Have you...?

[~.NIGHTMARE-CANDY.~]

Have you ever felt like your the cause of a bad daily event like fighting between parents and things like that?
I want to get some advice/help on how to try and fix those thoughts or actions etc.  

[Macabre_Cogitation]

I've been in a situation like that.

I thought I caused my parents divorce for never being what they wanted me to be....
My dad wanted me to be the kind of kid that was into sports and manual labor, but I took after my mom, calm collected and book worm......

And then well...I just saw my parents start fighting, and I thought, since only my sisters and I fight, it's our fault.
We caused all of our parents problems.
it's what I thought.
I still felt like that for a long time.

Then haning out with other friends who also had parents who divorced. I realized a lot of things.

It's not you who caused the problems, sure, it may feel like that, it's really your parents who can't fix things between them.

They are having misunderstandings...you may be able to help..may not.
It's hard to say what you can and can't do...I've learned the hard way a lot of times, such as the fact gravity always is around no matter how high off your roof you jump......

I wish you luck.
I know I am not much of help.

but remember. Don't blame yourself.  

[~.NIGHTMARE-CANDY.~]

Thanks...it just seems that everytime i say something my friggin stepdad gets all 'well im superior to everyone' and it causes arguments so easily...i cant help but to stand up for myself...im not going to let him strip me of my humanity...dumbass  

[yuki_kyo_kun]

IY_and_MCR

I know what it feel like to feel as if you are the cause of bad event's due to your thoughts and actions. Stupid guilt trips. I guess I can't be much of a help.

Sorry I caused you greif. A part of me was hidden all along.-Ted Bundy (He said this to his mother)

you can't really do anything about ou would have to be hearing it o just see or whatever but you could do something so could get your mind off of it i know cause that happens a lot to me  

[FireFarie54]

i know how it feels the best thing to do is to go in your bed room and put head phones on and lissen to loud music  

[lola_siannodel]

Yup.  

[The Reused]

whenever my mom tryes to send me on a guilt trip i ignore her and pretend that diffrent words are comming out of her mouth mrgreen  

[[[Hostile_Darkness]]]

The Forgotten...

gawd... my parents scream at me every single day of the year... except when i just walk out of the house... or vice versa. then they yell at each other. the thing is, tho.. is that i didnt do anything. im just myself. but... sry. no advice.

...are the Forbidden.

 

[destinygirl_8]

i know how you feel...i feel the exact same way i guess i just relized that they would fight if i was there or not..  

[Spooky Wasabi Princess]

Yeah, kinda. That's why I used to just keep my opinions to myself. My dad sucks.

Hooray for living with my mum!  

[mee_shee]

Yea I have.

I've been at friends houses.

And they make food.

Cuz we get hungry.

Sometimes we'll just eat and eat and eat and eat until we're about ready to puke.

Then their parents get mad that we ate all the food.

They've never yelled at me, but they yell at my friends.

It kind of sucks a** because you feel like you're the one who got your friend in trouble.

Or this one time at a friend from my old schools house I was at her house and she said why don't you stay the night.

I asked my daddy and he said yes.

So I was there late then her mom came upstairs and goes: hunny what are you still doing here i thougt your dad was coming to get you.

I said no I was staying the night cuz Kelly invited me.

Anyway my frined got grounded or something and was in a bad mood all night because of how much her and her mom fought over it.

It was a long time ago but I still feel pretty bad. Lol

I wish I could still talk to her.

There's so many things we could catch up on!  

[Ilia Luister]

Oh yeah, definately.
My mom and step father are always fighting, and its over me much of the time.
You see, my step father loves picking on me. About my clothes, the way I act and how I am.
And my mom is always defending me.
So what I do is avoid them as much as possible.
But I dont recomend it.
Its a temporary solution for me.  

[XxTrash_CanCandyxX]

i am in the a positon i need help with i have this bf that i love but he is 20 and we love each other but my parents dont like him what should i do can iny on help ok laterzzz heart heart  

[Shadows_stalker]

i have. i came blaming myself but i eventually solve the issue.