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....my father hugged me this morning.... eek *twitches*

To the earliest memories I can recall this is only the second time my dad has hugged me.

First time-I was still in high school and it happened a couple weeks after he threaten to take his life.....

Now this morning for no real reason....I was just going to garage sales with him and mother.

Perhaps to you it not a big deal, but my father never showed much affection to me....and when he does it feels weird and unnatural to me.....

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0Moon_Maiden0

At 21....his love makes me feel uncomfortable when expressed with hugs..... xd lol

You just need more!

*hugs*

I've tried that once and he gave he a strange look....it was like he thought I was a crazy person for asking.

lol I understand what you mean moon. In my family you get the idea that they love you but it's something parents don't really say. Instead they do things to show it like buy you things ect.... In my household parents are "parents" and not your best friend. lol But they care and love you.

I don't really get to hear loving words from my parents. lol I don't really get hugs much either. Just those formal things like giving a kiss on the cheek (goodbye gesture) before heading to work in the morning and stuff. So one time (when things were hard) mom actually said to me "you know I love you." and just that made me uneasy especially since I was older like 17-18 at the time (XD). It was something that you just know and never hear in guyanese family unless your a little kid (then you hear and get hugs/kisses). ^^"

lol I completely see why you feel twitchy after a hug from your dad. Maybe something good happened?

lol just be glad he's showing affection, might not happen again for a while smile

Hugs with my grandad (dad's side) are always a little awkward, but he obviously appreciates them, he's just a little formal. a sweetheart, but I thin raising 2 sons means less luvvy-duvvy-ness than 2 granddaughters lol.

My other grandad used to scare us silly because on the surface he's so gruff (one of over 10 kids, dad committed suicide, had a flipping shotgun and what were essentially beartraps from his hunting days), but he's such a lovey dovey softie to me and my sister it's actually funny. When I stopped being scared of him and relaised this, this is. My mum always has a little moan about how he's such a softie with us when he was more scary with her, and how when my sister clomped around in massive proper goth boots he was all suddenly open minded and 'kids have to express themselves' when he would've practically killed my mum for wearing the same. lol


but yes, people express love in different ways

I understand that.

I'm affectionate to pretty much everyone but my mother. xd

Strangers, friends, accquaintences, my dad, I think it has to do with the fact that I see her almost everyday since her and my dad are divorced.