She said -- she doesn't think we'll be together by the end of the year.. and that she doesn't think we'll be together in the future.. so I have to wonder, should I waste my time on her, then?
I mean, I really do love her more than anything... but if the relationship isn't going anywhere.. then should I just move on and find someone else (which will be impossible, but I'm speaking figuratively)? I mean.. It's not like I have a lot going on in my life right now, since I'm not in school.. but.. hm.
I guess.. I just don't want to waste time.. I have a lot of fun with her.. but.. if she doesn't think our relationship will work.. then.. why should I bother..? If she doesn't think she'll want to be with me, then does that mean I should find someone who does think they will?
She is very young, she's only 18.. so.. hm... I guess... I should .. I dunno.
I may talk to her about that later on.. but right now, I'm just going to ask friends.. .__.''
REPLIES
Bast
Bast says:
Meh, depends on you dood.
Bast says:
If you went away and then decided that you made a mistake, you'd hate yourself for it.
Bast says:
But if you stuck with it and things fell apart, you'll feel like you've wasted your time.
Bast says:
But, theres many years ahead of you in your life.
Bast says:
So
Bast says:
I'd say thinking that way is stupid.
Meh, depends on you dood.
Bast says:
If you went away and then decided that you made a mistake, you'd hate yourself for it.
Bast says:
But if you stuck with it and things fell apart, you'll feel like you've wasted your time.
Bast says:
But, theres many years ahead of you in your life.
Bast says:
So
Bast says:
I'd say thinking that way is stupid.
Harmony
Harmony says:
I wouldn't waste time if that's how she's going to be.
Harmony says:
I've been there before.
Harmony says:
Tell her you're leaving for good, if she wants you back then she'll pursue you.
Harmony says:
You ARE wasting your time with someone who doesn't know what they want, when you do.
Harmony says:
I hate it when people do this bullshit.
Harmony says:
Its the most heartbreaking thing sometimes.
I wouldn't waste time if that's how she's going to be.
Harmony says:
I've been there before.
Harmony says:
Tell her you're leaving for good, if she wants you back then she'll pursue you.
Harmony says:
You ARE wasting your time with someone who doesn't know what they want, when you do.
Harmony says:
I hate it when people do this bullshit.
Harmony says:
Its the most heartbreaking thing sometimes.
Yoru
Yoru says:
all the time in your life has been a waste, just like everyone else's
Yoru says:
the point is to waste the each day the way you want to
Yoru says:
so if you wasted yesterday being with a girl
Yoru says:
but it's what you wanted to do
Yoru says:
then you did the best thing you could do
Yoru says:
if she's gone tomorrow, that doesn't make yesterday a bigger waste
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Yoru says:
if she doesn't want a future with you, you just hang for a while, don't bug her
Yoru says:
if she comes to talk to you, be nice and casual
Yoru says:
but don't cling
Yoru says:
if she wants to get you back she will
Zonex
Zonex says:
If you don't want to leave her you should stick it out until she leaves. Something ain't right about it and her and her friends have knowledge of someone or something.
If you don't want to leave her you should stick it out until she leaves. Something ain't right about it and her and her friends have knowledge of someone or something.
Tryna
Tryna says:
Hm.
If you enjoy being with her so much, perhaps you should just enjoy the times you have left with her. But, if she's going to end it, you have to be prepared to move on. Or maybe even try to convince her to change her mind about it all.
Hm.
If you enjoy being with her so much, perhaps you should just enjoy the times you have left with her. But, if she's going to end it, you have to be prepared to move on. Or maybe even try to convince her to change her mind about it all.
Frost
Frost says:
To be honest, ******** her. Seriously. All this time you have given her, stayed loyal to her, tried to look out for her stupid a**, like when she went raving and doing drugs, you stuck with her. She doesnt deserve you. She doesnt respect you. And in all truth, i'm pissed at how she has treated you. If I was in your shoes, I would have told her to get ******** long ago, I know you love her, but...
Frost says:
She obviously doesnt feel the same way, she just playing with you, ******** her.
To be honest, ******** her. Seriously. All this time you have given her, stayed loyal to her, tried to look out for her stupid a**, like when she went raving and doing drugs, you stuck with her. She doesnt deserve you. She doesnt respect you. And in all truth, i'm pissed at how she has treated you. If I was in your shoes, I would have told her to get ******** long ago, I know you love her, but...
