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Bleeding Apocalypse

Report | 03/20/2014 8:10 pm

Bleeding Apocalypse

Don't worry about it. I totally understand. Long distance relationship, 10 years in the making. I call him my husband, but we're not married yet. We're planning to get hitched when he comes here, though. A very small wedding. We can have a bigger ceremony when we can afford it. I've had other boyfriends before, all IRl, face to face relationships, but none that felt so genuinely close as what I have with him. I guess the distance kind of forced us to be more open and communicative with each other. There was literally no other option. So... Maybe that helped, in the long run.

I had to fly from New York to Paris to Helsinki to Tampere. And from Tampere, take a bus to the little town of Ylöjärvi. He tells me, don't worry, Tampere is the third largest city in the country. So I'm thinking it'll be a huge plane, right? Wrong. It's a 30 minute flight from Helsinki to Tampere, and the plane had a grand total of 11 people. 11. On a flight to the third most populated city in the country. His idea of a big city and mine are very different. And hey... sometimes being a tourist is nice. I'm always kinda pissed off at tourist for walking slow and looking up, but it's nice to see something new for a change. And I think I felt that maybe I could've lived in Ylöjärvi. I loved the quiet, I loved the lake nearby, I loved the scenery. And the "big" city was only 30 minutes away by bus. Not bad. Different, but not bad. As for the language, I downloaded some language learning software and some e-books. But it's still slow learning. The language is seriously strange. For example, the same words, in the same order, can be used to mean, "The moon is close" and "the moon is on fire." I don't get it. But I find it extremely rude to decide to live in a country where you don't speak the language and expect every one else to speak your language around you. Plus, it would be hard as hell to find a job not speaking Finnish.

I think it would be easier for him here, too. He already speaks and reads English very well, and the Finnish consulate would be more than helpful in giving him support in finding a job. He doesn't think he can stomach living in an overcrowded city. But the fact of the matter is, one of us is going to HAVE to move eventually. And if he doesn't genuinely feel like he will ever feel all right in New York, I'll go to Finland. It'll be hard for me to get a job and establish myself. But I'm gonna have to do it.

Hey, don't worry about how you appear. If you need to take the time to get yourself right and that takes a long time, then it takes a long time. The most important thing is that you're feeling better. Take all the time you need to get right.
FTW Kitten

Report | 03/20/2014 8:02 pm

FTW Kitten

Clearly it was a different time, with a bunch of strange events going around.
FTW Kitten

Report | 03/20/2014 7:25 pm

FTW Kitten

Little bit.

Keeps the flavor.
Bleeding Apocalypse

Report | 03/19/2014 4:13 am

Bleeding Apocalypse

[size=11]Going on 10 years with this guy.  It's about time we met face to face, you know?  I've been working hard and saving money to make a return trip soon.


Uhm... well, I brought my Kindle with me, and I had a bunch of books downloaded onto that thing, but it completely slipped my mind that long flights nowadays mostly have TVs built into the headrests of the seats so you can watch movies or shows, play games or listen to music. Though I preferred my own MP3 player. I spent most of the time watching movies I didn't get to see in he theater. I finally got to see saw Skyfall that way. I thought it was a great damn movie.

Funny story; I had over packed and my luggage was too heavy to board the plane. Luckily, I had not only a carry-on bag with me, but also an empty bag that I had intended to use to pick up souvenirs at the airport. I ended up having to pack most of my essential things in my carry-on and stuff my empty bag full of anything else I could in order to bring the weight down. My cell phone charging wires, camera, a change of clothes, a whole lot of s**t went into these two carry-on bags. And just my luck, somehow, Air France loses my luggage somewhere between Paris and Helsinki. So I arrive in Tampere with nothing but what I brought with me in the carry-on. And that was a lesson learned because even though I had very little actually [i]with[/i] me when I landed, I realized it was all of the stuff I actually NEEDED. My luggage was found two days later, but I had everything I absolutely needed with me. So I doubt I'll ever over pack the way I did ever again.

He's never been to New York. He's kind of freaking out about the idea of it. His entire town can fit into one of my sports stadiums, so the population difference is huge. We're talking about going from 30,000 people to 10,000,000 people. And a living area that's endless trees and lakes to skyscrapers and concrete. It's about as different as a jungle and a desert. But when he comes, he wants to stay for about a month. Get a feel for the place. Because he says he's been trying to wrap his brain about living in New York, and I told him New York is more than just this city. I mean, hell, 30 minutes outside of the city are tiny little quiet towns with rivers and forests. It's just... boring out there, so, you know, there are no movies or TV shows that depict [i]that[/i] sort of life.

Finnish is a [i]b***h[/i] of a language to learn. I've been trying for three years and just now I'm starting to grasp some of it. I asked him to slowly introduce Finnish words into our everyday conversation, so I can get used to hearing it, used to seeing the spelling when we text. I'm slowly but surely getting the hang of it. He told me, don't worry, almost everyone in Finland speaks English. And they do. His mom, his sisters, even the guy from the supermarket checkout. His boss at the coffee factory was excited to hear I was from New York and spoke only in English to me because she wanted to "practice" her English on me. And here I am, trying to get a feel for the language, and I learn exactly two words: jatkuu and tarjous. Which mean "continuing" and "deal," as in... "this show is continuing later" and "we have a sale going on." Useless. But practice makes perfect.

