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HOKAY. So... yeah. I probably won't write here too often, and if I do, it might not be about me. However, since this is my first entry, I'm going to post something on a few personal policies of mine.
On Dating: I don't date. No, I'm not asexual, if you're wondering. I see no reason to subject myself to silly social games. I see no reason to enter a relationship with somone I don't really love, or are not completely interested in. A few months of being with somone under a false pretense of "happiness" is not worth all the pain and anguish within the relationship, or all that comes after. If you don't love somone, why even date them? Do you expect to start loving them? That's not how love is supposed to work.
I believe in soul-mates. Not everyone does. In fact, even a lot of people who do don't believe there is somone out there "for them." I think that this is why a lot of marriages don't work out. People don't wait for their soulmate, or don't believe they'll ever find one, so they go and marry some person they don't really love with all their heart. And those marriages end badly. I think if a lot more people didn't go off and marry somone they don't love, there would be a lot more happy marriages and relationships and more love in the world.
Anyway, these are the main reasons I don't date. I had two boyfriends in highschool, and after I ended the second relationship, I thought to myself, "what's the point?" and haven't dated since. I know there is somone out there for me and whenever I find them I'll know it. It won't just be a matter of "hey, they're kinda nice, I should ask them on a date." I'd rather save myself pain as well as keep myself open for when I do find the right person.
On Looks: Since this is somewhat relevant, I'm going to put it in this post too. While some may consider me shallow, I'm going to say that in a relationship, looks matter. I'm not saying only beautiful people should date, or whatever. But if somone is dating somone they do not find physically attractive, that relationship will not work out. It doesn't matter if that person is nice, or intelligent; if they aren't attractive to the other person, then things just won't work. While people may think this is a shallow thought pattern, one must take note that not everyone is attracted to the "Hollywood standard," so to speak. Some people may actually like people who are overweight, or what others consider ugly, and if two people are truly in love, then no matter what they look like to other people then they will find each other attractive. It's naive to say "looks don't matter" when they do, and I personally don't believe thinking this way is shallow, just rational.
Rikku lvl 99 · Fri Jun 30, 2006 @ 12:49am · 1 Comments |
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