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I can only express my thoughts/opinions from what I see. Don't take anything I say for anything other then my opinions. whee

But it really sounds like your just settling with someone who truly isn't meant to be with you.

Don't rationalize the need for companionship and to go out sometimes with someone and stay with someone you truly can't see spending the rest of your life with.

It's both wrong for you and for the person you are with. If the relationship is a deadend then it's best not to stick with it.

*These are from the thoughts of the ever crazy person know as Bell, so don't listen if it doesn't apply*

As the Dandy-one said, we don't really know the full situation and so can only give half-arsed opinions. But sometimes a half-arsed opinion that speaks to you is all it takes. :XD As I see it, if you're both okay with the relationship being a no-hoper and you're both free to leave whenever (i.e. should a better option come along :XD ) then I say you might as well stick with each other if you enjoy being around one another. But as you've already said he's pissing you off, my advice is exactly the opposite. I doubt very much waiting for the one year mark is going to magically make anything better, so you probably should break it off as best you can as soon as you can. [b]BUT[/b] my advice to you isn't even that, it is this: take relational sabbatical, how much freedom you put into it is entirely between you two but rather than just ending it completely and burning your bridges, try and keep things open so you can return should you decide to. See how you feel without him for a few week, maybe try going out with other people, maybe not. The key issue is to give yourself time and space away from him (and all of his conveniences) so you can see just how strongly you feel about him when he's not pissing you off, just how much of your relationship is based on convenience and see how much you miss him, if at all. Maybe you really are content with him, but your wondering about it has created tensions which neither of you are reacting to properly, resulting in him pissing you off. Maybe you've convinced yourself things are worse than they are, or possibilities are facts and are too sure in your own decision to see the actual truth. Or maybe, just maybe you've got cold feet in a relationship that isn't as easy as you'd hoped it would be and the presence of other offers is making you itchy to get out of it, only to regret it later. Maybe all of these things, maybe none of them. Maybe you two just aren't cut out for each other and you'll be glad to be rid of him, at least as a boyfriend. Just don't rush into anything you might regret as people are more complex than even they themselves realise at times, especially over issues like love. :3nod: