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 Posted: Mon Aug 03, 2009 1:03 am
one my best friends comes from a very good muslim family, but its very dissapointing to see that now she has a boyfirend and she doesnt understand why its haram. I couldnt really explain it to her. I told her that things will lead on to things. She told me she'd never have sex before marraige but she is on second/ third base. Anyways shes my best friend and i want wats best for her. I need help persuading her.
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Posted: Mon Aug 03, 2009 3:26 am
wubbzee one my best friends comes from a very good muslim family, but its very dissapointing to see that now she has a boyfirend and she doesnt understand why its haram. I couldnt really explain it to her. I told her that things will lead on to things. She told me she'd never have sex before marraige but she is on second/ third base. Anyways shes my best friend and i want wats best for her. I need help persuading her. To be honest... I've been in the same position like you...
But it was on cheating during exam. The best I can do is to advice him (my friends), though finally he made the space from me... I've done the best I could... I know what I've done is a good thing, and I've told him.
Very sad when you're losing your best friend... But you do the best for her! Hope she can understand...
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Posted: Sun Aug 09, 2009 9:32 am
if shes your best friend then you talk to her you do all you can do i kniw this sounds weak but you just have to let her make her own decisions shes a big girl i know your just looking out for her but still or you can kick @ss and yell at her telling her shes stupid i do it with my cousin all the time shes an idiot when it comes to guys so i sit there and yell at her make her see reason and if she disagrees then i yell some more rofl
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Posted: Sun Aug 09, 2009 11:41 am
Tell her that if he really respects her that he will wait and not try to have sex.
There isn't much that you can do sadly, she is going to do what she wants.
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Posted: Tue Aug 25, 2009 1:48 am
Tell her sex before marriage isn't worthwhile. Tell her that sex before marriage are dangerous besides forbidden in Islam and hated by Allah SWT and because it is also called a random sex which she may be exposed to a morbid disease such as diarhea and so much more. Tell her sex before marriage can lead to AIDS and HIV. Tell her how dangerous sex before marriage is and give her flyers or papers printed on the result of having sex before marriage diseases. But if she says she won't do sex, it is okay. Just make sure she follow the rules and the limits of Islam in having a boyfriend because it is qualified as a 'guy friend' only at the moment until they are both married. Wallahualm~
You do know that even true Christians are forbidden from doing sex before marriage. Tell her that.
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Posted: Fri Apr 23, 2010 4:32 pm
You can't really persuade anyway really.. ik because I've had a similar situation with this girl that's a year younger then me that took her hijab off in the bus and went to school with her hair out and she hung out with boys and did all that stuff that's against our religion. I tried talking to her and to be honest I feel that if they get the impression that you are trying to change them or tell them what to do? That'll only make them want to do it more and that'll only make them drift further down the path of haram. You've done your part, you've told her what is right and what is wrong and if she hasn't listened to you? That's her problem.. you will be rewarded for your efforts, but all you can really do that can help, insha'allah, is to pray for her. Pray to those who are lost, and hope that one day they will get back on the path of the right. I understand that she is your best friend and you feel as though you must help her..but praying for her is really all you can do. That and just simply being there for her. Don't try to persuade her so much though.. I hope everything works out for her.. I'll pray that it does, insha'allah.
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Posted: Sat Apr 24, 2010 1:20 pm
right theres is this girl in my old skul too she was my best friend too but she changes from then i hope ur friend does too inshalah she will
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Posted: Sun May 23, 2010 12:03 pm
you've done a good job on advicing her once.. now it's her turn to find out the right or wrong. she's not young you know. ^^
i have friends at the university who have done bad things, but i adviced them like i'm joking, because if i tell them directly that what they do is haram, they will yell at me. ><;;
so, keep up with her and don't worry, she will learn from her mistakes sooner or later. if she ever asks you for advice, go ahead and tell her. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue May 25, 2010 11:42 am
PlusleChu, I kinda just tell them the truth, if they deny to litsen, it's their punnishment, not mine. They can always ask Allah for forgiveness now when they live. =)
Well options
1. Explain
2. Explain
3. Explain
4. Forget about her
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