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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 7:21 pm
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 7:50 pm
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 8:07 pm
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 8:57 pm
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There's nothing wrong with dating Christians, of any kind, as long as they don't try to convert you. I dated a Christian for a week and a half. The only reason we broke up is because I work mornings, he works nights, we have no time to see each other. When we have time to see each other again, we'll start going out again.
One of the reasons we work well together is because we don't even talk about our religion. Sure, we've seen The DaVinci Code, but that movie actually sticks up for Pagans. His parents are Christian too, so his dad is kind of uneasy about me, but his mom doesn't really care about my religion.
Now I've never gone to church with him (he never goes anyways) but of he asked me to go with him and I didn't have any other plans, I would go. I go to church with my friends sometimes, and I have nothing against church, but I'm really not going to go unless I'm invited. I wouldn't tolerate being volunteered for a Bible study group though. If I want to read the Bible, I'll read the Bible. But I'm not going to be forced into it.
I wouldn't force him to go to a Pagan gathering either. I'd simply say that I was going to some sort of gathering, ask if he'd like to go, and if he said no, I'd drop it (but I wouldn't be disappointed), if he said yes I'd be glad.
Tell him that forcing you into situations like Bible study makes you uncomfortable (if it does). He should understand. If he still tries to rope you into Christian gatherings, try to get him to go to a Pagan one. If he's not willing to participate in or at least toleate your religion, it's not good.
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 8:58 pm
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 9:02 pm
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 9:18 pm
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Posted: Mon Jul 10, 2006 8:16 am
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Posted: Mon Jul 10, 2006 9:09 am
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That he's a Christian shouldn't matter if he's as tolerant as he says; I have no idea why so many people freak out along the line of "Ohmigosh! My partner is Christian and I'm a Pagan!" Most Christians are decent people, and they're going to leave you to do your own thing while they do theirs. Some jointly attend special celebrations, while others don't
Now my first question to you, honestly, is that he'f he's so okay with your religion what the heck is he doing asking you to go to church with him? Especially if it's making you *that* uncomfortable.
Secondly, don't feel compelled to participate in an event you were volunteered for. Seems a little rediculous, doesn't it, for a Pagan to be a volunteer at a Bible study? You said it: You're Pagan. Be proud of who you are and say that you don't wish to participate.
You shouldn't have to suck anything up, and I suspect asking him to go to a solstice event might go poorly; you started dating him three days ago, and look at what he's pushing on you. After saying "Oh, no I'm alright with your spirituality!" The hell with backing off the Baptist, back off the boy.
Honestly, would you let a friend do this to you? Or wouldn't you expect the friend to show you enough respect to not coerce you into attending functions that make you a) uncomfortable, b) that you have no interest in, and c) that you really don't seem to want to do. If your father is anything like my father, he isn't giving you the look on account of what the boy is thinking; it would be on account of what you're thinking letting someone treat youlike that after three days.
My appologies if that sounds a bit rantish, but I've gone through a miserable relationship with a control freak for a boyfriend, and this is how it got started: First I got dragged along and volunteered, the next thing I knew I wasn't allowed to spend time with anyone but him, my family and friends were inculded in that "anyone."
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Posted: Mon Jul 10, 2006 9:12 am
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Posted: Mon Jul 10, 2006 11:05 am
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Posted: Mon Jul 10, 2006 4:04 pm
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Posted: Mon Jul 10, 2006 9:12 pm
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Posted: Tue Jul 11, 2006 5:05 am
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Posted: Tue Jul 11, 2006 10:11 am
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