TL;DR The man I'm planning on marrying cheated on me with 13 men he met on Craigslist
Okay people, I may rant a little here, but it has been on my mind for a few months now. I've been with this guy for 3 years, and have been engaged with him since 2012. Early in the relationship, he confessed to me that he was bisexual, which I obviously accepted, as I can relate wink
Things were going way too well for us, and all that good stuff, when a few months ago, in May, we decided we were going to get married within a few weeks. But then he told me that before we got married, there was something he had to tell me.
For a long time, he was struggling with his sexuality. He had led me to believe that he was really just bi-curious, but he preferred girls, and above all those girls, he preferred me. But apparently, at some point, his resolve started to waver, and he says he was always thinking about 'What would I do if she and I got married, had kids, and I realized I actually wanted to be with a man?' is I guess the gist of it. Unlike me, he has a really uptight family, and he never got to experiment and come to terms with his sexuality, and I guess in making the choice to be with me, he freaked out, got on Craigslist and met up with 13 other guys (at different points over the course of the year) and slept with all of them. He told me about it, crying, saying he was just confused and all that, but now suddenly, he just wants to be with me, he never felt anything for the dozen or so guys, and he claims he'll never slip up and do it again. I want to believe him, I want to trust him, and as a bi-sexual, I know what it's like to be confused, and not be sure if you're dating someone because that's what's expected of you, or because that's who you are. But I figured my s**t out in high school, and I never cheated on someone to get to this point.
I know I'm rambling, but if anyone followed this, has anything like this happened to you, or what would you do if it was you? I don't want to leave him just because he was having an identity crisis, and I do love him, and want to support him through finding himself (as long as he doesn't do it that way again) but at the same time, I think maybe he's just making a B.S excuse, and/or might do it again....
In summery, what should I follow, my heart, or my ego?
Okay people, I may rant a little here, but it has been on my mind for a few months now. I've been with this guy for 3 years, and have been engaged with him since 2012. Early in the relationship, he confessed to me that he was bisexual, which I obviously accepted, as I can relate wink
Things were going way too well for us, and all that good stuff, when a few months ago, in May, we decided we were going to get married within a few weeks. But then he told me that before we got married, there was something he had to tell me.
For a long time, he was struggling with his sexuality. He had led me to believe that he was really just bi-curious, but he preferred girls, and above all those girls, he preferred me. But apparently, at some point, his resolve started to waver, and he says he was always thinking about 'What would I do if she and I got married, had kids, and I realized I actually wanted to be with a man?' is I guess the gist of it. Unlike me, he has a really uptight family, and he never got to experiment and come to terms with his sexuality, and I guess in making the choice to be with me, he freaked out, got on Craigslist and met up with 13 other guys (at different points over the course of the year) and slept with all of them. He told me about it, crying, saying he was just confused and all that, but now suddenly, he just wants to be with me, he never felt anything for the dozen or so guys, and he claims he'll never slip up and do it again. I want to believe him, I want to trust him, and as a bi-sexual, I know what it's like to be confused, and not be sure if you're dating someone because that's what's expected of you, or because that's who you are. But I figured my s**t out in high school, and I never cheated on someone to get to this point.
I know I'm rambling, but if anyone followed this, has anything like this happened to you, or what would you do if it was you? I don't want to leave him just because he was having an identity crisis, and I do love him, and want to support him through finding himself (as long as he doesn't do it that way again) but at the same time, I think maybe he's just making a B.S excuse, and/or might do it again....
In summery, what should I follow, my heart, or my ego?
