Recently my group of friends had a beef with a person in our group.
His name is Tyler.
See what made the pot boil over was that they were all at IHOP (restaurant) and he decided to take our friend Beth's 100$ bill as a joke, he was pretty much playing keep-away.
No big deal, thing was he kept ignoring everyone when we said to give it back.
He kept it then said he hid it in her car.
Our whole group searched through that car, took all the items out, looked under and behind seats, took door panels off... We could not find that money anywhere. We have a big supission that he kept it because when he hid it he also ran back inside the restaurant with a funny look on his face.
. He does not have a good track record when it comes to theft, he stole some Magic The Gathering cards from our friend Shawn awhile back.
He also keeps calling our friend Tina the "b word" along with the other girls in the group. Sometimes he's joking and sometimes he isn't. And it's hard to tell when he is joking. Tina's boyfriend kept telling him to stop too but he didn't.
He also was joking around at IHOP with a knife, one of our friends works there and he is usually our server. Something was said and Tyler decided to joke around by pulling a knife out, he just set the knife on the table so no he was not waving it around or anything like that but our friend the server hates knives because he had a bad experience with them when he lived in a bad neighborhood. The server asked him to put it away as did the rest of the group and he totally disregarded us and kept the joke going when he needed to stop.
.He has a nasty habit of dragging stuff out to the point of where it causes drama and headaches.
He also does some annoying things like...
.Pulling victim cards when we talk to him about faults, sometimes he even goes as far as threatening suicide.
.He gets attached to girls easily and gets mad if they aren't interested in him or if the breakup with him. He wanted to date our friend Tina but she wasn't interested because she was dating our friend Scott, Tyler got all depressed and had a sour attitude twords all of us the rest of the night and he just met Tina not even a month ago.
He also dated our friend Brooklyn awhile back (like over a year ago?) and she broke up with him because he was too clingy and forceful when it came to romantic actions, he then started sitting outside of her house at all hours of the night and pretty much stalking her after the breakup.
After all of that went down we got the whole group together to talk to him about his actions. We have been on him about him not listening and him having bad judgement when it comes to pulling jokes. He said he has been working on it, then all of this happened.
So we told him what the beef was and we had a vote if we as a whole wanted to keep him around or if we wanted him to leave us as a whole alone until he fixed himself.
We only had two people vote to keep him in the group when about four others voted him out.
I was one of the four that voted him out.
I feel extremely guilty because I know everyone has faults, and we all have stuff that we need to work on.
I also have a listening problem, it's not as bad as Tyler's but I do have my moments when I do some boneheaded things.
But at the same time these were some BIG blunders (drama at IHOP, missing money, knife thing) that happened all in the same night, so it showed me that he didn't have interest in working on himself. Plus we talked to him a couple of days before all of this happened about him not listening and having bad judgement...
I know that it's also not good to keep bad company...
So I voted him out... Did I do the wrong or right thing?
I feel like a hypocrite.
His name is Tyler.
See what made the pot boil over was that they were all at IHOP (restaurant) and he decided to take our friend Beth's 100$ bill as a joke, he was pretty much playing keep-away.
No big deal, thing was he kept ignoring everyone when we said to give it back.
He kept it then said he hid it in her car.
Our whole group searched through that car, took all the items out, looked under and behind seats, took door panels off... We could not find that money anywhere. We have a big supission that he kept it because when he hid it he also ran back inside the restaurant with a funny look on his face.
. He does not have a good track record when it comes to theft, he stole some Magic The Gathering cards from our friend Shawn awhile back.
He also keeps calling our friend Tina the "b word" along with the other girls in the group. Sometimes he's joking and sometimes he isn't. And it's hard to tell when he is joking. Tina's boyfriend kept telling him to stop too but he didn't.
He also was joking around at IHOP with a knife, one of our friends works there and he is usually our server. Something was said and Tyler decided to joke around by pulling a knife out, he just set the knife on the table so no he was not waving it around or anything like that but our friend the server hates knives because he had a bad experience with them when he lived in a bad neighborhood. The server asked him to put it away as did the rest of the group and he totally disregarded us and kept the joke going when he needed to stop.
.He has a nasty habit of dragging stuff out to the point of where it causes drama and headaches.
He also does some annoying things like...
.Pulling victim cards when we talk to him about faults, sometimes he even goes as far as threatening suicide.
.He gets attached to girls easily and gets mad if they aren't interested in him or if the breakup with him. He wanted to date our friend Tina but she wasn't interested because she was dating our friend Scott, Tyler got all depressed and had a sour attitude twords all of us the rest of the night and he just met Tina not even a month ago.
He also dated our friend Brooklyn awhile back (like over a year ago?) and she broke up with him because he was too clingy and forceful when it came to romantic actions, he then started sitting outside of her house at all hours of the night and pretty much stalking her after the breakup.
After all of that went down we got the whole group together to talk to him about his actions. We have been on him about him not listening and him having bad judgement when it comes to pulling jokes. He said he has been working on it, then all of this happened.
So we told him what the beef was and we had a vote if we as a whole wanted to keep him around or if we wanted him to leave us as a whole alone until he fixed himself.
We only had two people vote to keep him in the group when about four others voted him out.
I was one of the four that voted him out.
I feel extremely guilty because I know everyone has faults, and we all have stuff that we need to work on.
I also have a listening problem, it's not as bad as Tyler's but I do have my moments when I do some boneheaded things.
But at the same time these were some BIG blunders (drama at IHOP, missing money, knife thing) that happened all in the same night, so it showed me that he didn't have interest in working on himself. Plus we talked to him a couple of days before all of this happened about him not listening and having bad judgement...
I know that it's also not good to keep bad company...
So I voted him out... Did I do the wrong or right thing?
I feel like a hypocrite.
