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Wow, I had no idea you've been through so much in the past couple years! Then again, so have I.

College, is college. It can get hard, but your first semesters are going to be easy. Basically, they are refresher courses. Closer and closer to graduation, the classes will get harder and harder, but if you keep in mind what you learned before, it shouldn't be too hard.

I'm pretty sure you'll get accepted, but if you don't, then look at your other hobbies. Maybe you can go into graphic design or something to do with computers. I really don't know what you do in your spare time, but if you do it in your spare time, then you would like to do it for a job, right?

Look deep inside yourself and ask "Do I really want to go back to the Air Force?" If you don't, then look into getting an honorable discharge. I'm not sure how or if you can, but its worth a try for your better being. Because honestly, I'm worried about you!

I'm sure you'll find another guy. Why? Because you're so nice, and pretty. Besides, they say the best husband you can find is usually stuck in the friendzone. Got any cute guy friends in the friendzone? Try it!

Your husband sounds like a d**k, and it kinda sounds like the situation that I was in when we met at the meet up. I was in love with this guy that I almost had a baby with. The only reason I didn't have it is because I miscarried at two months, and the whole time he swore up and down that the baby wasn't his, until I miscarried. Afterwards, I still wanted to marry him. But now that we haven't spoke in almost two years, I absolutely hate him. I had time to think about what a d**k he was and now I'm not attracted to him at all. As long as you stay away from him, you should think about the bad s**t he did to you and then you'll drift apart from him. And yes, its because he was your first love. I wanted to marry my second love, because he took my virginity. Now my first love, I met when I was fourteen, and now I'm with him. I live with him and we're planning on getting married within the next two years.

I was thinking about you while you were gone. I was worried about you when you said you lost weight, because I know how skinny you are! I'm glad to hear from you (:

Thank you so much.

God, I'm on the verge of tears. I just feel very lonely, scared, and I just wish I had that special person who made me feel special and loved me for who I am. Sadly I have no close guy friends around. I just feel very lonely being home. So, it's very hard.

I am glad you found your true love and I hope the best for you too. I hope, I pray, that I will find the guy who will sweep me off my feet.

God, I hate this feeling of loneliness. I miss the feeling of being on top of the world. I felt like this in December of 2011, when I first got married. I had a "great" husband, a new furnished apartment, a nice paying job, I had my independence, I was in a city to do anything, and I had friends to hang out with. Now I hit rock bottom. :'[

I have a few girl friends here, but I don't see them much. I love them, but I do miss my friends I made in Vegas as well. It's just so hard. :'[

I love you and miss you!

Haven't seen this before now. (I think it's cause I'm rarely on Gaia these days, lol.)

But anyway...

All of these things you're feeling are normal. Going from independent back to slightly-dependent is a hard adjustment. And the missing your husband is normal too. Your heart hasn't had time to really heal yet. It's gonna hurt for a while, unfortunately. Keeping a boyfriend/husband/whatever around after a breakup typically makes it harder to move on. The sooner you can get him out of your life, the easier it'll get. I'm not saying cut him out right now, but just when you decide you're ready.

You'll find someone else. Just take your time. 3nodding

I don't think school will be too hard. Holmes is challenging at times, but it's not impossible usually. Depends on what you have to take, lol.
If you want/need to take any general education courses in addition to the occupational therapy assistant ones (it'd depend on how long those OT classes are though, Idk how their schedule works but I know some of the mechanical-based degrees are like 8a-3p with a lunch break), I have a list of cool teachers I can give you. smile
So don't stress about that too much. You got me and Amber D and Rachel to help you out if you need it.

I'm not sure about #2... You'd have to talk to someone at the Air Force about that.

And idiot boys are idiots. You could try talking to a divorce lawyer about the papers. I'm not sure if they can do anything, but it doesn't hurt to ask.
You'll feel that "first" connection for a while. But like I said, eventually it will lessen and you'll find another person to be with and you'll be fine. Or maybe you'll find someone first and growing closer to the new guy will help close the connection to your husband.

Don't dwell on what should have been - it's not good for you. You have lots of friends you can rely on when it gets hard. (I forget to keep in touch with people sometimes, but that's not because I don't care. Life just keeps me distracted. But you can always talk to me if you need to.) heart
And smile, pretty lady. =)

Thank you Ally. I haven't talked to my husband for a full 7 days. I basically told him its over. I guess it erks me that he isn't fighting for me or anything like I thought he would. It just proves that he never cared for me, so it hurts a lot more. Rejection. It hurts and I didn't even do anything wrong. I did EVERYTHING to make him happy, and he never did anything for me when we got married. He completely changed from the guy I dated.