarily towards an education. I can't stress it enough, because with a college degree you could earn more and, depending upon your degree, you could support both yourself and your family easily. It definitely won't be easy, and you'll be committing to something that will take 4-6 years depending on if you can ever go full time, but it'll be worth it. ...Well, unless you get an art degree or something like that. sweatdrop No offense to anyone in them, but soooo many people get into those programs only for themselves and not for a future income. At least, that's not their concern it seems anyway.

Anyway, don't have to take my advice as gold or anything. Just a suggestion. I'm sure others will have better solutions.  

[Isaol]

Army
Air Force
Navy
Marines
Coast Guard

You could always join the military, not all jobs in the military are combat based, there are several construction based jobs in the army if that's what you like. I know a few people who have their mom or dad set as a dependent so he received something like $200+ extra a month.

Army national guard is a pretty good deal, go to basic training for 9 weeks, then your job training, come back home and keep working with dad and only go to army drill 2 days every month and 3 weeks during the summer. They give college money too. Talking to a recruiter is free.

Only thing I can think of.  

[Psycho Lee]

When the hell did Isaol come back???

I would think hard before joining the military. I don't necessarily think anyone should join it just for financial reasons, because odds are you may very well see combat, unless you're in the coast guard.  

[Isaol]

Psycho Lee

When the hell did Isaol come back???

I would think hard before joining the military. I don't necessarily think anyone should join it just for financial reasons, because odds are you may very well see combat, unless you're in the coast guard.

Not all jobs in any military branch are combat oriented. There are veterinarians, cooks, electricians, carpenters, journalists, even graphic design specialists!

I came back for my furniture! scream  

[Garek Maxwell]

Isaol

Not all jobs in any military branch are combat oriented. There are veterinarians

Now all I can imagine are kevlar armored cavalry divisions with extra thick plastics and mounted robotic turrets.

As cool as that sounds, I know it's not practical. razz  

[Psycho Lee]

We burned your furniture in the great clutter cleaning of 2010!

My problem with the military is their recruitment tactic of "DO YOU WANT FREE COLLEGE MONEY? JOIN NOW!!!" as if the military is ONLY to get free money for college. They seem to love to forget to mention the whole boot camp, and war/killing/being killed thing.

Isaol, even non-infantry and non-combat positions have to go to Iraq and Afghanastan. Even the mechanics are over there in the Middle East getting shot at and killed. Even the ones driving the supply trucks with food and fuel are getting hit by roadside bombs.