Imagine you've got a great friend. Somebody who you'd talk to every day. Somebody who you could share all your secrets with. Somebody who you could count on, who'd listen to your woes without any complaint. Somebody you cared for. Somebody you would enjoy wasting away your day talking to. Somebody you didn't feel you were actually wasting your time talking to.
Now imagine that same person suddenly disappears from your life without any word of warning. Imagine this same person who you thought you'd known all this time would just up and vanish without leaving you any news at all.
Then imagine that after worrying about them endlessly you finally receive word. "Oh, I'm fine I've been busy. Thanks for your concern". That's good news you're thinking, right? Sure, good news they're ok we can just assume that point. But where's the apology? Where's the explanation? "Busy? Oh, that's fine then"
At this point you're slightly miffed that they could just abandon you and then not seem to have any empathy regarding their absence. And wait, what's this? They've gone AWOL yet again? Well we'll just send them an email you're thinking? Good luck with that, doesn't seem to be any response from emails, doesn't seem to be any response at all!
Now rack your brains, did you do anything to offend them? Did you say something you shouldn't have? But then it's not just you their not talking to is it, they seem to have lost contact with anyone you know that knows them. This again starts the worrying, are they ok? Have they had some kind of accident?! Oh wait, there they are! Oh, and they've gone again!
At least we know they're ok now. The only problem now is you're no doubt wondering why they're not getting in contact with you. After being such close friends they can discard you that easily? Seems rather confusing if you ask me.
Gradually this person spends less time "appearing" you're starting to wonder if you're going to see them ever again. How are you going to cope with this? Do you feel that initial worry turning to anger? That anger turning to confusion? Confusion to doubt, doubt to apathy? Are you starting to wonder where this is going to end? Will you ever get them out of your mind or are you doomed to have them haunt you forever?
Now you're at the point where you're not sure you want them to return. Now you feel that you're at a point where you're 'okay' with their absence. If they come back will you just be bitter towards them? If they come back will you just keep yourself from getting close again in case they decide to vanish once more?
What's the answer?
-Mouse- · Wed Dec 06, 2006 @ 05:49pm · 7 Comments |