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Stephanie,

You claim you love me and that you miss me. When I came to Orlando, however, you did not care to take the time to spend it with me. -just that Saturday for a few hours. We agreed to have dinner together. When you found out that I would not sit behid the same table without your mother and grandmother, you came up with a lame excuse that you had to look after the dog because it could not be left alone. ???? A dog was preferable to your father?

At Luana's wedding you practically pretended I wasn't there. You also knew I would fly back Wednesday morning. I waited for you to call all dat Monday and Tuesday - nothing. Then right after I come back to Brazil, you call asking for money.

Stephie, I am not going to be a financial father to you. I am hurt and I am angry. More hurt than angry.
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Daddy,
you came in and I spent time with you..you offered to take me out to dinner, and I came along..let me remind you that at the time everyone else was a bit upset with you..for what I'm not sure, but I went anyways because I wanted to spend time with my father. when it came time to dinner I called mom and asked for a good place and she offered golden coral.. you said you didnt want to go just yet because you thought it would be "akward" to be at the same restaurant as mom, so we waited....and waited..and waited...and whats funny is she was in a different restaraunt then the one she told me about..but I didnt find that out until I got home..Dad, the dog wasnt more preferable to you...the fact was, I was hungry ok and you were being stubborn and if I may say selfish at the time, and I didnt want to stay out anymore.. I'm sorry I shouldnt have come up with some lame excuse but I wasnt sure of what else to say really, and I dont get out much so I dont know the area and you were visiting so you didnt know the area either....at the wedding I was kinda pissed off.. I didnt feel comfortable around you and mom at the same time.. If you payed attention you would have noticed that I didnt sit next to mom either.. or grandma. Dad I love you.. I do.. I swear thats the truth because If I didnt love you, If I didnt care I wouldnt call you on father's day, or on your birthday or christmas or on holidays.. I wouldnt send emails asking how you are.. I wouldnt even of taken the time to reply to this one if I didnt care.
But I'll ask you this dad, how much have you truly done to be there for me? how hard have you truly "tried"? how many times have I called you about a father daughter dance, or with an idea for us to spend some quality time? The only times when you really did do anything daddy was when I came down for a month or two to visit and you stocked up the fridge with food and gave me a little extra spending money. how much has mom done? I've heard of the times when mom used to have to call you to remind you about my birthday, or luana's birthday.. I remember the time when luana called you for help with college and you told her to get an extra job.. I cried every time I called you because I was afraid you might say the same to me.. everytime we needed something extra around the house I was always afraid to call because I didnt want this this to happen.. I defended you alot too dad.. I Loved you..correction love you with everything in my heart.... your the only dad I know and have at the moment and I thought that thats what was important.I grew up knowing you as my father, and thats what you are and always will be . I'm sorry you're hurt, and even more so if I was the one who hurt you.
But I'm hurt too dad.. I'm truly hurt, and what I'm hurt about is the fact that you lied straight to my face daddy.. I'm hurt because this was a serious lie. Do you remember michael's wedding when you came up and we stayed at melissa's house? It was around the time that I found out you werent my "biological" father. do you remember when you told me you werent my dad, and that not only that but you also saw my "biological" father, and he was alive, and that when he recognized who you were he ran... dad mom found his DEATH CERTIFICATE!!! do you kow how much that hurts? daddy? not only the fact that there could have been a possibility that my mother lied to me about sucha thing but also the fact that I had a little hope of actually meeting him..seeing him... when I found out about the death certificate I cried for days dad..he died again to me and you were the one who did that..you hurt me more so then anyone could ever do. mom also told me that she called you the otehr day and that you asked her to tell me that I wasnt your responsibility or your daughter.but then what was I up til I turned 12 daddy? ... I dont know what I did daddy.. I really dont know what I did to get caught up in this entire thing and to get placed in the middle of all this mess.. I dont know why you or mom feel that you need to lie to pin me against the other or so that I would trust one more so than the other.. I love you both but I'm hurt...Daddy I do not "claim" that I love you.. I DO love you. there is no if's ands or but's about it daddy.. once you love someone they'll be in your heart forever and thats where you'll stay... I loved you growing up and I'll love you now. my heart soared everytime I saw you when I got off that plane when I was little and it continues to do so....but now I'm no longer a little girl who can be as easily fooled, I am a young lady who grew up with out a father but who loves him all the same.. I'm sorry daddy I wasnt perfect.. I'm sorry daddy I didnt write to you everyday.. I'm sorry daddy I couldn't lift YOU up on my shoulders and give you the world.. I'm sorry daddy that I couldnt be your "biological" daughter, and I'm espeacially sorry that I couldnt rip my own heart out and give it to you personally. I feel even worse by the fact that I didnt do as much as a good daughter should have done..and thats what I was trying to change.. I was trying to open up communication from the last email... I wasnt trying to ask for anything daddy.. I wasnt trying to bring anything up really..just to see how you were, to show that I really did care .. like we used to.
But I wonder daddy if I got married today to a rich man and did offer to buy you the world if you would love me all the more.. I do wonder daddy that If I were able to give you my own heart in a golden case if you would love me unconditionally as if I really were your daughter. I wonder If I had become a rich actress or someone famous when I was younger and If I were able to actually take care of you and fly you around the world and buy you nice things like you deserve, maybe you would have cared more..maybe I really would have been the daughter that you always wanted? is that why you are trying to renounce me now daddy? is that why you say that I am only pretending to "love" you daddy? because I couldnt be the daughter you wanted? because I'm not your daughter? then what am I? daddy I want to know..
I love you.. I always have, I always will, and I'll hope and wish and pray that maybe you'll feel the same..maybe the next time I see you I wont feel like your staring at me in disgust because I'm not your daughter, maybe I will feel that love of yours daddy.. and maybe I'll be able to show mine better..maybe next time we talk daddy and maybe next time I see you I will be able to give you the world and my heart and maybe even a pice of my soul, cause daddy...I love you.