Ok... in our prayer guild.. we were talking about a suggestion to have a thread where people could go to talk about their problems and seek counseling. Well, I highly recommended there be a rule for such a thread that anything said there: STAYS THERE. This is really important.. because sometimes people may need to talk about things that are sensitive issues. A big thing that hurts a lot of churches is gossip.
How can you find a safe place for your problems if you have to worry about people keeping stuff to themselves. If they won't make a no talking rule... then they need a rule that bans people who have a weakness for gossip from being in there.. i know there really isn't a way to enforce it or know if they are really doing it... but i think it needs to be an important issue and talked about. Oh.. and what was his reply?? I should go get it and copy paste it here. cuz i read that ... and i'm like.. i'm so not giving him anymore advise on how to have good leadership in that guild. He obviously isn't gonna head any of it unless it was something that sounds like he wanted in the first place.
excerpt from suggestion thread update --Addition to Counselor thread (or not), where people can say stuff, and others don't talk about it behind their back (or something like that) = While it sounds good, it just won't work; people will talk, it's a proven fact. Good idea in theory, but not so good in reality.
oh really? is that a fact? Well.. god bless his soul.. my former paster, Pastor Reed never stood for gossip in his church. sure.. there were a few there... and stuff would get out of hand from time to time.. but if he ever caught wind of stuff.. he'd bring in his office everyone who he heard had anything to do with it.. and he'd dig around till he found where it all came from.. and made a habit of speaking out against that kind of thing from the pulpit a lot. and, i always appreciated that about him. Let me tell you people something... one of the most effective tools the devil uses to fight against the body of christ with is discord. And.. gossip is a fast track to discord.
and... to say people are gonna talk... well, i could say.. oh well, kids are gonna have sex and have babies.. but that isn't right still or helpful, now is it??? scream stressed Gossip is a serious issue in churches that need to be dealt with. People who think it's such an irrelevant issue are soo off. They obviously are really oblivious to how hteir actions and behaviors affect other people. You can't have people going around talking and whispering behind each other's backs... and not expect a group to fall apart. A house divided against itself cannot stand. Christ himself said that. so then.. if you have people within the body who are talking about other people's sensitive issues between themselves... how does that make the person feel? and then.. the guild crew don't want to do anything about it??? Well, I am a crew member there. If i catch wind of any gossiping going on, I'm speaking out against it and putting my foot down. If it gets me banned, so beit... But.. there are some things worth standing up for... and one of them is to stand against discord which includes gossiping. I know i may have said this a thousand times already, but it really just irks me to no end...
stressed stressed stressed stressed stressed evil I feel like i just want to smack someone. stare
and.. what's more.. you know... when that happens.. it's not even of the devil.. it's of stupid people who allow their flesh to take over and work that which is unseemly in the eyes of the Lord... moreover.. in his holy temple... because i consider that guild like a church. and the fact they aren't willing to stand up against it really yanks my chain. stressed stare
 Graceangel · Wed Nov 10, 2004 @ 05:34pm · 0 Comments |
