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So I'm in need of some advice, badly.

I screwed up 3 Weeks ago and pissed someone off. I was a stubborn a**, and a "dumbshit" as she called me, who took his frustration out on the wrong person who means the most. Since then she hasnt spoken to me. I haven't been able to get a hold of her to apologize. I've tried a couple ideas last week, but im pretty sure they where ignored; one idea needed a seperate circumstance to be met but that inadvertently caused more problems due to a prior accident; and all other ideas are dead in the water right now. I really hate how things are right now, not talking to her makes each day pretty dull and shitty. She makes everyday great just by talking to her and she means a lot. Hell she has meant a lot to me for a very long time, but I disnt ever realize just how much till now.
I'd appreciate any kind of advice that can be given by the end of the week, I'm in Ft. Irwin, California for the next 3 1/2'ish Weeks for training and Friday the training starts and wont have access to my phone till the end of the scenario.

I've tried to apologize, but I have no way to get a hold of her and tell her...

Won't ever happen. That's not even pessimism talking. We are on opposite sides of the country. Last month I was a 2 hour drive from her and I couldn't see her. That took ten years to even get that far. Now Im back on the other side...

mail a letter, -- (old school can be good), email, leave a message, facebook?, etc -- if you really only have 1 method of contact for her then you are stuck but if not i am sure there is a way to reach her .. even if it is something typed and you can't talk

well here are your options then.. WRITE A LETTER -- YOU ASSUME it will be tossed.. and it very well could be but how can you just not do it if it is the only way to contact her.. sometimes people (guys especially) underestimate how some simple words can impact (if read)

if it is your only option and you don't take it.. then you have given up on it yourself already and there is no point to this thread

Maybe if you didn't repeatedly call her best friend, and harass her, you wouldn't be in this situation. She told you repeatedly to leave her best friend alone, and yet you didn't get it through your thick skull.

Also, she told you to leave her alone for a few weeks. Yet, you tried to call. When one number was blocked, you used another number, repeatedly calling.

Now, whose fault is it that she doesn't want anything to do with you? YOURS.


Get over it. You were close to being a stalking dumbshit who would not stop harassing her. You deserve it.

Actually ******** it, I don't have anything to hide so here.




I repeatedly called to try and fix something that happened as a result of a miss understanding. I didn't use her to get to someone as she believed nor lied to her. The same day that I flipped, I also accidentally flipped on her and a couple others. After the whole incident when I went to talk to someone to calm down I realized that I had deleted her and apologized. Only after she mentioned you by name and while I was trying to figure a way to apologize to you, did I ask for any kind of help from her. While I was going through my old notes looking for something I found her number and re-added her and sent her a text. It was then when she got mad at me and when I tried to explain what happened things escalated. I only tried calling repeatedly after that was to try and fix what was just an misunderstanding. I wasn't repeatedly told. I only had one text from you saying to not say anything to her, but honestly when it comes to those friendships that matter to me, I'm not one to give up.

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And why would I still try to call? Because I wanted to apologize and make things right. And I did do that. I have left you alone for 1 or more weeks at a time before trying again. Only after having tried multiple times again did I resort to my Skype, and again, because I just can't stop trying, especially when it comes to you.

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So making an hard effort 'cause I care is stalking? Well, at least I did honestly care so as to make that effort. Not like the others who have just used you.