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I used to all the time with my mom...not anymore, though.

My parents frustrate me a lot but I don't fight with them. Just from time to time, when I just can't shut up anymore...

Heh! Sorry to disappoint, but I don't fight with them much, either.

Though, since Nathan was born, I have had a couple of run-ins with my Mom. Every once in awhile, she'll get it in her head that I'm mothering the wrong way and will try to tell me how to raise my child. That seriously irks me. For the most part, though, I know she's just trying to be helpful so I keep my mouth shut, smile and ignore her.

Don't get me wrong. If she has good advice, I take it. I'm talking about things like this:

I am lazy when it comes to housework. I hate doing it, so it tends to be low on my priorties to get done. Housework is a HIGH priority for my mom. She was always on me about how I didn't take pride in my home and would chide me, saying, "What if someone drops by and your house is a mess?" My philosophy was "If they drop by without letting me know ahead of time, they deserve whatever they find." In my mom's mind, I am lazy. That applies to everything about me. End of discussion.

So, she thinks that I am lazy when it comes to caring for my child. WRONG. Nathan is top priority for me and I will go to any lengths to make sure that he is happy and healthy. This came up because I had to take him to the doctor for some X-rays on his shoulder. (He was sunny-side up when giving birth, and turned in the v****a. So, it broke his collarbone. The doctors say this happens all the time and it's nothing to worry about.) I explained to her that the X-ray was routine just to make sure that everything was okay. I also explained that you can't set the collarbone. It just has to heal on its own. I told her the doctors said that he was fine. However, she comes back with, "Well, you should have the doctors do something about it. I wouldn't let something bad happen to Nathan just because I was too lazy to take care of it."

WHAT?!! I was so mad, I could hardly think, at that point. Since that boy has been born, I've been to the doctor with him countless times when I didn't need to because he coughed or did something to make me think he was sick. (I'm a first time mom, so I tend to over-react when it comes to his health. Heh.) I could not believe that my mother would accuse me of being too lazy to take care of my child. That really hurt my feelings....and it is the main reason that I chose to move closer to my in-laws instead of her. I'm not going to have her hovering over me all the time, accusing me of not caring enough for my baby. I love my baby more than anyone else in the world.

I think that if I had to deal with that on a daily basis (and I know I would) it would really hurt my relationship with her. As it is, I can ignore her more thoughtless comments, but I wouldn't be able to if it happened all the time.

*hugs tight*

I never fight with my parents. My mom and I are really close and I can talk to her about almost anything. I suppose I will get into the occasional argument with my dad, but it's never really become a fight.

not really

yea i fight a lot over dumb stuff hmm weird but whatever