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Posted: Sat Apr 17, 2010 11:31 am
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sigh...this is everything going on in my life...im in serious need of advice here... so one of my best friends says she's in love with me...like MADLY in love...and right now im in a relationship with her (just online cuz she's unhealthy) and well, idk how to say this without sounding immoral, but it was the only thing i knew to do...i came to be in a relationship with her simply becuz she was literally trying to slice her throat at midnight, and telling me this online as it was happening...begging me for one thing, the only thing that could keep her alive...my love....which i didn't rlly feel anything for her, but i couldn't just let her go suicide like that, she's too good of a friend to me for me to just let her go like that...that's y i agreed to be in a relationship with her...ik it prolly wasn't the right thing to do, or was it? idk...all ik is i saved her from suicide, but at the same time, crap keeps happening in her life that drives her towards suicide again, even though she doesn't want to die, she just can't handle the pain that goes on...and she told me this bluntly...if i ever broke up with her...she would suicide in a heartbeat....she says what she feels for me is definately love, and that there is no chance it is not...but i dont feel anythign more than friendship for her...and i just dont feel anythign comparable to this for her...but that could simply be becuz of psychological damage caused by so much apathy and depression over the last year or two...but now im happy and i like someone else, who likes me back, but they have a different girlfriend...idk wtf i should do anymore...im stuck in this situation until something changes...and waiting for that is slowly drawing me towards those days of apathy and depression again...i dont want to go back to that...i need advice!
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Posted: Sat Apr 17, 2010 12:53 pm
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Posted: Sat Apr 17, 2010 6:43 pm
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Posted: Sun Apr 18, 2010 2:31 pm
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Posted: Sun Apr 18, 2010 2:46 pm
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Posted: Sun Apr 18, 2010 2:56 pm
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Posted: Mon Apr 19, 2010 2:09 pm
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XSK Ambrosia stare You need to slap some sense into her. I've dealt with many suicidal people like that, and the best way that you assure they NEVER try suicide again is by being tough on them. Tell her any of the following: 1. "If you really love me, don't try that shít called suicide again! I just don't feel anything for you now, but if I do sometime, and you're dead, well, you can't go back." 2. "You only crave for attention or something saying nonsense about suicide to me. Truth is, people hate retarded people who try suicide, so you'll be loved for who you are and for being a happy person. If you're a happy person, things around you will be better." 3. You make it up yoh ambrosia with all of these advice giving and stuff the guild should have like this advice sub forum were theres a problem and we give feed back Ambrosia has spoken! yoh ambrosia with all of these advice giving and stuff
the guild should have like this advice sub forum were theres a problem and we give feed back
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Posted: Mon Apr 19, 2010 2:19 pm
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Posted: Mon Apr 19, 2010 2:26 pm
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Posted: Mon Apr 19, 2010 2:32 pm
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 1:53 pm
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okay...well...i basically told her that becuz she was so depressed i was breaking up with her...well, it turns out that day she had apparently gotten over the depression to be with me....then she completely blew off the whole breaking up part of the discussion cuz i was too tired to think straight when the issue came up.... plus, she said she wasn't acting like her normal self becuz she was depressed....well, today another issue came up...the guy i like was telling ppl that we were in a relationship, just to see what ppl would say, and i never said anything for(even though i wanted to) or against it....now she's saying i have to choose, or she WILL suicide tonight...and she's planning on it...i'm trying to tell her that everytime she says "this is the real me, this is the real me, this is the real me..." and then gives an excuse y it wasn't the real her...im getting so pissed at her right now as we're discussing this online...and i suggested help, but she refused...and she said that she's already planning suicide again tonight becuz of all this....then the conversation went further and she said she was never rlly going to suicide and through a very intense and very angry conversation with her....she said that she never was going to go suicide and that she just says stuff cuz she gets overemotional sometimes...idk if i should rlly believe her or not...but i told her i trusted her for now, and that this was her absolute last warning, if she ever betrays my trust again then i would never forgive her....as for my relationship status....that has yet to be determined.....thnku all for all ur help...i hope i used ur advice well, and i didn't make the wrong decision by doing this....anything else u'd like to say?
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 4:50 pm
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 5:07 pm
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 5:31 pm
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 5:59 pm
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LLawliet17 Ok to be honest I have been where she was myself. I know what shes feeling and let me tell you, its for attention and to keep you. If she has to say "Im gonna commit suicide tonight if you dont choose" then she doesnt love you. Because if someone loves you theyd let you go even if it made them misserable. And if she has to more or less 'bribe' you with her life it is NOT love from her. Her vision is clouded and she doesnt see another way to keep you. I honestly believe that she is afraid of loosing you as a friend so she told herself that the love she has is relationship love not friendship love. If I'm right on this then you need to let her know that no matter what youll be there for her regardless of who your with or what happens. That youll always be her friend, but that what you feel is not love but best friendship. I hope this helps you. I feel your frustration with the delima
thanku! i have been thinking that she was doing this just for attention for awhile now, but i didn't want to seem like a B**** and say it...but at least soemone agrees with me....and after i stressed the fact that she can NOT threaten suicide unless she knows for a fact that she WILL do it, she stopped threatening suicide, but that doesn't change the fact that she thinks about it....but anyways, i stood my ground and told her that she either had to wait and see where things take us, or she would be left with nothing, i told her i didn't want our friendship to break off, and i didn't want her to go suicide and what not...the decision is hers now....she has to decide whether she can handle just being friends, or break it off completely and give up on love.....and as of now she is depressed, and talking to a relative who is a therapist...so hopefully she can think things through....
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