Frost says:
She obviously doesnt feel the same way, she just playing with you, ******** her.
Elle
Elle says:
Looks like your girlfriend is treating you like a bag of s**t. Honestly, I'd just get the ******** out and never look back. Saw the replies in your journal too, makes me even more sick finding out how she's treated you
Elle says:
It's not like you're a bad person either. So you definately don't deserve this s**t
Looks like your girlfriend is treating you like a bag of s**t. Honestly, I'd just get the ******** out and never look back. Saw the replies in your journal too, makes me even more sick finding out how she's treated you
Elle says:
It's not like you're a bad person either. So you definately don't deserve this s**t
Wolfeh
Wolfeh says:
well <pats chin> I think you should drag it on as long as you can
Wolfeh says:
if you're happy then you should keep it going- if you two drift apart after a while then it wasn't meant to be
Wolfeh says:
but don't cut it off because of something like that- you'll regret it for the rest of your life
well <pats chin> I think you should drag it on as long as you can
Wolfeh says:
if you're happy then you should keep it going- if you two drift apart after a while then it wasn't meant to be
Wolfeh says:
but don't cut it off because of something like that- you'll regret it for the rest of your life
Sephy
Sephy says:
well you really care about her, so play her game for a while?
well you really care about her, so play her game for a while?
Rose
Rose says:
plus its not wasting your time if youre with the person you love
Rose says:
also, its silly to think that way because its like saying "there isnt any point in being with anyone ever because im just going to die one die or they'll die"
plus its not wasting your time if youre with the person you love
Rose says:
also, its silly to think that way because its like saying "there isnt any point in being with anyone ever because im just going to die one die or they'll die"
Miranda
Frankly, both doors laid before you are two polar extremes.
First- if you stayed with her. Since I've known you some of the things Chloe does makes you so happy, you end up making me happy on my shittiest day. But there are those days (mainly nights) you have that suck the words right out of me and all I can do is give you an e-hug and show that I'm here for you. So basically being with her brings out both the best and the the worst in you. So sticking with her comes with both, so let me ask, when you are with her- even if you're fighting- in the middle of all the bad do you stop and feel that no matter how bad things get you two are still moving forward together? Or not? Because to me that's what a relationship is.
Second- if this break is permanent. Knowing you, those nights will get worse and worse and more lonely. And honestly I hate it when you're so far away from me. I hate that I can't do anything. But we are human. Every second of everyday life moves forward, sweeping us with it. So no matter what, time will go on, you will go on, and perhaps if you meet another person you will have that experience of knowing love and knowing what to give that person you may everything that they deserve. Even if you feel at this moment in time that that love will never find you again- you have to remember, that this moment is just one out of many to come. You won't know what the next one will have in store for you. (Goddamn I ******** cheesy).
But choosing this you might regret it. But like I said, you'll be swept away.
Now- down to what I think. And being completely honest, I do not think that what you have is healthy. She drags you down into the deepest pits that I do NOT want to see over and over again if she wants to take one break after another. You two could be happy, sure, but she is like heroine. The high is amazing but it comes with the cost of a killer comedown. I'd rather see you go and meet some person amazing and who will NOT play with your heart like she does. It makes me sick. All I want is for you to be happy and get what you deserve in this life.
But no matter what, if you choose her or not, I will support you. I'll be here for you no matter what- even if you start to feel bad for latching on to me- I want to be here for you.
(cheesecheesecheese DX )
*chu*
iluhun
First- if you stayed with her. Since I've known you some of the things Chloe does makes you so happy, you end up making me happy on my shittiest day. But there are those days (mainly nights) you have that suck the words right out of me and all I can do is give you an e-hug and show that I'm here for you. So basically being with her brings out both the best and the the worst in you. So sticking with her comes with both, so let me ask, when you are with her- even if you're fighting- in the middle of all the bad do you stop and feel that no matter how bad things get you two are still moving forward together? Or not? Because to me that's what a relationship is.
Second- if this break is permanent. Knowing you, those nights will get worse and worse and more lonely. And honestly I hate it when you're so far away from me. I hate that I can't do anything. But we are human. Every second of everyday life moves forward, sweeping us with it. So no matter what, time will go on, you will go on, and perhaps if you meet another person you will have that experience of knowing love and knowing what to give that person you may everything that they deserve. Even if you feel at this moment in time that that love will never find you again- you have to remember, that this moment is just one out of many to come. You won't know what the next one will have in store for you. (Goddamn I ******** cheesy).
