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So random thing I found out last Monday night (July 6th), a not so good thing. So I was dating this girl in 2007, we ended up breaking up near like August 15th I want to say, the day or so after we had PROTECTED sex, we got into this huge argument about something, she broke up with me. She's kept me on MSN this whole time, even got the new addy after the old one got hacked.
Which is fine, we don't talk because of whatever it is we got into an arugment about. So a two months went by, (Oct 07 now) and I met my current GF. Around the same time, that ex from August left school.
I was on MSN minding my own business talking to some people and she randomly comes on and says the following:"By the way, you are potential the father of the child I am now taking care of." So of course I was like:"WHA?" and she said:"I have a son, he would have been conceived around the time we last had sex. You need a blood test." She then left her number and logged off.
So I called her Tuesday, got her to explain everything. The good news is, right after she broke up with me, she had sex with some guy. A one night stand of sorts. The bad news is it was maybe a two day difference between when I had sex with her and when she slept with this other guy. I was then told I would take a paternity test Thursday then find out the following Monday (today July 13th) if I was a dad.
I visited her Wednesday (July 8th ) and well, I was quite pissed. It was 10 AM, she smelled of booze, had weed in her pocket and brought NOTHING to take care of the little guy even though she knew she was going to be out most of the day. I ended up having to buy them both lunch, buy diapers and other such toddler things.
So things went as normal, I got stuck with a paternity test Thursday, saw them both briefly Friday and a couple times over the weekend. All the times I did see my potential child and the baby-mom, she had brought nothing, I kept having to buy him new stuff every time.
Anyway, Sunday rolls around and I can finally tell my current GF (who had been on a family vacation since the Sunday before all this happened) and my sister (who I didn't tell because she had work stress) about all this. They were none too pleased at first but decided to support me 100% no matter what. So did my aunt and my brother-in-law.
So, today, July 13th 10 AM, I find out that yes, little David born May 3rd 2008, is my son. So the baby-mom asked if I could watch him for the day while she did some things, fine. Well, fast forward to about 4PM today when I tried to call her and found that her cell phone was now disconnected. Her MSN was now deleted and she had left her apartment.
As of 6 PM today, I became a single father. Tomorrow I'm going to the courthouse to explain the situation and see where I have to go from there. Hopefully this week I can get David's last name changed to my own and I can have full custody of my son. I'm also talking to the landlord in the apartment complex to see about getting the 2 bedroom that's open on the floor I'm on now.
Right now, he's sleeping in his new crib in his new Lightening McQueen PJ's. I'm still partially in shock, I don't think the news has sunk in yet that yes, I am a father. Right now though, I doubt my feelings are going to change about my son's mom. I hope I never see her again. And if my son ever asks where she is, I'm telling him the truth.
Comment with tips on raising a 14/15 month old?