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Well,this is the problem: I've started wearing a hijaab so my dad would get proud at me
Recently i realised this is the only reason i wore it ( i did it on my 12), becus i just opened my eyes round my 14-15 year. As a child i wasnt social and shy to everyone,and i didnt know what i wanted to be in my life. But then i realised i had to do what i do since my 4th; drawing. I've never knew that i can be what I want,and not by listenin to ur dad.

Thats why i dont want the headscarf anymore,because it blocks me from a lot of things. I couldnt play the violin,because ' headscarfed girls cant play in orkests' and i couldnt get work. And so there is,a lot of other things.

I also see my dad DOESNT DO ANYTHING for islam ( nearly) he almost never go to a mosque,sometimes on friday. He cant read the Kuran. When hes free from work he go to cafe's. I saw in,that by my ads side of the family,the women has to listen to the men,and if there is one thing,just one thing in the whole world i hate with my whole heart,is that women are suprressed by men.



I know that just a few of muslims this do,and there is also not-muslims who do this.

But im now wondering... Is it okay if i go open? I wear the hijaab every day,with the same lump in my throat,and when i look at myself,i see that is not me. I want to go,doing a game art study later,and i'm doing pre-university now because of my dad,and he want me to go to uni. But im starting to refusing him.


I don't want to wear the hijaab without my heart.

And i dont listen to a man,who can talk,but go to cafe's and drink alcohol.


I searched for extra reasons,and i looked at what my dad would do if i quit praying. He said NOTHING. I quit reading Kuran. And he said NOTHING again. My mother then told me,that the only reason he doesnt want me to quit wearing the hijaab,is because he wanted to let his family see what good daughters he do have. But he keeps his drinking and not praying a secret( his family lives in turkey,but we live in holland)


I dont know what to do anymore...Im confused about my identity,all because of my dad

Can somebody please help,and say me what is the best in their eyes? I would really be thankful.

Sister, ur saying u don't wanna go to uni? Is that because u honestly don't want, or u wanto fight with ur dad??? razz

What do u wish to become? Some educations requires univercity.

Without ur heart? But ain't u a good muslim? :O

Life is a test, imagine that all humans are false, only u are real, and Allah is looking at what u do, all the time. ninja

Drink alcohol? :O Ya Malik!!! That's very haram.

U should do it with the head, the heart, and the faith.



Sister, u say ur confused with ur identity? You mean, u wanto follow ur parrents? If ur parrents are good muslims, u become it. If they are bad, then u become bad?

Don't wear hijab for ur dad, but for Allah. Ok? smile heart I really hope ur problem will be solved smile

well.. if you really don't want to wear the hijab then don't wear it. However don't stop praying and reading the Quran because of your father. I personally don't believe that a piece of clothing can bring you closer to Allah, if you believe in Allah truly then sister continue making salaats and continue reading the Quran. As for your father, include him in your prayers and pray for him, he needs it.

from my old post don't wear it if you don't want to.

but still where the hijab during prayer.. and when you go to the mosque of couse

About university.
I believe your old enough to deside this, and that you are avaiable to eat bread, and have a roof from being a game artist, and if that's ur passion, and if that's what u find fun, then do it smile


About hijab, it is very bad not to wear it sad 1 time ago i asked my mom why she diden't wear it. She told me that her stepfarter forced her to wear it all the time, and she don't wanto wear it, but she tells that she knows it's haram not to wear it.

It's haram not to wear it, but u can wear it in ur own house, so don't worry. it's only when u go out, shopping ect.

I find it a complicated dad of urs :O You got farz to tell him about it.

Wearing the hijab means that u covor urself, that u covor ur beauty. That's like the diffrence of a muslim virgin with hijab, and a non-muslim whore. Wearing hijab is very important, and Allah knows why.

It's about being the slave of Allah, and obey Allah. Let's say i wanto eat pork, cuz it's very tasty or wutever. That dossen't mean i can eat it. U must put a filter ( a hijab ). Not a burqa, or niqab, just a simple hijab 3nodding

U attract wrong people with hijab? :O Is that what ur telling me?

Well, i have to be wise and tell u that u have to wear hijab. sad Try to see the beauty in it 3nodding

It's like wearing underwears, and not wearing underwears. It's important to wear it.

If i were a girl? Sorry i can't get me in that situation sweatdrop rofl
U can sometimes see if a girl is religious when u look at her head razz lolz xd Hijab or not hijab 3nodding

On boys u can't. Only that thing the Mullah's wear.

Well the only problem about hijab is to get a job.

Cuz u know, it's hardest for muslims to get work, especially if they are religious.

Even for muslim men it's hard, so for girls with hijab it's very hard.

But that's the only problem. 3nodding If there are more problems then please say smile

Uh.. no.. I can't wear the hijab all of the time because my mom won't let me.. and I am very religious, so thats not all true Zaki, also I know alot of good Muslimahs who dress modestly and still cover the awrah, and they don't wear the hijab. Hijab is important in Islam but, if you look at other countries like Bangladesh not all women wear the hijab.So, does this mean that they are whores?? not really.. in my opinion it's how people interpret the Quran. I still however wish that my mom let me wear it regularly.

Ok.. you are right. I try to convince my mom to let me wear it regularly no luck... but as soon as I leave this house which is 3 yrs. too long I'm wearing my Hijab every single day!!! I'm still happy that I can wear it though 3nodding