But choosing this you might regret it. But like I said, you'll be swept away.
Now- down to what I think. And being completely honest, I do not think that what you have is healthy. She drags you down into the deepest pits that I do NOT want to see over and over again if she wants to take one break after another. You two could be happy, sure, but she is like heroine. The high is amazing but it comes with the cost of a killer comedown. I'd rather see you go and meet some person amazing and who will NOT play with your heart like she does. It makes me sick. All I want is for you to be happy and get what you deserve in this life.
But no matter what, if you choose her or not, I will support you. I'll be here for you no matter what- even if you start to feel bad for latching on to me- I want to be here for you.
(cheesecheesecheese DX )
*chu*
iluhun
Yuu
Yuu says:
SHe's doing that as a way to string you along really.
Yuu says:
To say that IF things don't go well then she will, but should they change than she might not.
Yuu says:
And as much as you think you won't find anyone else, Yea, you will.
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Yuu says:
If it's meant to be, it's meant to be.
Yuu says:
I wouldn't really stress on her too much if I were you. Iknow you love her, that much is evident.
Yuu says:
But at this point you're caught between a rock and a hard place with nowhere to turn so you need to think about you know.
Yuu says:
You can always look at her and tell her if that's the way she feels than as much as you care for her you don't have time for the games so you'll give her her way.
Yuu says:
Sometimes girls do things like this for attention, or as a way to put someone in the same position they're in because they feel out of control. And I say girls, but people in general do this.
Yuu says:
The only thing you can do is listen to what your heart tells you.
Yuu says:
If I had done that I wouldn't have wasted so much time hurting and looking.
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Yuu says:
You can't make someone love you, and you can't force a relationship to work if you're the only one that really wants it to.
Yuu says:
So just let it go with the flow, don't stress on it and don't worry about it. If you feel you can't let it continue to spare yourself pain than you're not in the wrong.
Yuu says:
If she did make a mistake and she really does care for you and want to spend her life with you she'll end up coming back, that's just femanine nature right there.
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Yuu says:
Really, all you can do at this stage is what is best for you.
Yuu says:
It's not being selfish, and though it may seem hard and like you've made a mistake, sometimes mistakes like that are for the best. Love is all about taking chances, and right now all you can do is decide how much of a chance you're willing to take now given everything.
Yuu says:
See how the next two months go and take things from there. If she still doesn't change her mind than you'll know that there's someone better out there for you. You're young with all sorts of life and time ahead of you. Maybe this is what it will take for you to venture out of your comfort zone and try new things.
SHe's doing that as a way to string you along really.
Yuu says:
To say that IF things don't go well then she will, but should they change than she might not.
Yuu says:
And as much as you think you won't find anyone else, Yea, you will.
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Yuu says:
If it's meant to be, it's meant to be.
Yuu says:
I wouldn't really stress on her too much if I were you. Iknow you love her, that much is evident.
Yuu says:
But at this point you're caught between a rock and a hard place with nowhere to turn so you need to think about you know.
Yuu says:
You can always look at her and tell her if that's the way she feels than as much as you care for her you don't have time for the games so you'll give her her way.
Yuu says:
Sometimes girls do things like this for attention, or as a way to put someone in the same position they're in because they feel out of control. And I say girls, but people in general do this.
Yuu says:
The only thing you can do is listen to what your heart tells you.
Yuu says:
If I had done that I wouldn't have wasted so much time hurting and looking.
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Yuu says:
You can't make someone love you, and you can't force a relationship to work if you're the only one that really wants it to.
Yuu says:
So just let it go with the flow, don't stress on it and don't worry about it. If you feel you can't let it continue to spare yourself pain than you're not in the wrong.
Yuu says:
If she did make a mistake and she really does care for you and want to spend her life with you she'll end up coming back, that's just femanine nature right there.
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Yuu says:
Really, all you can do at this stage is what is best for you.
Yuu says:
It's not being selfish, and though it may seem hard and like you've made a mistake, sometimes mistakes like that are for the best. Love is all about taking chances, and right now all you can do is decide how much of a chance you're willing to take now given everything.
Yuu says:
See how the next two months go and take things from there. If she still doesn't change her mind than you'll know that there's someone better out there for you. You're young with all sorts of life and time ahead of you. Maybe this is what it will take for you to venture out of your comfort zone and try new things.
