The first step to accept change of any form is to embrace it. Embrace the idea of change, and what it may do to you. Embrace the trigger of emotional, and experiential growth it promotes in our mind.
Like I've told others before, change is constant. We are human beings with a series of emotions and feelings that run through our bodies day in and day out. In order to understand the degree of all of that makes us who we are, we must come in terms with everything. You need to realize that in order to be happy and satisfied, you might have to feel sad and lost. You might need to be angry and frustrated to fall into a state of peace and contentment. And just as you're able to accept the steady continuation of a stable lifestyle, you will need to come in to terms with its opposed partner: change. There are two types of change. Self change, and general change.
SELF CHANGE
First, we will begin with self-change.
Personally I found the acceptance of self change, the hardest of all. To come in terms with all of your flaws and accept them for exactly what they are can be rather difficult. & I'm not just talking about how much you've changed physically, I'm talking about your perspectives, how you may feel about certain things now, as opposed to what you might of felt 5yrs ago, and even things as small as your favorite foods.
When I was younger, everything was changing around me. I myself, was changing as well, but quite frankly I didn't want to grow out of who I was, because A. I was comfortable living my life as it was, and B. the thought of my own being subtly changing into who I am and what I'm becoming, scared me. I thought if I changed I would lose those who meant something to me, and the more I pushed the thought of it away, the stronger it pulled me. During those times, I realized two things: one, if I did change, I was either going to lose these said-individuals from my life, or they were going to accept me for exactly who I am and be with me on this journey I love to call, Life. and two, how fearful I was. I was afraid, and it was fear that kept holding me back. I needed to live. I needed to break free and allow life to naturally mold me into who I am and what I'm becoming, and obviously what is life without change (amongst other things, obviously)? It was then that I realized that I had to fall in love with myself. I had to fall in love with my perspectives and physical changes. I had to accept that, and I had to embrace the fact that just because I liked cooked tomatoes 5yrs ago and not now, didn't make me any less of who I was as a person.
Who you are is a gift of itself. You are you and with everything you feel and think, no one else can truly go through those attributes as well as you do.
The best way to begin accepting personal change, is to meditate. Go somewhere quiet and peaceful (or if music helps you think better, listen to music.) Tell the Little You that you're both going to go on a journey of personal acceptance. Hold the Little You's hand and be your own protector of the thoughts that are going to hold you back from your own personal freedom. It's inevitable, because what's going to happen is your sub-conscious mind (that is so full of fear) is going to try to keep you in place. Don't listen to it, because once you get over this personal obstacle, you will quite literally feel untouchable and extremely open minded. Embrace everything. You are no less than anyone who roams this world with you, because it is YOUR RIGHT to be able to think whatever you wish you think, to say whatever your heart yearns to say, and to love whomever you want, and personal change will impact all of those things, but that doesn't mean it's going to be a bad thing, if anything, personal change for the better is the best feeling of all. It's also so fun to live into, because you'll be able to see how much things have shifted over time.
GENERAL CHANGE
The second form of change, which is the most prominent, is general change. General change is anything that happens away from you. Your friends whom you were friends with in elementary school, but now are just acquaintances as you go into highschool? They've changed into someone who no longer needs to be sharing a life with you. Does that necessarily mean it's a bad thing? Not at all, no.
Like I've told others before, change is constant. We are human beings with a series of emotions and feelings that run through our bodies day in and day out. In order to understand the degree of all of that makes us who we are, we must come in terms with everything. You need to realize that in order to be happy and satisfied, you might have to feel sad and lost. You might need to be angry and frustrated to fall into a state of peace and contentment. And just as you're able to accept the steady continuation of a stable lifestyle, you will need to come in to terms with its opposed partner: change. There are two types of change. Self change, and general change.
SELF CHANGE
First, we will begin with self-change.
Personally I found the acceptance of self change, the hardest of all. To come in terms with all of your flaws and accept them for exactly what they are can be rather difficult. & I'm not just talking about how much you've changed physically, I'm talking about your perspectives, how you may feel about certain things now, as opposed to what you might of felt 5yrs ago, and even things as small as your favorite foods.
When I was younger, everything was changing around me. I myself, was changing as well, but quite frankly I didn't want to grow out of who I was, because A. I was comfortable living my life as it was, and B. the thought of my own being subtly changing into who I am and what I'm becoming, scared me. I thought if I changed I would lose those who meant something to me, and the more I pushed the thought of it away, the stronger it pulled me. During those times, I realized two things: one, if I did change, I was either going to lose these said-individuals from my life, or they were going to accept me for exactly who I am and be with me on this journey I love to call, Life. and two, how fearful I was. I was afraid, and it was fear that kept holding me back. I needed to live. I needed to break free and allow life to naturally mold me into who I am and what I'm becoming, and obviously what is life without change (amongst other things, obviously)? It was then that I realized that I had to fall in love with myself. I had to fall in love with my perspectives and physical changes. I had to accept that, and I had to embrace the fact that just because I liked cooked tomatoes 5yrs ago and not now, didn't make me any less of who I was as a person.
Who you are is a gift of itself. You are you and with everything you feel and think, no one else can truly go through those attributes as well as you do.
The best way to begin accepting personal change, is to meditate. Go somewhere quiet and peaceful (or if music helps you think better, listen to music.) Tell the Little You that you're both going to go on a journey of personal acceptance. Hold the Little You's hand and be your own protector of the thoughts that are going to hold you back from your own personal freedom. It's inevitable, because what's going to happen is your sub-conscious mind (that is so full of fear) is going to try to keep you in place. Don't listen to it, because once you get over this personal obstacle, you will quite literally feel untouchable and extremely open minded. Embrace everything. You are no less than anyone who roams this world with you, because it is YOUR RIGHT to be able to think whatever you wish you think, to say whatever your heart yearns to say, and to love whomever you want, and personal change will impact all of those things, but that doesn't mean it's going to be a bad thing, if anything, personal change for the better is the best feeling of all. It's also so fun to live into, because you'll be able to see how much things have shifted over time.
GENERAL CHANGE
The second form of change, which is the most prominent, is general change. General change is anything that happens away from you. Your friends whom you were friends with in elementary school, but now are just acquaintances as you go into highschool? They've changed into someone who no longer needs to be sharing a life with you. Does that necessarily mean it's a bad thing? Not at all, no.
