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Alright, so while I tend to get a little passionate in a lot of what I talk about, I very rarely get angry. Well, just a little while ago my cousin pushed one of my buttons and I got angry, and now I'm gonna rant about it.

Okay, so in a previous thread I mentioned joinin' a datin' website. Well, I also put a comment about it on my facebook page. While talkin' to my cousin, it became known that it is a datin' website for asexuals, to which my cousin replied:

"how the heck do asexuals date....this seems like an oxymoron..."

So yeah. This really pissed me off. I've had many people tell me very similar things. In a nutshell, a lot of people think that since I can't feel a sexual attraction to anyone, I am incapable of lovin' someone as deeply as those who have a sex drive. Some people have also told me that the reason I don't have a sex drive is because I either haven't tried sex yet, and thus don't know how good it is, or I haven't met the right person. This annoys me to no end.

So yeah. Annoyed.

At least for me, asexuality means that I have no desire to have sex with anyone, ever. When I look at a person, I never thing "Man, I would love to rub genitalia when them."

I just assume that sexual attractions is being attracted to someone sexually, which ultimately means wanting to have sex with them at some point.

Yeah. In all honesty, I don't care about sexuality. What bothers me is how everyone else seems to think it's the most important thing in the world and because I have no interest in it, there's somethin' wrong with me and I'll never be at other people's level. It's obnoxious.

I don't think it's somethin' that's wrong, but rather that everyone is unique.

Well, from a biological purpose on earth standpoint, there is something wrong with you, same with homosexuals. You're useless to our species's reproduction! xp

Humans are beyond that, though. Many "first world" countries even have a negative birth rate.

But... the majority is still instinctually heterosexually reproduction-driven.


Still, intimacy (hugs, etc) is pretty intrinsic to a relationship (sexual or familial). The proximity creates a bond. I feel like at some point you mentioned not even liking that, and so I'd have to ask you - where would your dividing line be between a best friend and someone you'd date? To me it's the intimacy, even if non-sexual.

HEY ONE OF MY BROTHERS IS GAY!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY THAT POST? stare and clenches his fists like LUFFY from one piece. Are you saying he's weird? Although I do think he is really weird, he is starting to look more and more gay it's weird.

It's interesting to see which one of us 3 are going to have or mom's first grandchild first, I assure it will probably be me. Once I find a ******** stable job here.

Is someone who does not reproduce useless to the reproduction of the species?

There's nothing wrong with asexuality, and I think you're going about it the right way. The most important thing is to not fall for someone who is sexual, as that is not compatible. Sexuality is not required for love, but having the same sex-drive and sex-interests is definitely important!

For me, I need to be sexually desired to feel loved. Otherwise, my self-esteem goes to s**t thinking that my lover doesn't "want" me.

And what I've learned in the last couple years, is that I am a dominant. I prefer dominant submissives... meaning, they are typically dominant with their work and friends, but are submissive with me. biggrin