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I guess it's her decision and you can't make it for her, but if you're going to advise her she should know that if he cheated on her once he's more than likely to do it again.

i'd advise her not to....
guys who cheat will keep cheating 9 times out of ten it has nothing to do with the woman (hell supermodels get cheated on like crazy)
she'd be better off with a guy who cant even concive of cheating..

Her life, her descision. In my opinion, she shouldn't be giving him a second chance. Cheating isn't something that should be condoned (and yes, giving them a second chance is telling them that they really can, essentially, get away with it). Also, it sounds like he's been doing this for an extended period of time - doubly un-okay. Your best friend should not be with this person anymore. She definitely deserves someone with the maturity to choose to like her and only her and the willpower to then stick to that decision. Why on earth should she give him another chance? Doesn't sound like he deserves it, from what you've said.

If it were up to me, I'd dump him and then pretty much broadcast to the rest of the female population in the area that he's a cheater who shouldn't be trusted beyond a one-nighter. But that's just me... I suppose I'm a little sensitive about the whole "cheating" thing (bad experience). But condoning it just continues the problem. Bleh...Cheaters... ><

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I'd say she should confront him about it then gage his reaction. If he sounds really sorry then give him another shot, but if it happens again, drop him. Period.

Of course, if he gets an attitude about it then totally drop him, no question.

not true! scream

ok, here's the deal, if he's done it once, it could be a mistake. if he's done it twice, it could mean that he didn't learn from his first mistake. but if it's a constant thing, then, yeah, "always a cheater."

but here's the thing about that "once a cheater always a cheater" thing: i've cheated on my boyfriend twice. i know, i know, "how horrible, how does this not make my point?" both times, the guy got me drunk. they both knew that i liked them, but wouldn't do anything with them because i had a boyfriend and was/am in love with him. i learned from my mistakes and truly am sorry. plus, that was a point in my life when i was on an emotional roller coaster. not that i'm saying these are excuses, i'm saying these might have been reasons for my actions. the first time, i broke up with my boyfriend because i didn't want to hurt him as bad as i knew i would. the second time, i told him almost right away.
if he shows no remorse, than he is that "cheating" stereotype. let him have another chance.