I have an enormous family. 20+ first cousins, because both my parents have more than 6 brothers and sisters each. For him, it's just his mom and 2 sisters. So leaving all of these people I'm close to, many of whom I see and speak to daily, is going to be the hardest part. Especially my grandparents, who are very, very old and two are in fragile health. I'd hate to get the call when I'm overseas that they've passed away. But death is inevitable, and my God, sometimes I think my grandfather is immortal. But I can't just kind of sit around and wait for the end to come before moving, or it might not happen. I have to take that leap and hope I can make it home at least o
Bleeding Apocalypse

Report | 03/19/2014 4:13 am

Bleeding Apocalypse

[size=11]Going on 10 years with this guy.  It's about time we met face to face, you know?  I've been working hard and saving money to make a return trip soon.


Uhm... well, I brought my Kindle with me, and I had a bunch of books downloaded onto that thing, but it completely slipped my mind that long flights nowadays mostly have TVs built into the headrests of the seats so you can watch movies or shows, play games or listen to music. Though I preferred my own MP3 player. I spent most of the time watching movies I didn't get to see in he theater. I finally got to see saw Skyfall that way. I thought it was a great damn movie.

Funny story; I had over packed and my luggage was too heavy to board the plane. Luckily, I had not only a carry-on bag with me, but also an empty bag that I had intended to use to pick up souvenirs at the airport. I ended up having to pack most of my essential things in my carry-on and stuff my empty bag full of anything else I could in order to bring the weight down. My cell phone charging wires, camera, a change of clothes, a whole lot of s**t went into these two carry-on bags. And just my luck, somehow, Air France loses my luggage somewhere between Paris and Helsinki. So I arrive in Tampere with nothing but what I brought with me in the carry-on. And that was a lesson learned because even though I had very little actually [i]with[/i] me when I landed, I realized it was all of the stuff I actually NEEDED. My luggage was found two days later, but I had everything I absolutely needed with me. So I doubt I'll ever over pack the way I did ever again.

He's never been to New York. He's kind of freaking out about the idea of it. His entire town can fit into one of my sports stadiums, so the population difference is huge. We're talking about going from 30,000 people to 10,000,000 people. And a living area that's endless trees and lakes to skyscrapers and concrete. It's about as different as a jungle and a desert. But when he comes, he wants to stay for about a month. Get a feel for the place. Because he says he's been trying to wrap his brain about living in New York, and I told him New York is more than just this city. I mean, hell, 30 minutes outside of the city are tiny little quiet towns with rivers and forests. It's just... boring out there, so, you know, there are no movies or TV shows that depict [i]that[/i] sort of life.

Finnish is a [i]b***h[/i] of a language to learn. I've been trying for three years and just now I'm starting to grasp some of it. I asked him to slowly introduce Finnish words into our everyday conversation, so I can get used to hearing it, used to seeing the spelling when we text. I'm slowly but surely getting the hang of it. He told me, don't worry, almost everyone in Finland speaks English. And they do. His mom, his sisters, even the guy from the supermarket checkout. His boss at the coffee factory was excited to hear I was from New York and spoke only in English to me because she wanted to "practice" her English on me. And here I am, trying to get a feel for the language, and I learn exactly two words: jatkuu and tarjous. Which mean "continuing" and "deal," as in... "this show is continuing later" and "we have a sale going on." Useless. But practice makes perfect.

I have an enormous family. 20+ first cousins, because both my parents have more than 6 brothers and sisters each. For him, it's just his mom and 2 sisters. So leaving all of these people I'm close to, many of whom I see and speak to daily, is going to be the hardest part. Especially my grandparents, who are very, very old and two are in fragile health. I'd hate to get the call when I'm overseas that they've passed away. But death is inevitable, and my God, sometimes I think my grandfather is immortal. But I can't just kind of sit around and wait for the end to come before moving, or it might not happen. I have to take that leap and hope I can make it home at least o
Sir Schmerz

Report | 03/19/2014 4:02 am

Sir Schmerz

Haha, yep! The inflation's crazy these days. Heck, I could write a long list of things that are questionable around here these days, but let's leave it at that.

Thanks a bunch for the gift, though!
Bleeding Apocalypse

Report | 03/18/2014 7:36 pm

Bleeding Apocalypse

Joined a workout class. Dropped a lot of weight. I'm thinking about joining tae kwon do, more for the fitness than the discipline. But I'd been in TKD when I was younger and really enjoyed it, so I think... maybe... I might join it.

I went to visit the husband in Finland. I was there for 2 weeks. Met his mom and his sisters. Took weird risks and ate wild berries from the ground and tried reindeer meat (delicious) and bear meat (horrible, for the love of God, don't eat it). Looking for a new job. I have skills I need to develop, but I'm thinking, maybe, I might just move to Finland. It scares me to death, but one of us is going to have to make the move. And I'm willing to go. It'll just be a difficult conversation with my parents and sisters.
Bleeding Apocalypse

Report | 03/16/2014 7:46 pm

Bleeding Apocalypse

I'm... not even sure what to say except that I'm sorry. I'm sorry it didn't work out. You're right, though, you're still young. And I'm not going to give you some lip service, because I'm not in the position to say nice things for the sake of saying nice things. It sucks. It's going to suck for a while. But you will be all right.
Bleeding Apocalypse

Report | 03/15/2014 11:27 am

Bleeding Apocalypse

Sure I remember you! And... thing haven't changed much, visually maybe, but they've changed in other ways. Such as +3000% inflation on any and everything that's not found in the gold shops. But that's dramatics that doesn't need to be brought up. How's married life treating you?
Bleeding Apocalypse

Report | 08/02/2012 9:28 am

Bleeding Apocalypse

Just the other day I was wondering wtf happened to you and if you'd ever get online again. xd

It's been great knowing you, man! Good luck in your offline life!

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