How to Deal With Rejection

[l Omie-Gosh l]

Hello IWON Guildies,

Can you please help me by giving me tips & advice to deal/cope with rejection? After nalaman ng 2 kong kaibigan na I'm gay , one of them unfriended me in FB at di na nagpakita sakin at ang isa naman di na ako kinakausap o binabati kahit batihin o kausapin ko siya.

Feeling hurt, angry, sad, despair, halo-halong emosyon. Need ko lang ng ways to heal at move on sa rejection nila ng totoong ako.  

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[xLady Trinityx]

❝ Dapat naging open ka from the beginning.
Pero people who doesn't accept a person for who they are can't really be called "friends."
They can be called... idiots.
Hindi din naman tama na susubukan nilang i-try na magustuhan ka for being yourself.
Kung totoo na they cared about you, they would've seen past your sexual preference because in the end,
you're still you.

Try to surround yourself with people who will like you for you, just the way you are <3
Trust me, it's not that hard to find them.
If you think about it, mas maganda nga na pinakita nila yung opinion nila ng maaga.
You can't have fake people in your life diba?❞

 

[Sora-ni watashiwa]

Maybe, those two are confuse , kung bakit ka naging ganyan o bakit mo tinago ang pagka shuklaa mo, baka nasasaktan lng sila dahil di mo agad sinabi na shuklaa ka . . 3nodding  

[imaBULLSHITTER]

i think those guys only need time to absorb everything. how long have you been friends? its always a shocker to go out to your friends.
and one more thing.. just show them you didn't changed that you're the same person before going out to them.
eventually, they'll miss you and you guys will just let bygones be bygones. as if nothing happened.  

[ravienne]

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ravienne

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[Angel Mhai]

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Hello IWON Guildies,

Can you please help me by giving me tips & advice to deal/cope with rejection? After nalaman ng 2 kong kaibigan na I'm gay , one of them unfriended me in FB at di na nagpakita sakin at ang isa naman di na ako kinakausap o binabati kahit batihin o kausapin ko siya.

Feeling hurt, angry, sad, despair, halo-halong emosyon. Need ko lang ng ways to heal at move on sa rejection nila ng totoong ako.

Sa totoo lang, you're brave and I salute you talaga.. It's really hard to tell the truth lalo na sa mga taong takot kang mawala sila.. Pero you still choose to be honest with them..yun nga lang iba yung naging outcome.. At first maybe they're just shock sa nalaman.. pero if they really are you're friends tatanggapin ka nila maging sino ka man..
I may not have the right or in the position to say this.. just teach yourself na wag umasa sa kanila.. there are certain factors kasi na pinagdadaanan ang tao just to reach ung point of acceptance..

1-Denial= at first iisipin nila na hindi totoo.. or hindi nila matanggap ung fact na ur gay kasi nakasanayan nila qng ano ka dati...result ireremove ka nila sa friends lists sa FB or hindi ka muna kakausapin
2- Anger= sa una magagalit sila sau dahil sa una hindi mo sinabi na ur gay.. kaya may tendency lalayuan ka nila or hindi ka kakausapin..
3- Bargaining= "Sana kung hindi gay si ganun hanggang ngaun siguro okay pa kami" pwede yan din isipin ng 2.. usually dyan ung mga words na "cguro" "baka" etc..and ito ung time na unti unti na nila narrealize ung fact na gay ka...
4- Acceptance= ito ung last, finally napagisip isip na nila na they should accept you as who you are..

Ang advice q po sau..its not your fault if gay ka.. actually gaya ng sinabi q..saludo aq sau..mahira talaga maging honest lalo na if alam mo ung magiging reaction nila.. isipin mo na lang at least naging honest ka,,and its not your lost..its them! kasi nawalan sila ng katulad mo na isang true friend..  

[JACKAL17 Extreme]

Cream xP

Maybe, those two are confuse , kung bakit ka naging ganyan o bakit mo tinago ang pagka shuklaa mo, baka nasasaktan lng sila dahil di mo agad sinabi na shuklaa ka . . 3nodding

Shukla talaga tol?? rofl  

[Sora-ni watashiwa]

JACKAL17 Extreme

Cream xP

Maybe, those two are confuse , kung bakit ka naging ganyan o bakit mo tinago ang pagka shuklaa mo, baka nasasaktan lng sila dahil di mo agad sinabi na shuklaa ka . . 3nodding

Shukla talaga tol?? rofl

ahahah shukla tuloy nasabi ko , rofl  

[l Omie-Gosh l]

I'm over it na, TY sa replies.  

[Orlandeau]

Well for me, it is not your actually your fault. Being afraid and protective from your friends opinions once they know that you are gay is normal since you love them. Now, think of the past experiences and reflect if they were really true friends. Real friends actually accept you for who you are though they do not know you well at the first, we need to accept changes as is.

For the rejection, REJECT it, it gives you nothing but self-devastation, never base yourself from critics, live for who you are and base it from God's principles. People who tend to reject somebody else try to create masks for themselves, thus showing that they are weak. smile I hope this helps wink